Do you know anyone who tried to solve their failing relationship with a baby?

[just_a_potato]

Some people are afraid of being abandoned by their partners, despite their relationship only going down hill. So much so that they'd have a baby just to keep their partner there in the relationship. Do you know anyone who has been through or done this? If not what is your stance on this type of solution?

[SecretsofKB]

One of my friend's coworkers is headed this way with her husband. They are having some serious relationship issues, but of course now, they are trying for a baby.

I like those two a lot. I'd call them my friends. I think they can be good together.

But having a baby right now will not be the saving grace. They need to figure it out before they add that into the mix.

[PeachJuice]

My old friend from high school did it. She actually forced the dude to have a kid with her so she could drop out and keep him. But, he eventually told her "fuck you" and he ended up leaving her, getting his college education and is now living a good life. She on the other hand, is now stuck with no high school diploma, no college degree, and works at Food Lion, depending on mommy and daddy to take care of her and her "now" two children, almost three.

[just_a_potato]

yikessss

[PeachJuice]

Ikr lmao.

[yofuknutz]

Odds are she did something to him that got him to that point to tell her to go fuc yourself trust me nobody's is innocent here it takes a lot for a man to walk away but when he does you're done.

[NamerOfStars]

No- not to my knowledge, anyway. I think it's a rotten thing to do; a baby is a human being, not an adhesive. A marriage may be just as formality (so far as THIS particular point goes, at least), but the advantages of growing up in a stable, two-parent family are ENORMOUS. Depriving a child of that, if it doesn't work out... Having a baby isn't something to be so casually or lightly.

[Oigit]

I do not know anyone that has done so. But, the idea of doing so is beyond stupid. The child is more then likely going to expatriate the issues a couple is already having and probably add new ones. Also now there will be a child trapped in the middle of a dysfunctional relationship.

[dustybiker]

Oh yes. Tried a failed to get pregnant several times. My friend is a good guy, still didn’t leave her. And then it finally worked. Snagged.
It’s manipulative. Horrible for the kid to have a parent like that.

[Cherry234]

It's selfish in my opinion. That's not a legit reason to have a child. I can't believe the absurdity of some people. I don't personally know anyone who has done this.

[yofuknutz]

It's the oldest trick in the book but I agree with your assessment and bewilderment

[yofuknutz]

It's the oldest trick and the oldest story in the book even if it does work it buy you just a few years at best and then when you two cannot stand each other anymore the kid is a toddler by then and they think your failure is their failure.

[Still-alive]

Yeah I've heard of people lying about bc or poking holes in condoms

[just_a_potato]

I'm pretty sure poking holes in condoms is rape right? 😬

[Still-alive]

Hmm it might be. :

[Cherry234]

@Still-alive I would be really mad if that happened to me. I can't believe people stoop that low just to get what they want.

[Still-alive]

@Cherry234 yup its a crazy world out there.

[yofuknutz]

Considered sexual assault by fraud

[exitseven]

I do not know anyone who has done this but I don't think it is a good thing to do. A baby is not like pet gerbil.

[SphynxUK]

I’ve read about it? But don’t know anyone who has done it. Such a bad idea 👎🏼

[jasco]

No and if i ever found out someone did that in my friend group she/he is leaving my circle asap

[Anonymous]

i'm sure plenty that never admitted it. i don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

[TallAnon]

No and that sounds very irresponsible towards a new life.

[Anonymous]

Many people have tried this to only fail. Don't know anyone personally.

[EaterPeter]

Oh yeah, guess how it went?

[just_a_potato]

not good

[EaterPeter]

Who else? I bet you had someone in mind

[just_a_potato]

Nooooooooooooooooo

[EaterPeter]

I am glad you don't

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[cloud9vortex1234]

Doesn't sound too smart.

[Jamie05rhs]

Um, yeah, that doesn't work.

[NathanDavis]

not personally

[jahaims]

Yeah