It is a "social media" thing. And social media friends are not real friends. Social media is fake advertising and voyeurism. Voyeurism was never considered healthy or normal but it has been normalized by abnormally normal "social media". Social media is an abnormal dream world. Live in the real world. It has screwed up dating and courtship too.
I ghosted my friend and he was keep coming back so I went out with him and he ghosted me back. And there is other friend who ghosted me. He is gay and I am a trans. I think he doesn't like me because I don't dress up. I have to come out if I want to live in America I think.
It is easier than having a frank discussion about why you do not want to hang out with them anymore. It takes no courage or social tact. You just block their e-mails and texts and poof, they are gone.
I would like to think of it that they got busy or something. I meant it happens to all of us at some stage in life so it’s good to give them the benefit of the doubt.
I meant If it reached a point beyond giving them the benefit of the doubt. If it was a pattern and became the norm, I don’t think it’s about being busy.
Alright. I’ve been ghosted JUST because I don’t agree with someone else’s politics. When I say I don’t agree I don’t mean I hate them and get all angry. But if I get out on the spot I’ll hold my ground.
In theory yes. But I’m old enough to remember when things were NOT like our current political climate at all.
As a bachelor I now have women bringing up politics within 5 minutes of a first date (I never bring up politics early in dating) It’s a disgusting shit test.
I've done it.. its happened to me irl like the friend (s) seemed to just act like i didn't exist when i walked up to them one day. In the cases i can recall i will say i think me and the friends didn't have much in conmon anymore or never had enough.
They’re mostly for immature reasons like not wanting to confront someone for something important because they don’t want to face the consequences of their response. Mostly it’s the immaturity on the person who is doing the ghosting.
Never said it was too hard, and we never know what someone else is really going through maybe they're having a rough time just getting through the day so their friend texting "hey how's it going" sent them into a spiral because they are in fact not doing well at all 🤷♀️
What you’re saying is totally valid. I’m talking about the kind of friends who are constantly out and about. The reason why I asked this question is stupid so I won’t mention any boring details but thanks for answering.
Not really sure if you can determine someone ghosting you as immature, or to be a fake friend. If both sides are in a feud, then maybe leaving it alone, and moving on is the best option.
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It is a "social media" thing. And social media friends are not real friends. Social media is fake advertising and voyeurism. Voyeurism was never considered healthy or normal but it has been normalized by abnormally normal "social media". Social media is an abnormal dream world. Live in the real world. It has screwed up dating and courtship too.
I ghosted my friend and he was keep coming back so I went out with him and he ghosted me back. And there is other friend who ghosted me. He is gay and I am a trans. I think he doesn't like me because I don't dress up. I have to come out if I want to live in America I think.
In short, they're cowards. But in the long run, you're WAY better off without someone that can be that immature.
Truer words were never spoken
They got hit by a bus?
I always wondered what happened to Casper The Friendly Boy before he became Casper The Friendly Ghost...
It is easier than having a frank discussion about why you do not want to hang out with them anymore. It takes no courage or social tact. You just block their e-mails and texts and poof, they are gone.
I would like to think of it that they got busy or something. I meant it happens to all of us at some stage in life so it’s good to give them the benefit of the doubt.
I meant If it reached a point beyond giving them the benefit of the doubt. If it was a pattern and became the norm, I don’t think it’s about being busy.
I’m sorry that happened to you
They don't. An actual friend wouldn't do this. That's why real friends are rare.
I ghost friends that have very different views from me or are disrespectful
That’s not ghosting, that’s drawing boundaries
So what if they have very different views from you but ARE respectful? I got a feeling you are talking about political views.
No honey, I could care less about politics.
Alright. I’ve been ghosted JUST because I don’t agree with someone else’s politics. When I say I don’t agree I don’t mean I hate them and get all angry. But if I get out on the spot I’ll hold my ground.
That's better for you then. Some people really have a thing for politics and would go all out for it lol.
In theory yes. But I’m old enough to remember when things were NOT like our current political climate at all.
As a bachelor I now have women bringing up politics within 5 minutes of a first date (I never bring up politics early in dating) It’s a disgusting shit test.
I would not do that but maybe they just do not want to get in an argument about it so take the non-cofrietatinal way out and just not say anything.
Argument about what though? We didn’t have a fight or tension at all.
Ok I didn't know all the details. Maybe they thought it would be tension if he said he was cutting ties. I'm just guessing as an outsider.
The only real reason anyone ghosts is because they are too immature and too inconsiderate to have an adult conversation.
I've done it.. its happened to me irl like the friend (s) seemed to just act like i didn't exist when i walked up to them one day. In the cases i can recall i will say i think me and the friends didn't have much in conmon anymore or never had enough.
Like interest wise
I was really into my interests and they were my identity and life.
They’re mostly for immature reasons like not wanting to confront someone for something important because they don’t want to face the consequences of their response. Mostly it’s the immaturity on the person who is doing the ghosting.
There can be many reasons. Ultimately, it boils down to interest.
Usually people just get busy with their own lives and you can't prioritize all your friends so they just lose touch
A simple, “I’m doing alright, thanks for asking” is too hard to send?
Never said it was too hard, and we never know what someone else is really going through maybe they're having a rough time just getting through the day so their friend texting "hey how's it going" sent them into a spiral because they are in fact not doing well at all 🤷♀️
What you’re saying is totally valid. I’m talking about the kind of friends who are constantly out and about. The reason why I asked this question is stupid so I won’t mention any boring details but thanks for answering.
Some people simply don’t have anything to talk about anymore
Not really sure if you can determine someone ghosting you as immature, or to be a fake friend.
If both sides are in a feud, then maybe leaving it alone, and moving on is the best option.
Ghosting could be the easiest solution.
No feuds
Why do people stop talking to each other? Because they dont like to, or because they think it has become pointless.
i think they feel ignoring someone is better than being mean and rude. it sucks either way but i guess they just do not want to deal with the drama.
What drama? If you’re just checking up on them, how’s that drama?
Because they're not your friend duh. Never was
We actually grew up together. We were inseparable up until we both were 22 or something.
Just because you grew up together doesn't mean you two are friends.
They were never your friend nor seen you as one
True that unfortunately
was getting older
and needed to figure myself out
its not because I hate them