Once you love someone obviously none of these were an issue with regard to falling in love.
But that's obvious.
The real point is that some of these characteristics might prevent you from loving someone in the first place. You may find some of them to be unattractive to you or deal breakers and therefore not be able to love someone because of them.
The other question you may be asking is, once you love someone, would any of these characteristics stop you from being in a relationship with them even if you love them.
The answer for me is yes. Some of these things would prevent me from being in a relationship with someone even if I loved them.
"The other question you may be asking is, once you love someone, would any of these characteristics stop you from being in a relationship with them even if you love them." - Yes, that's exactly what I was looking for with this question. I just didn't ask that way because I thought I wouldn't get any answers.
It's okay, I understood. It was a good topic.
Just gave it a like. 😊
@menina To me, only age would matter. Because I am looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with. I can't grow old with someone who is already old. Everything else, I can try to make exceptions on. I strongly believe that if you love the person enough, you will do absolutely anything to be with them.
All of those are results of habits.
Not many people like to think about it - none of it is genetic. Skin colour - how much time you spend frying in the sun/under UV. Eye colour - also (that is especially hard for people to fathom - but try not starring at le soleil/the sun for a few months and your eyes will go a shade or two brighter, all the way to perfectly transparent which we call blue but in fact they just reflect the surrounding colours/diffused light).
Hair colour - coffe, tobacco, generally black painted foods - make it black. Drink tea and beer and you will be blonde.
Even bone shape is the product of how you sleep (oval face by sleeping on the side, round by sleeping on your back).
Nose size - the function of physical exercise requiring heavy breathing.
You change your habits, those things (slowly) change. Michael Jackson was an idiot who got operated on to achieve that (or maybe didn't - maybe he just put it to practice, declared himself dead, and went on to live like a white retiree because he avoided the sunlight for 40 years and got super pale).
(A uni doing a study on this would be good - but they hate groundbreaking stuff because it micht change global politics, so we might have to wait for some genius to prove it (it kind of invalidates Hitler and the English perception of Darwin so it's a minefield for the vested interests))
So most black people have big noses because they all exercise a lot?
And "generally black painted foods - make it black. Drink tea and beer and you will be blonde." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
And "Even bone shape is the product of how you sleep (oval face by sleeping on the side, round by sleeping on your back)." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Do you have any evidence at all that supports this? This is absurd fantasy biology! Absolutely no basis whatsoever to believe any of this.
What this sounds like is a twisted attempt to contort your thinking to comport with the fake woke propaganda that tries to force you to believe that people of any race or ancestral origin must be exactly the same or else you are a racist. It is PATENTLY ABSURD!
There are extensive physical differences between races that are absolutely the product of their genetic ancestry and have nothing to do with they way they breathe, sleep or eat.
You are spouting ridiculous pseudo-science apparently because you have been intimidated into buying into this woke Marxist Democrat political BS. It would be hysterical if it wasn't so scary!
@RingOfFire I think he's trolling. This can't be serious! There is no scientific evidence behind his claims.
He's either a psycho or just trying to be silly. Everything in the comment is fantasy.
I believe that if you love someone, you love that someone, end of story.
Now, it's also true that you are more likely to love someone who is more closely related to you, imagine a vegan married to a barbecue chef, that's a bit stressing don't you think? At the flip side, we also are more likely to love someone just a bit different, in order to challenge our beliefs and grow as a person, otherwise the life would just "be the same".
So, when you love someone, other things don't matter, the point is that some people are so different from you that they never had a chance to be loved by you one way or the other.
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u It takes much more than love to make a relationship work.
It is naive to believe that some of those things wouldn't matter. For example, if a 30 year old guy wanted kids of his own, marrying a 42-year-old woman - no matter how much he loves her - is going to lead to major conflict. Two devout people of different religions will have major conflict. Two people with very different morals and values will have conflict. Two people with very different financial practices will have conflict.
"Love conquers all" is a Disney fairytale, not reality. It's also why the divorce rate was so high, and why many people are avoiding marriage altogether today (because most people they meet have those naive ideas about love and relationships).
Love is a good thing, and it helps a GOOD relationship be stronger, but it cannot make a bad one good.
I'm wondering what would make you love someone you didn't have anything in common with.
Race and nationality are irrelevant to me. Not a problem.
Religion could definitely be a problem.
