Housemate told me boy I made out with at uni party got back with his ex that lives in India? Really heartbroken?

[hotgirlsummer360]

I met a boy at a freshers party at uni and he is in my housemates post grad course which is a one year course and he's 24. I'm 22 and in 2nd year. That night we talked and we hit it off and we made out in his room. I also really like him too and I am madly in love with him. I felt a really deep connection with him and became really romantically attached. He also said he felt a connection and he said he loved what we had that night. After a week he told me he is not ready to be with anyone just yet so I hoped maybe give it some time and maybe it will work out with him. (he broke up with his ex before he came to Uk for post grad). He is an international student from India. Now my housemate told me he got back with his ex that lives in India. I'm really shattered right now and I feel so heartbroken because he was the first guy I was really in love with and felt a connection with. I feel like he is the perfect type of guy for me and that I can't find anyone like him. I just keep hoping whether their long distance relationship will workout because I really want to be with him. I'm not interested in anyone else. Would this long distance relationship with his ex work? Really need some advice.

[HellGeist]

Long-distance relationships usually don't work unless both parties are REALLY serious about it. It entirely depends on if one of them is willing to move close to the other or not, and how long they were together.

I don't really understand how you can fall madly in love with someone just by making out with them. How do you have such a deep connection with someone you just met and fooled around with?

Do you even know much about him? What is the deep connection based on? I'm just curious.

Sounds like more of a physical attraction than anything else, but if it's the first guy you have feelings for, then it's real to you.

However, I'm sorry to break it to you, but if his ex has that much of a gravitational pull on him from that far away... It's hard to say what will happen.

The other issue is that people make out at parties all the time, and it's possible it was just a casual thing on his end. Or that it was more casual for him than it was for you.

One of my cousins used to make out with girls at parties all the time. It's just something that happens especially if there is alcohol involved.

If I were you I would put yourself out there more. Meet new people. Attend events, join groups, go to more parties. See who you meet.

You're young and you just met this guy. I get that it's intense for you, but sometimes people think they're in love, but really they just don't want to feel lonely or alone so they latch on to a person.

I honestly think that true love is something that builds over time. What comes easily, goes easily. Maybe it's infatuation. But you know how you feel better than I do.

Best of luck. Hope it turns out well.

[t-8900]

I don't think it's wise to pursue with this guy anyways. Am international student? I see all kinds of scenarios playing out in the long run leaving you screwed over. Hold out for him at your own risk but I'd find it very unwise to do so. Did forbid you do end up with him and he gets you pregnant and leaves never to return. Or you go with him and you get overwhelmed by the culture shock. Or hiw family creates friction because you're a foreigner. You do as you will but I think analyzing this whole thing more before setting your heaet on him would be a much wiser move. And I've been in love before. But that didn't make that person the right pick for me, just saying.

[spuitkaas]

Oof that really sucks. I know that feel when you finally found a guy you actually like and it's not reciprocated. I would say move on because like some people said before, it's hard doing long distance and also I think he doesn't really like you when he said he doesn't want anythibg serious. It's the guy way of saying "I'm not that into you". I know that sometines they seem super sincere but yeah if he really liked you he would go for it.
The feeling really sucks though. Give it some time and cut all contact with the guy.

[Daniela1982]

He has the possibility of getting back permanently with his ex. It was wrong for him to not tell you. But right now he is off limits until he works it out, one way or the other. Long distance relationships don't work out more than they do. Be smart and look closer to home. You probably would not want to live in India anyway.

[hahahmm]

If he is thinking positively about a woman who lives 10k miles away, when you are in the same house, you have NO chance of competing with that other woman. Just move on.

I think his plan all along was to get back with her. He just didn't want to have a long distance relationship the whole time he was in school.

[RichSD]

It doesn't matter if it works or not, he already decided *you* don't work. I'm sorry to tell you this.

[ManHater]

First of all you are a paki girl 2nd its clear you are stupid find a boy who is not going to dump you.

[JohnK123]

You probably took it too far, too fast. Try slowing it down and do sweet things to win him back

[LegendaryIcon]

so, you acted like a slut, and you're not upset that he went back to his ex. huh, weird

[hahahmm]

True. A lot of women don't listen tho.

[Iron_Man]

Get over it and MoveOn

[Anonymous]

Ask him first and don't dump him so quickly.

[In_Trance]

yea ok

[Anonymous]

Yeah