I cheated on my boyfriend and I can’t ever tell him. Is this okay if it was only one time? (Page 2)

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It was only one time and a horrible accident. I regret is so much. My boyfriend is so sweet, handsome and kind. He didn’t deserve it and I feel so bad sometimes. He has the most gorgeous green eyes and I tell him all the time that I wouldn’t ever make them cry or do anything to hurt him. It would be backstabbing and hypocritical of me to tell him the truth of what I did. I can’t tell him. It was just once and a mistake that won’t ever happen again. He is so sweet and caring of me. I can’t lose him.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Did the other guy accidentaly fall in you?

You know what you did. Now face the music and tell him and end the relationship.

If he forgives you he will take you back, of not, your own damn fault.

If you can't tell him face to face, then first leave and then write him a letter or something.

NightHawk99 · Answer

Accidentally voted no.

You screwed up badly. Best thing to do is clean your conscience. Hug him tightly and give him your most sincere apologies first. Then explain everything straightforward, the truth, whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Admit you did wrong and feel terrible for it. Let him react how he decides to react. All that matters is the lesson is learned and your conscience is clean.

postaldudePL123 · Answer

Don't tell him, honesty not always pays off.

If You realised it was wrong and you won't repeat it again then no need to tell him about it bc he won't be pleased to hear that.

Just settle your account with whom you cheated on him.
No need to tell him. If you tell him it will only create drama. Just make sure you won't do it again. You'll be fine and he'll be fine too. But if you really want to change your partner and break up with him then you must tell him. But if you want to stay with him then it'll be wise not to tell him.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

The thing is you are dishonest and a cheater, does he deserve that? So many women complain about men cheating but you are proof that women do it all the time too. How would you feel if he did that to you? Would you want him to keep quiet or tell you about it?

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Cheating is NEVER okay and you know that otherwise you wouldn't be asking this question.

invalid1 · Answer

I don't know what to say. You seem to love him, and he seems like a good guy.
If you think he will abandon you then don't tell him... Then if he discovers it by himself.. Say I was going to tell you, but I just love you and don't want to lose you over a mistake that I would never repeat.

Shanaya_S · Answer

You're gonna have to tell him. He doesn't deserve you no matter how sweet you seem. Cheating is a very disrespectful and cheap thing to do.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

You have to tell him it’s not fair on him otherwise. If you don’t want to hurt him you should’ve thought about it before you cheated

Anonymous · Answer

@Browneye57 This guy is correct, we can and do fuck around all the time and our boyfriends don't ever know about it. Because we're young and pretty and fun and as soon as you get us you turn into jealous controlling monsters. Let us have our freedom and we will love you forever, but try to own us and we'll to everything we can to rebel. And the best way to do that is to let another guy fuck us.

Anonymous · Answer

It wouldn’t be backstabbing to tell him, it would be backstabbing not to tell him

It’s backstabbing to cheat. You stabbed him in the back. Get over yourself and admit what you’ve done before this situation turns even worse than it already is. Keeping someone under a lie like this is equivalent to cursing them. It’s cruel.

Becky316 · Answer

I honestly think you should NOT tell him. By telling him, it might hurt you BUT it WILL hurt him! Keep him from THAT pain, you cheated and you deserve it. He didn't and doesn't deserve to have that pain put on him. You should have to carry it, don't make him miserable too.

es20490446e · Answer

If I was in that situation I would tell my partner, even if they decided to leave me afterwards.

I won't say it was an accident, but that I owned it fully and that from now on I will do quite different.

I would be specific about how it would be different, about the actions I would take.

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

It was an accident? What happened did you slip on a banana peel and fall on some guys dick?

Bee-Hatch · Answer

You cheated and it was a "horrible accident" what did you do? trip on the carpet and land on a dick?

Den1971 · Answer

It's never okay how would you fucking feel if he did it to you 😡😡😡

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Get married and have kids and in 5 years when he bumps into the guy and he spills the beans he will divorce you and leave you a single mom of 3 kids or feel trapped and stay and be an abusive husband quit his job drink a lot and punch you in the face once in awhile. And women always claim they did nothing wrong for the man to leave them high and dry or to become abusive. Yeah surrrreeee.

newfreshstart · Answer

it was no accident. you just did not fall & land on another guys cock

Anonymous · Answer

If you are genuinely, genuinely remorseful and will GENUINELY never do it again, don't burden him with it.

