If a boyfriend tried to hit her (she blocks it), it's over right?

[Anonymous]

My sister's boyfriend tried to slap her during an argument. She applied what she learned long ago. She intercepted it before it even had a chance to reach her face. This shocked him. Fortunately she knows self-defense.

She broke up and he's been begging her. She still cares for him but Is wondering if it's over for good or should be given final/last chance? Even if a girl can defend herself, isn't an attempted hit enough to call it quit?

[MCheetah]

"(she blocks it)"
LMAO! 🤣🤣
What the fugggggggg!
What is she, Wonder Woman?

But it failed.

"Boyfriend does Mega Punch!"
"But it missed!"
"Girlfriend does Giga Impact!"
"Critical Hit!"
"Boyfriend fainted!"

If ANYONE, male or female, tried to put their hands on their partner, it's game over, right then and there! Even if they aren't Wonder Woman with lightspeed reflexes and master Krav Maga combat skills! 😂

RIP (ex) boyfriend!

[Asker]

You guessed on your very last sentence. She took 2 martial arts; Krav Maga and then BJJ (Brazilian jiu jitsu). She's not taking him back. She does still cares and loves him though. She'll maybe consider it if he seeks help and works on himself but doesn't believe in his apology at this moment.

[AviatorTom]

It's her decision and it sounds like she's made it. If it was a one-time thing and he shows no other anger tendencies, she might want to reconsider. If this was an indication of how he normally is, then it's time to move on.

Hitting is never justified, although in some limited circumstances, it might be forgiven.

[Asker]

Actually prior to that he used to yell at her sometimes or call her every single she went out, demanding her to call him every 30 mins, demanding at what time she comes back; controlling.

[Asker]

He was showing a couple signs of being controlling.

[AviatorTom]

Based on the extra info, I'd say she's making the right decision... move on.

[Cleo12345]

No chances whatsoever!!! He’s proven that it’s in his nature to hit a woman so he’s got to go. Just because she was able to block the hit that doesn’t change who he is…. An abusive piece of shit!

[Asker]

Yes fortunately she knows martial arts. She isn't convinced at this moment and isn't taking him back. But she still cares for him. She suggested him to seek help and work on himself. She wants to make sure His begging isn't just talk and no actions.

[Asker]

Personally I would've broken up and block him on all accts.

[Cleo12345]

Thank goodness she isn’t falling into the cycle of him apologising and then her taking him back. She sounds strong both physically and mentally.

[northerngal]

Yes its over. We are not animals and we should have self control. His true nature came out and trust is probably now broken forever. I am able to forgive a lot but never physical violence.

[Asker]

She forgives him (though when she forgives it's for herself, to not hold grudges) but isn't taking him back. She's not convinced. He told him to seek help and work on himself.

[northerngal]

She sounds like a smart woman.

[MCheetah]

But WE are. Don't ever kid yourself, kid.

"You and me, baby, ain't nothin' but mammals.
So let's do it like they do on the Discovery Channel."

[genericname85]

well i would sure end it over that. voilence is not a good way to solve conflict in a relationship. and if your partner resorts to that, it's not your duty to educate him for the better. that's his own job, he can do on his own.

[dc_rogers]

Its NEVER okay to hit anyone especially the opposite sex and especially your significant other!

[slatyb]

It should be a complete deal-breaker. She should block him everywhere.

[Limpidity]

It's her individual decision. I don't know but if he has shown a sign of violence he may get violent later as well. Unless he completely changes himself.

[SiberFox]

I'd say yes, but many factors can be considered to come to a different outcome.

[Fireguy17]

He is gone.
That is how it starts and it doesn't get better

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s not over but they should talk about it and he needs to work on himself

[Asker]

This is what she suggested him. She wants to make sure it doesn't ever happens again and he isn't just talking. She isn't too convinced at this moment but still cares for him.

[BarryLiverstone]

If he tried to slap her he learned that behavior somewhere. So now he must unlearn it.

[BarryLiverstone]

I read more of your responses and she needs to block him and move on. If she really cares about him then he needs to fix this on his own. If she stays she is an enabler

[jahaims]

For sure should be over

[babyv15]

End it! He will do it again.

[talka20]

Over yes

[jasco]

I would leave