Cultural differences could present problems.
Age doesn't necessarily present a problem, although I am a guy and prefer women of my own age or younger because women's bodies inevitably change more than guy's with age.
Wide age differences can present problems, though, such as cultural (generational) differences or differences in intellectual or emotional maturity.
Disagree they will always matter they play a big rile nowaday. And to say they wouldn't matter is pretty naive, most people choose who they wanna date based if initial attraction. If u look a certain way that can effect your decision consciously or subconsciously doesn't matter. From there religion can be a big impact if you both have religion that conflict with each other you can work it out or maybe not. Or maybe you don't have one at all and don't believe in that kinda stuff which is a whole other can of worms. There's just to much at play to just say love conquers all cause it's kit true to an extent.
Do YOU live in a vacuum?
Are you prepared to subject your SO to the prejudices and shoddy treatment of those of your friends and family?
Are you prepared to sever those ties?
and what happens if THAT relationship runs its arc?
What of all those bridges you've burnt?
"BEEN THERE; DONE THAT"... MUCH less needless 'drama' now~
NO going back to their judgements.
I don't presume to know my family's and acquaintances prejudices SO well as to risk needlessly hurting my SO's assessment, behind her and my backs~ I can ONLY do such as I can, to spare her the senseless indignities~
Depends. Race and ethnicity is always going to be a difference. But it doesn’t need to be THE difference.
Really depends on compatibility, chemistry and love. You can transcend that racial differences. In fact there are some differences I prefer (I tend to like Asian women)
Yes twice
If you two were the only people in the world I would say no but the world is full of people that will disprove. Mostly family members will object. Parents will make it difficult and others will disapprove. I'm not saying it cannot be done but it does become an issue unfortunately.
It will ALWAYS matter. Especially for the woman as they are more socially oriented that men. So unless she plans on abandoning her entire social circle, she'll rather find someone they accept than to fight the uphill battle of forcing her group to accept the man. Simple politics can destroy relationships of all kinds, so just imagine things more significant as Race and Religion or even culture. People want to be around other people they can IMMEDIATELY relate to. It doesn't come natural to have tolerance to give people a chance to grow on u. That has to be a conscious decision.
Firstly, age matters, dating a minor is illegal and gross.
For the rest of the stuff it depends, if religion, for example, is a big part of their lives, that person will be incompatible with me since I'm an atheist.
Race and nationality are generally things that don't matter.
But lifestyle choices, beliefs and goals can cause incompatibility and due to that, sometimes things won't work out.
Yep.
Otherwise still in certain cases, there situations where the age does matter. Either cause the age is so big that they have very little in common. Or sometimes there's the creepy part of some older people grooming kids and then dating them once they're adults.
Other than that, it's totally fine.
for me, religion and age matters. i would never date a guy who's super religious because im not a believer. Super religious people like my mom just drive me crazy with all the: Our religion is important and stuff. Age matters too. I'd date a guy who's close to my age. Race and religion doesn't matter as long as im attracted to him
by the way, I didn’t mean to offend anyone who’s religious, I was just talking about my mom
To ask this question i think you have no idea what true love really is. It blows my mind that people are thinking they "fell in love" with some of these terrible people out there. Smh. But seriously, whats love got to do with it? People today are so stupid, love is not enough. If you don't share the same values and have someone you truly are a great match with, love is irrelevant, ditch their ass.
I don’t believe in love at first sight… love is built up upon knowing someone for years… so while you love them despite their faults you get to know them first and these traits can effect if you’ll love them before you do.
Agree to most, so long as you are both open minded people and accept potentially having different opinions on things. The thing that stands out to me is age.
Even sizeable age gaps are fine in my opinion, you can do what you want so long as your old enough to choose, but if were talking someone in their late teens with a pensioner that rubs me the wrong way a little. Still, it's your life.
I somewhat agree, with a caveat: having different religions only works if your core values are still almost entirely the same. Age differences may seem trivial to the idealistic, but the reality is two adults at different stages of life will have very different opinions on what to do, going forward.
