I wouldn’t say I personally hate the concept of marriage.
However I will say that as I age I’m becoming more accepting of the fact that due to today’s society I will never get what my parents got.
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Sadly younger men are seeing the disadvantages of marriage, it isn't what it used to be many years ago. With divorces, feminism, so many friends with benefits women and financial problems it creates, there's really no point in getting married any more except for cases where 2 people want to spend the rest of their lives together.
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I disagree I want to marry and I also even have thoughts on what I'd like at the wedding should I be fortunate enough to marrym maybe I'm an odd guy but I don't see why people would be against it and all that.
For me yes but not cause I dont want to commit to one person, there's just no point. You can live together, do anything you would married just in a relationship
Yeah I agree that you can do the same stuff in a relationship as you would in a marriage... a marriage isn’t a necessity, I just thought if you were a couple that was DEEPLY in love and together for quite a while, maybe it would just be fun to plan a wedding as a celebration of your love... I feel like under the right circumstances, and if you two really saw yourselves being together forever, the. Why not waste some money on a fun wedding night with decorations and a ring? I also think in a way, that by both partners having a ring and a written commitment, that could maybe even bond you two closer. Lol but judging by everyone’s answers maybe it is just a female fantasy 😆
I never really had a plan of when I would get married. I figured I would just find a girl I can't imagine spending the rest of my life without and would marry her. Never expected it to happen on my first try though.
Have you ever heard the saying "Don't buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free!" I guess that they don't want to feel tied down. Even though living together has the same out come as being married.
So I found that she’s a novelist and philanthropist. She’s also rich I think and used to be married to the guy that founded amazon I think? I think his name was Jeff it said
Bro, do you know how the divorce settlement works? When the divorce takes place, the woman is given alimony. And the amount isn't for survival. It is to support the life style that she had when she was married to the guy. If children are involved, she is entitled to child care funds too. What does the guy gets? Nothing.
Just to be clear, if they built it together then why did Jeff gave his shares to her? Why did he gave his wealth to her? Because that's the law. If she built it, she should have had money of her own too.
So she didn't get any love from him? That's a pathetic mindset. He is successful because of his own efforts. And if by any chance, he was not successful, he'd still be liable to pay her for her expenses.
We are not going to see common ground here and that’s ok. But marriage comes from the melding of metal where two become one. It’s a true partnership and each person contributes to success. ‘His own’ efforts were indeed their efforts and I know you don’t see marriage this way. That’s ok, I know when I get married I will have my wife’s back and she will have mine. Thanks for the discussion and let’s agree to disagree
So if it was their efforts then why is it that only man has to pay divorce settlement and child support? You can live in your fantasy world but it's "their" effort till marriage then man has to pay money to the wife so she can live her life the way she was living before and not the other way.
And how many cases do you think are there where mother pays? Because she is the mother, she is favoured by the court to be the custodial parent. It is not written but it's just how things are (80% custodial mothers and 20% custodial fathers). Other than that, the mother has sole choice in whether the kid lives or not. She can abort it any time she wants to but the father on the other hand doesn't have right to his hard earned money. She can say it's my body, my choice. But the father can't say it's my money, my choice. Do you see the double standards?
Marriage isn't nothing to be scared of. I am not afraid of marriage. Just like I am not afraid of mountains but just because I am not afraid doesn't mean that I am going to jump off from it.
It's not that we hate the idea of marriage. It's the reality of marriage today that is the problem for men. It's just not what it used to be and not as appealing anymore.
I'm not married and I never have been and never plan to be. Marriage is just a contract for the government to be involved. I also view marriage as a trap for men. It only leads to divorce where us men lose half of everything we have. It's more beneficial for women which is why they get all excited about planning out their wedding. It's probably also why men are the ones who are the gatekeepers of marriage in society. So that they can choose a woman who hopefully won't fuck them over in the long run and unfortunately that's a vast majority of women who would. Even those who claim they won't and believe that they won't until the day they do
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I wouldn’t say I personally hate the concept of marriage.
However I will say that as I age I’m becoming more accepting of the fact that due to today’s society I will never get what my parents got.
Sadly younger men are seeing the disadvantages of marriage, it isn't what it used to be many years ago. With divorces, feminism, so many friends with benefits women and financial problems it creates, there's really no point in getting married any more except for cases where 2 people want to spend the rest of their lives together.
I disagree I want to marry and I also even have thoughts on what I'd like at the wedding should I be fortunate enough to marrym maybe I'm an odd guy but I don't see why people would be against it and all that.