If you did it because you actually have feelings for someone else/lost feelings for your current partner momentarily, definitely tell him.

EmmaMary · Answer

Well it's you who has to live with your conscience, just remember that one day your sins may just find you out.

SomeTrashBag · Answer

You need to tell him, but you've already shown in other responses that you're perfectly happy to justify this away. You obviously only care about yourself and what this man can give you. Just know you're going to have to live with the shitty thing you did for the rest of your life. I hope he finds out before committing to a dirty ass liar.

Guanfei · Answer

No. No it's not ok. At all. And you even asking that is really incredible.
If you have at least an ounce of respect for it, which I find hard to believe, you need not only to tell him, but also breakup and disappear from his life.
Give him a chance to be with someone who will be loyal and respect him.
You had your chance, you've fucked up, face the consequences.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It's not okay. You need to tell him and face the consequences. He's probably going to break up with you, but that's what you deserve. You CHOSE to have sex with that other guy. It's your fault. So whatever happens because of that is on you.

certifiedalphafemale · Answer

You should just breakup with him rather than cheating. Tell him why you want to end your relationship. I know that feeling, but there’s no point of a relationship when he can’t trust you, that will depend on him if he will forgive you, but for now be honest about what you did and your reason. Talking is important in the relationship so make use of your connection with him. But only him can decide if he wants to give you a second chance.

I wish you all the best!

DWornock · Answer

Telling him may make you feel better but it is not beneficial to your relationship and most likely he would be harmed by the knowledge. In any event, it is normal for women to find a dependable and good provider and then when ovulation to have sneaky sex with a superior man.

JSmuve · Answer

LOL hoooooooooooooooooClearly your good, little "would-make-a-great-husband-someday" boyfriend didn't provide your life with enough excitement so you had to get another guy to "fill" that need. Classic.

Notfabricated · Answer

I did once and told her and felt horrible and haven't done it since. She still wanted to stay with me but I couldn't forgive myself. You live and learn. But if he finds out from someone else other then you then it may turn into something that could be prevented.

JosyJosy · Answer

You have to tell him. It's NEVER okay so you HAVE TO tell him, if you love him, if you RESPECT HIM, you must tell him.

Not_Average · Answer

You fucked everything up even if you keep it from him. That guilt associated will destroy the relationship. There are consequences to these things. Stop being a slut

weeee · Answer

Would you be fine if he cheated on you, even if just once, and didn't tell you about it ever?

Anonymous · Answer

How old are you both? If you are like 18 and he is like 30-60. I would not feel sorry for him since he dates you for shallow reasons such as youth, beauty etc. So wtf did he except. Young people tend to be very immature since their brain development ain't finished and it was kinda disgusting to date someone who could be your kid. But if he is not an old bastard, then you dont deserve him and he deserves better. Go tell him and break up for good

LordSaddler · Answer

You need to do some sacrifices for your boyfriend. Let's start from this point, you need to convince your boyfriend to fuck another woman in front of you.

Do you really love him? So you have no reason not to do it. Bring him another pussy, you can be in the corner and watch them have sex, you can touch yourself, you can clean his cum inside the other girl. Let's make things even.

But I suspect you hate your boyfriend and would reject this amazing idea.

the_kisses_of_sun · Answer

It's not fair to less this pass as if nothing happened. You'll forget the guilt and cheat on him again after a while. You definetively gotta tell him and not ever go back with him.

Gramkabir · Answer

I've seen all the comments here... but what if you're boyfriend did the same and what would be people's reaction? Think about that. We all deserve one chance... so do you.
There's lots of thing in relationships that we couldn't share.
if it's one time and you regret it and you think you can hide it from your boyfriend... then go for it.
but make sure you hide it properly otherwise it would be a disaster.
Best of luck.