I’d be lying if i said it didn't. I’d like to say race doesn't matter but the longer you date someone, you’ll notice if cultural differences and stereotyping occur. So it matters at times. As for religion, i tried to love atheists but in the long run, i need a man of God. As for age, i tried to ignore it but it makes me unhappy. I prefer someone extremely close in age. As for nationality, i’ve dated all over the world but i honestly just want someone already in america. So it all matters to me
These things can matter when leading up to loving someone
1. I agree unconditionally. Race does not matter to me.
2. As long as their religion does not hurt anyone, then I am fine with whatever their beliefs are.
3. This does matter to me. I am willing to make exceptions, but not by much. This is just a personal thing, I would be fine with other people dating with large age gaps as long as they are both emotionally/mentally well and consenting adults.
4. Nationality does not matter.
Race and religion doesn’t personally matter to me, age does because I don’t want someone underage or too old, and nationality would matter in terms of legality and long distance etc. Plus, I’m sure people in my family will find grounds for disapproval in race and religion
Age is a tricky one for me, but the other stuff I agree with the statement.
I love someone who is a Muslim, while I myself am an atheist. I have no problem with the idea of loving him, but his belief holds him back 🤷
I personally do not give one single care about such things, but I am understanding of/empathetic to there being deep rooted "cultural" (for lack of a better term) tensions. I'd still try to make it work, and for the record I am not siding with this, but I do understand that very human reaction. For context, straight, white, cis male. I personally wish for all love to work out.
unfortunately I am not looking like anyone in my race. People think I am from South America or Native American. I was discriminated so much while I was in school. I developed feeling that I want to be completely free. but I think I have that envy about whiter skin. However I don't like the way Asians look. I am attracted by white man. I don't know if I can have a relationship with someone who isn't attractive psychically.
I don't think any of that would be able to shake the love that you share, but I do think that some of those things can make life much more difficult due to family and society.
They may make things more difficult, but that is up to you to decide. The heart wants what the heart wants.
The thing is, no matter what choices you make in life, there will be someone out there that isn't not happy with it. You can't go through life trying to please everyone else because it's just not possible and you'll probably end up miserable and when it comes time to die, regret that you never lived how you wanted. It's your life. Nobody else's. Live your life the way you want to because you only get this one shot at it. To hell with what everyone else things. If anyone scorns you for any of the listed reasons, they they are just a shallow, narrow-minded person who'd opinion I wouldn't listen to anyway. Yes, some of those things might make things more difficult for you, but it's OK to have differences of opinion on things like religion. You don't have to convince the other person you are right, you just need to respect the fact that they believe what is right for them and that is OK. They should do the same for you.
Well, if not you, then who is going to make your life the way you want it?
Don't feel guilty for wanting and doing what you want, as long as you are not negatively impacting others then what difference does it make?
false. age and regligion matter. if there's an age gap big enough, you won't be able to relate, making it impossible to long term have a good relationship.
and do i really need to mntion that religion has some quite strict followers that will not marry outside their relgigion no matter what?
In order to love someone you have know and want what's best for that individual person. Which means you have to take everything into consideration. Including their race, religion, age, nationality, height, looks, interests, and everything. And yes, it is okay if one of those is a deal breaker
I don't think any of these things really matter, but you must have something in common, otherwise what are you gonna talk about, when you're together?
Lust fades really fast, so a relationship based on that isn't going to last in the long run
I think it's a bit silly to ask if those things don't matter. If they mattered you wouldn't be loving them in the first place.
I love my Ferrari, it doesn't matter that it's expensive, or fast, or sounds good, or gets attention. I just love it because.
Maybe just age like maybe like it cannot go above like 8 years would be a problem but the rest I'm ok with. Like I do not fucking care about your religion (unless you are trying to make converse into a belief then it's another conversation), race, and nationality. But the rest I'm ok with it.
If you are not same religion or politics , the relationship will not work today. A believer must marry another believer or it will be hell on earth. He won't like you giving a tithe. He will not like you going to church.
If he is political , then you will have to
I wouldn't never marry a Catholic as their beliefs do not match with the bible Catholic people are nuts. This one woman was a stripper yet she participate in church activities. I left catholicism once I turn 18 they believe they can commit all the sins and still go to polgatory to heaven. I search it up in the bible thier is no pulgatory there are two place heaven or hell. Sorry if I said to much.
@Alwayreckles93 Right , when Jesus died he abolished that. Yes Catholics believe if they pay enough money, they can get someone out of Hell and into Heaven.