For me yes but not cause I dont want to commit to one person, there's just no point. You can live together, do anything you would married just in a relationship
Just seems like a waste of hundreds of thousands of dollars for a wedding and ring
Yeah I agree that you can do the same stuff in a relationship as you would in a marriage... a marriage isn’t a necessity, I just thought if you were a couple that was DEEPLY in love and together for quite a while, maybe it would just be fun to plan a wedding as a celebration of your love... I feel like under the right circumstances, and if you two really saw yourselves being together forever, the. Why not waste some money on a fun wedding night with decorations and a ring? I also think in a way, that by both partners having a ring and a written commitment, that could maybe even bond you two closer. Lol but judging by everyone’s answers maybe it is just a female fantasy 😆
I never really had a plan of when I would get married. I figured I would just find a girl I can't imagine spending the rest of my life without and would marry her. Never expected it to happen on my first try though.
Have you ever heard the saying "Don't buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free!"
I guess that they don't want to feel tied down. Even though living together has the same out come as being married.
@Starla1234 I don't like the idea of marriage because of the unstable nature of marriage & the risk of a vicious custody battle.
Depends but personally I wish to get married asap so, we exist, you find most of us in religious circles. Genuine ones of course.
We definitely do it’s just hard meeting the right person and staying faithful when you’re this young
Yes sadly. People don't have the need. Why do you have to get married, if you can fuck outside of marriage. For most it's enough.
Because of feminism? Marriage is a very big thing and to top it all off, men are at a disadvantage.
Why are guys disadvantaged?
MacKenzie Scott. Ever heard of this name?
No I haven’t..
Google it and tell me what you find
How is Bezos at a disadvantage? They built a hugely successful company and both have donated billions of dollars
So I found that she’s a novelist and philanthropist. She’s also rich I think and used to be married to the guy that founded amazon I think? I think his name was Jeff it said
Bro, do you know how the divorce settlement works? When the divorce takes place, the woman is given alimony. And the amount isn't for survival. It is to support the life style that she had when she was married to the guy. If children are involved, she is entitled to child care funds too. What does the guy gets? Nothing.
Just to be clear, if they built it together then why did Jeff gave his shares to her? Why did he gave his wealth to her? Because that's the law. If she built it, she should have had money of her own too.
They were married for 25 years. He got love and success and he’s rich. Do you think she contributed nothing? Sad
So she didn't get any love from him? That's a pathetic mindset. He is successful because of his own efforts. And if by any chance, he was not successful, he'd still be liable to pay her for her expenses.
We are not going to see common ground here and that’s ok. But marriage comes from the melding of metal where two become one. It’s a true partnership and each person contributes to success. ‘His own’ efforts were indeed their efforts and I know you don’t see marriage this way. That’s ok, I know when I get married I will have my wife’s back and she will have mine. Thanks for the discussion and let’s agree to disagree
So if it was their efforts then why is it that only man has to pay divorce settlement and child support? You can live in your fantasy world but it's "their" effort till marriage then man has to pay money to the wife so she can live her life the way she was living before and not the other way.
If the father has custody then the mother pays child support. That’s why it’s settled in the courts. It’s for the kids. Not for the parents anyway.
And how many cases do you think are there where mother pays? Because she is the mother, she is favoured by the court to be the custodial parent. It is not written but it's just how things are (80% custodial mothers and 20% custodial fathers). Other than that, the mother has sole choice in whether the kid lives or not. She can abort it any time she wants to but the father on the other hand doesn't have right to his hard earned money. She can say it's my body, my choice. But the father can't say it's my money, my choice. Do you see the double standards?
There will always be double standards. Still isn’t a reason to be scared of marriage.
Marriage isn't nothing to be scared of. I am not afraid of marriage. Just like I am not afraid of mountains but just because I am not afraid doesn't mean that I am going to jump off from it.
It's not that we hate the idea of marriage. It's the reality of marriage today that is the problem for men. It's just not what it used to be and not as appealing anymore.
No. They just don't want it right then. They want that later in life. Not early.
If they hate it, it's usually because of the laws being skewed in favor of females.
Plus men think differently from women
I don't think they hate it, they're just not ready for it. Guys who hate marriage are usually older men who have already been through it.
I’d say young people hate most traditional things, as they’re rebellious. It’s a good thing.
We usually don't think about it until later 20's or mid 20's
I'm 25 and I hate marriage.
Are you married or just don’t like the idea of it? And why not?
Is that why your heart aches?
I'm not married and I never have been and never plan to be. Marriage is just a contract for the government to be involved. I also view marriage as a trap for men. It only leads to divorce where us men lose half of everything we have. It's more beneficial for women which is why they get all excited about planning out their wedding. It's probably also why men are the ones who are the gatekeepers of marriage in society. So that they can choose a woman who hopefully won't fuck them over in the long run and unfortunately that's a vast majority of women who would. Even those who claim they won't and believe that they won't until the day they do
@Gwenhwyfar, oh my heart aches for so many reasons it's impossible to list them all 😂
Nvm. Sorry I asked. I thought based on your screen name you were a romantic. Guess I was wrong.
@Gwenhwyfar, I've never been a romantic.
Yes, that seems to be the case!
I never even thought of it till I got wed.