VanillaSalt · Answer

You deserve to suffer for what you did. I wish you the worst. Bye

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

He deserves to know and let him decide what he does next. Ask yourself "Why are you with someone if you're going to cheat on them." One time can lead to another, take responsibility for your actions.

Anonymous · Answer

Only a worthless piece of garbage human cheats. You need to tell him, and let him break up with you.. so he can find someone who is actually worthy of him. Someone who won't cheat on him. Not a lying dishonest worthless human person such as your self.

"It would be backstabbing and hypocritical of me to tell him the truth of what I did." It would be even worse if you did not tell him. Grow up and learn to keep your legs closed.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly I don’t think you have to tell him. Of your really broken up about it and if it will crush him then I don’t think you have to say anything. Tbh you don’t always have to tell your SO everything. Later down the line you can tell him just to clear your conscience but it sounds like you’re devoted to him

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

What would you do if he found out about it directly from the other guy or because of what the other guy says to you? Are you going to lie to your boyfriend to try and cover it up or tell him the truth?

EaterPeter · Answer

People are likely to cheat again. Think of it as an ice breaker. You have broken the ice by cheating once. People can change and it's long long process. Sharing with someone is bad and good. Sharing have it's advantages and disadvantages.

Juxtapose · Answer

"It was a mistake." My reaction..

Barry88 · Answer

If it won't happen again, don't tell. It will only make him sad and likely end your relationship. Sometimes it's good not to know everything, because knowing everything doesn't always make things better.

SheriffBob · Answer

I already know what you will choose
I won't try to change it, don't worry

At least do not comfort yourself because there are people who hear the answer to this question and think like me

always regret in the future
and try to be worthy for him

nella965 · Answer

90% of the time cheating occurs in unfulfilling relationships. So if you cheated on him, there is a likely chance that he is not the one that fulfills you to the fullest. Yes, you might still "like" him but you're not crazy for him.

admles · Answer

“Accident”.

it was a decision, a conscious choice. Tell him so he can decide if he wants to be with someone like you, because if you don’t, when he eventually finds out, it’ll be worse because you hid it from him.

exitseven · Answer

Tell him and get it over with. He will find out anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not going to say you need to tell him or shame you for being a cheater, but I do want to take this opportunity to point out the fallacy of the common stereotype about men being the cheaters. The facts show that at your age, women actually cheat more than men.

Sweetener_ · Answer

You're just infatuated with your boyfriend, I don't think you love him. Nevertheless, he has to know the truth. There's nothing hidden that will not come to light.

roy_ricky09 · Answer

I'm sure you'd have felt devastated if he cheated. It's his right to know the truth if you want this relationship to grow.

CreamySeed · Answer

If he cheated would you want to know? Better to give the bad news now instead of weighing on your conscience for life

Aether1 · Answer

I'd much rather that she come clean with me about it and say that she's sorry, then I'd be much more willing to give her the benefit of the doubt.

GenaBaby1995 · Answer

Telling him is just to make you feel better, sorry you have to live with it.

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

Tell him. You've already betrayed him once, not about to do it again by lying to him, right?

Jenny4455 · Answer

If you have any respect for him you will be honest with him

Lucifer_01 · Answer

Ofc go on... IT'S NEVER LATE. If he understood then you got him. But if he didn't-. Fu*k this thought i know he'll understand. You can do this girl. I know.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do stupid females and men come to this site to ask for forgiveness. Like the audacity. Like imagine asking for a 2nd chance after backstabbing someone. Cheaters are of no worth. Furthermore, they have no place on this earth.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

It doesn't matter if it was only once, he needs to know.

JuliaStyles · Answer

You should have thought of that before you cheated. But for some reason I'm thinking you made this up for the sake of hearing people chew you out.

Skyros · Answer

It’s going to eat at you no matter what you do, that’s just what guilt does. At least if you tell him, it may not be as bad. Also, you don’t want him to find out about it some other way.

Birdlegs · Answer

He deserves better you should tell him there’s no reason why you should get a pass

RHK36 · Answer

You don't love him otherwise you wouldn't have done what you did, even more so if you continue your dishonesty by hiding it.

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