You are correct it is crazy, Jesus did not allowed the church to become a shopping center Catholicism have misguidance I search it up in the bible and I can't find nothing. They also believe babies need to be baptized or they won't enter heaven which crazy because Jesus got baptized when he was grown up. Their have been nuns that had got pregnant by priests they went of to get an abortion. Crazy things that don't make sense. I left the church years ago. I have been shame by my own family for living the Catholic church.
C. Agree with an asterisk. If there is a prominent Islamic presence locally, I am out. I do not think I even have to explain why.
None of those matter to me anyway I don't know how anyone could get hung up on any of those except religion cuz religious people are crazy about what they believe in and literally kill each other over it
The only thing might be a problem for me is religion but most of the time when I see someone I like as long as they have a great personality none of these things really matter.🙂
Thank you🙂
Anyone can fall in love, it’s more about finding a partner that shares values, goals and can help you become the best version of yourself while making it work together.
Agree.
I also think if you aren't mentally disturbed things like that don't really matter
I would never marry a Catholic that's for sure, These people think they can drink alcohol , Commit adultery and still go to heaven crazy. I met this one female I can't even called her a woman was a stripper and still attend church activities I left after that.
Loving someone sometimes means sacrificing yourself, it should not mean suppressing or denying yourself.
You still have to be who you are.
the guy in the pic is cute and yeah it doesn't matter
All except religion and possibly race I guess. Only in the sense that certain cultural beliefs and differences may prevent you two being compatible in the first place or long run too different
I don’t think that I could fall in love with them in the first place if we didn’t have the same morals or religious views. But race nationality and the others aren’t a big deal to me so
Nationality does sometimes matter. Because you have to beware of people from certain countries if their country is not on good terms with yours.
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Disagree. Race, age and especially religion matters to me.
Age does matter but only if one of the people is a minor. For the rest, it really depends on a lot of things.
Age is important. I can't be in a relationship with someone my father's age. Others don't matter to me if there is respect.
It wouldn't matter to me, but what are the tings that matter to you? How can you love someone if those things matter to you?
Yes but I think religion does matter. For all the religious people out there you know how much tension being with someone of a different religion can be.
They will always matter. Don't matter if you love them or not. If you don't agree with the way your partner is eventaully you will get annoyed.
The outward apperence of the partner doesn't matter
It really depends I guess on how different your cultures are
Yeah unfortunately
if you love them those things might contribute to you loving them
because thats part of who they are. some would say it's fundamental
for example someone who is actually a muslim and not just acting like one will have a lot of opinions u might not like
So being muslim is going to matter
I dont understand how u think those 4 fundamental characteristics doesn't influence ur opinion of them
This is probably a case of u having a opinion directly opposite of how u naturally feel. people do this all the time, so, i trust u actually believe their race and religion matters a lot.
Cause most guys i know dont give a fuck if a girl is Muslim (for example), When she's beautiful and sweet but. Females simply do care
women care a lot more about a guys race, religion, job, etc than guys care about that bullshit. For example 1 girl tried to impress me by acting christian
She was projecting onto me how much she cares about that stuff
Because black women have a different kind of beauty that back men love they take all the beautiful black women away from us
there's more better looking black men thats all it is
The reason is what then
Another word for discrimination is selection. Woman is called the selectors
I think certain things can matter to an extent, but not much.
Age always matters, unless you're a gold digger or a pedophile (or both). Race and nationality matter to racists and nazis. And religion matters to the worse scum of the earth.
I think having similat beliefs, an intellectual, emotional, and physical connection are more important than a specific age, ethnicity, religeon, or nationality.
That said, all of those things can influemce you belief system.
Race don't matter regardless. If u are attracted to someone outside of ur race is totally fine. U do u, no one else can tell u what to do. Ur choice. Love is LOVE. There's no race nor religion in LOVE.
You can love them, but you won't necessarily be able to build a future with them.
Most of the time, yes (assuming she's an adult). Religion is the one most likely to be a problem.
There is no way I'd be attracted to someone that different.
Needs to be very similar to me.
Well I don’t know about religion because I’m really not religious and I don’t want to be dragged to church all the time or praying all the time
Don't be naïve.
You LOVE the person and what they are, it's not a pic 'n' mix.
Love, do not care for territorial boundries,
Love do not care for Colour and Race,
LOVE DO NOT CARE FOR RELIGION AND FAITH
It depends on what you value the most, and there's no wrong answers
I don't date religious believers.
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