How does everyone feel about lap dances?

[Anonymous]

I'm disappointed and most comments RE: lap dances on old posts tend to be "get over it or stop being jealous. GIRLS! This is something you need to choose for yourself and not base your decisions or feelings on a poll. What you're comfortable within your relationship may be different than what others choose for themselves. YOU DON'T NEED TO GET OVER IT! Rather work though it together if this is a relationship you want to keep. To be VERY honest there are many different types of strip clubs and lap dances that varies. Some aren't as bad as you think. Some hole in the wall small town strip club is a bit better and would upset me less. Larger cities are a whole other issue. Having been to many (I'm ok going together) and find upscale clubs sometimes fun. I will tell you that a lap dance is meant to be very sexual and a good strippers intention is to give them basically full on dry humping and 1 out of 5ish usually have a FULL sexual reaction (INSERT THE WORST) and that's the goal. I know a few stirppers the ones that reach that full goal are VERY proud of themselves (It's their livelihood). I'm not ok with lap-dances and it has nothing to do with self-esteem or jealousy it's about having respect for myself and creating boundaries. I've dated men that didn't respect that boundary. No judgement to them but they weren't for me i moved on. If you've already talked about it that's a very different problem i've be more than pissed for that boundy not being respected.. Worth another chat or move on.

[ohshee]

I've been very lucky in my relationships because when I'm with the girls she knows that I'm with her no matter what.
I have taken a few of my ex-girlfriends to strip club because they wanted to experience it and the first thing I did is I would get them a lap dance and sometimes two of them like you said no matter what it is in life when you are with somebody. As long as they know in their heart that you are with them and only them that's what it's all about have that trust and respect and for me I hold my head up high because I make sure that the girl I'm with knows that I'm with her and only with her I can look at other girls and look over my girlfriend and she would just smile. And I would say hey check out her hair do you like that are check out these pants are those hot or what I'm not looking at her because I want to jump on your bones I'm looking at her because there's something about her that I curious about. Just like walking through a mall and they'll be guys heading for us and they'll be staring at my girlfriend and as they pass by they kind of just say something under their breath and I'll look at her and just smile and all she can do is smile because she knows that they were looking at her there's nothing wrong with that

[Miristheiss]

Sex workers disgusts me. They are trash whores.
I don't go to strip clubs to watch a bunch of whores try and get me to give them money.
I think taking off your clothes for the sexual entertainment of another that is NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND/WIFE/HUSBAND is the trashiest, sluttiest and makes them forever worthless in the dating department. They are undateable for life if they do that even one time for some pervert strangers.

Strippers are a no no. We don't do that sleazy, shady stuff. Male strippers are very hands on and grab the girls, put them on their lap, dry hump them through their clothes, encourage the girls to touch them, whip cream, oil... whatever.

My girl doesn't do that.
If she does we break up.

Strippers aren't a part of our life.

[ChooChooHaha]

Either we both can get one separately and go as far as we want with these women, OR, neither of us get one.

[Gagname]

Wow…so hot.

[ChooChooHaha]

@Gagname why?

[ChooChooHaha]

@Gagname seems fair to me.

[Gagname]

I wasn’t commenting about the “fairness,” I was expressing my reaction to you saying you’d be ok with AND EXPECT THAT your guy (and you) would f-ck strippers during lap dances.

[ChooChooHaha]

@Gagname i wouldn't be ok with it. But if it came down to it, and he was being petty, that'd be my stipulation.

[Gagname]

And what if he replied “Ok, yeah let’s do that”?

[ChooChooHaha]

@Gagname you already know the answer.

[Gagname]

You’d be a VERY fun girlfriend 😉

[ChooChooHaha]

But it's also torture to you too, no? Girl on girl, your girlfriend with another scantily clad woman behind closed doors, and you have no idea what's happening?

[ChooChooHaha]

Besides, I'm not dumb. You think I don't know you'd picture her instead of me for months when we had sex?

[Wise4myage]

Lap dances are hot, and especially if they are private.

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/I_uDcCZDrxg

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[Minimati]

Straight women going to strip clubs. Women are so gay

[Anonymous]

One from a girlfriend is fine

[exitseven]

I have never had one.

[Anonymous]

Waste of time and money

[Iron_Man]

I would love a lap dance from my girlfriend

[In_Trance]

Meh...