Girls, Ladies, was this overkill?

[ClaraBurton97]

I unintentionally became someones mistress. He had a wife he never told me about and I found out the better part of a year into the relationship. Honestly in hindsight I'm impressed he managed to keep it going that long, but obviously I was hurt by it.

He told me himself, as he and his wife were going to get a divorce so I suppose he wanted to exchange me in as the newer model and I guess he expected me to be okay with that? Happy about it even?

I kicked him in the balls real hard once he finished talking. Turns out his wife had done the same after he broke up with her not long before so I don't imagine that was fun for him, which is what this question is about. Apparently he's been having some... complications down there since, which was neither of our intentions but I can't say I'm that upset.

Basically my question is was it too far? It was far more of a betrayal for his wife than me, and it wasn't my intention to do any damage but at the same time he deserves it.

He deserved it

He didn't deserve it

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Violence isn't the answer...
Would it be okay for a guy to physically assault a woman for cheating or lying? No... So it's just as wrong for a woman to physically assault a guy for that..
While I understand being hurt, angry, feeling betrayed, it still doesn't justify the level you took it to... He could legally press charges for assault if he chose to... Never let someone have that much control over you that you resort to doing things that aren't right... It can be hard but doing the right thing, even to those that wronged us makes us the bigger/better person

[proNutro]

Nah don’t resort to violence.
Yeah what he did is shit but that’s also quite messed up.. I mean imagine a woman cheated and then a man kicked her real hard in her private parts… not cool and I don’t support that kind of stuff. Yeah what he did was really shit but nah you don’t do that.
Two wrongs don’t make a right.

[ClaraBurton97]

Alternatively, fight fire with fire

[proNutro]

Ehhh yeah no. So someone does something shitty and you decide to turn violent? I don't know to me it sounds like some people can’t control themselves.

[Cassie_94]

So for a year he led you on and was cheating on his wife 🤷🏼‍♀️ he deserved both of those kicks - well done 👏 I would have done the same.

[ClaraBurton97]

Glad to hear it! How do you feel about the supposed damage though? That's the main sticking point for me, I stand by the kicks but I'm unsure on the outcome

[Cassie_94]

I wouldn’t care 🤷🏼‍♀️ maybe you didn’t intend to cause any permanent damage, but he deserved those kicks so he has to deal with the consequences. Try not to feel guilty - like I say, I would have done exactly the same.

[ClaraBurton97]

That's true

[Ericalovescats]

Morally yes, legally no.

Did he cry or go down when you kicked him?

[ClaraBurton97]

He didn't cry but he did scrunch his face up and go down, yeah :)

[Ericalovescats]

I've got plenty of stories like that.

[Cherry234]

I think you went too far hitting him down there. I think slapping his face or stepping on his foot would have done less damage. What he did was awful but you shouldn't seriously physically harm someone because of it

[wakeupchy]

he is a scumbag, he got what he deserved. good, glad his wife kicked him there too! both you ladies deserve better!

[Carmellia79]

I’ve been here went and told her when he came home he saw me in bed with her. He’s was like what you doing? I was like oh it’s ok for you play around but we can’t?

[ClaraBurton97]

😂 That's brilliant haha

[Carmellia79]

Then brought my place we had fun.

[Carmellia79]

And I got her off.

[cleareyes]

Don’t think you should have gone that far but the more you love someone they more you can hate them

[JosyJosy]

Not worth it, but I say he deserved it just because he fell for it a second time.

[loves2learn]

I mean. He kinda did deserve it. But I am a violence is never the answer kinda person.

[ClaraBurton97]

I am too for the most part, but I do think there's nuance to it. He cheated on his wife and left her pretty much just because he was 'bored of her', and led me along for almost a year as a sorta backup girl.

He even already has kids, so it's not like he's had that taken from him. I don't see how he would have changed his behaviour going forward if he were to just end up single and that's it

[loves2learn]

Being single is a shit place to be. And yes what he did was wrong. Hopefully his issues aren’t permanent.

[ClaraBurton97]

I suppose

[Anonymous]

Look, based on what you said, I think the guy is scum. BUT Inflicting physical pain is never okay. Theoretically, he could press charges for this.

[Sketti2021]

Sure ya did