Posthumous birthdays - do you celebrate the birthdays of deceased loved ones?

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I usually don't do it, but since my grandfather's 90th birthday is coming up - he departed suddenly in 2015 at age 84 - I'm thinking of organizing an event both for us as a family and for our company which he founded and our town for which he served as mayor. The current mayor already agreed so now it's about to fix the details.
What about you? This also goes for all the widows and widowers, naturally.

razelove · Accepted Answer

Not typically. I will if a friend or family member who is still alive does though, they shouldn't be alone for that. Also they tend to do so only for a couple years and then do so irregularly after, so it's a temporary practice unless it's a kid or something, and that's too depressing and personal for me to get involved with in the first place.

The memories of when a person was alive are enough for me, and when I meet up with people who also remember them, we get drunk, and talk about some of the times I may have forgotten, or not known about. In that way I can see something like what you're talking about being viable, celebrating someone who was a pillar of the community.

Iloveclitoris · Accepted Answer

В Российской Православной культуре есть дни "Поминовения". В Религиозный праздник и День рождения умерших близких мы "поминаем" их. Вспоминаем как хорошо было с ними, их добрые дела, лица, улыбки. Просим Бога не забывать их и нас.
In Russian Orthodox culture, there are days of "Commemoration". On a religious holiday and the Birthday of deceased loved ones, we "remember" them. We remember how good it was with them, their good deeds, faces, smiles. We ask God not to forget them and us.

Jazquee · Accepted Answer

I have lost both my parents 2003 and 2012. And every year since the kids and I make a cake and send a helium balloon up into the sky for them. With a small rose tied to it (my mom was the rose queen)
So yes I think it's nice to still show them you remember.

Poppykate · Accepted Answer

I like to go to my mum’s fav restaurant on her birthday and have lunch. It’s nice to take some time out and remember those that have passed.

Maniwishiwashome · Answer

My father died recently it’ll be the first time I experience his first birthday without him, his birthday on the Fourth of July so I can really get around not celebrating his birthday but even if his his birthday wasn’t ona National holiday I would celebrate in remembrance of my dad.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I don't celebrate them but I try to remember them (family, not so much celebrities. John Lennon might be the only exception because it shocked the world and pretty much everyone knows the date! Just like with Kennedy. Who remembers when George Harrison died? I just know it was within the past 25 years.)

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

My father was semi-famous and his family and friends still celebrate his bday in his memory

Anonymous · Answer

In your case, I might set something up for the 100 years but not 90. Me personally, no, nothing more than note that it would have been their birthday.

karaspara · Answer

I always remeber my grandparents on their birthdays and death anniversaries

Lliam · Answer

I don't. No. I barely remember anyone's birthday. But it's nice of you to think of organizing something special to honor your grandfather. Keep his memory alive.

CrypticViper · Answer

I don't but my fiance celebrates her daughter's angelversery/birthday

Rennitenn · Answer

Why would you? Its for the living.  But.. If it helps you and its not harming anyone, why not?

exitseven · Answer

I remember my parents and the good friends that have died almost every day. I don;tneed to celebrate their birthdays.

TimlovesKristine · Answer

I don’t celebrate them but I do think of them throughout that day and quietly wish them a happy birthday and wish I could see them. My Grandma has been gone 30 years and I still miss her. Typing this brought tears to my eyes ñ. Her bday is Feb 5th ❤️

hearvoices · Answer

Just my grandfather's. I don't really celebrate it, but I always think about him more on that day. He would be 100 now if he was still alive.

ThePolishKnight37 · Answer

I do not celebrate them but I do tell them Happy Birthday.

Andres77 · Answer

For my father. He gets a moment of silence and a brief spoken message of appreciation.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I think the only people who would do that are people who can't accept what happened.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. I celebrate their memories during Samhain

Adam1978 · Answer

No they are dead so no more birthdays for them.

douride2 · Answer

Personally I don't see the point in it.

hahahmm · Answer

No. But I always remember the day in my mind.

DescendantofLilith · Answer

No, that's silly when you believe in rebirth

Marhaban-1 · Answer

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