If you could go back in time and change one thing in your life, what would you change?
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I will be honest and will use the platform for confession.
Back in 2014 when my ex was kind of trying to deflect me saying we dont have a future, lets decrease fhe frequency we meet and go out to eat food or outing with friends I kind of felt that something is wrong between us. In few days she got real serious and It was really trouble some for me as I was addicted to talk to her for around 4 hrs daily. I used to wait for my parents to go to bed and then used to talk till 4 am. One day when we were together and we were kissing, I felt to emotional and that I am going to lose her, I tried to cross my limits by approaching her private space and private parts ( we just used to kiss till now) and she took if too offensive. She started crying that I was trying to against her will and that I tried to force her for something she wasn't ready for and went away crying. Later she kept on repeating the same thing for days and weeks and told me to stop talking and stop texting. I eventually felt so bad for what I did and how bad I made her feel. If I get a chance I would go back and cancel our meeting so that She does whatever she has to do but I dont hurt her. I still feel bad that it was me who tried to force her for something that too to the girl I loved from the core of my heart.
Well Happy New Year!
She is happily married to another guy and also has a baby now. Things are all fine.
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Even if I had something that I would like to change I would not do it because that change might change everything else there's no way that I would give up my kids for something that I want to change about me no matter what it is it's done and over with so it doesn't even matter. now if I didn't have kids I would have never married the lady that I did that would be probably the only thing I don't care how painful anything else was or whatever the one change changes everything and I couldn't have that I wouldn't want that ever
Or I could do something very selfish and say anything that I would change would be on my prom night being such a gentleman I would have taking her to the motel room that I rented but I never went to I took her home oh yeah the girls I could have made love to but I was a gentleman and I did not push the issue I let it happen to it happen and sometimes it didn't happen lol
Do I still look at it I wouldn't change anything I'm really curious what would you change this is a very good question I think I know your answer but I'm not positive
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Tricky question, cause my gut instinct would be to be prepared to stop my rapist and prevent the attack, but then I would be a totally different person.
It may be a good or bad thing, but I'd want a preview of it first... chances are I'd have 5 or 6 kids by now and who knows what, potentially happily married or maybe miserable.
I guess without knowing how the change would ripple, it would be best to not mess with it.
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I wouldn’t have gone to the college I attended. I grew up in LA, and I left because it’s my hometown, and I wanted to explore another city. I THOUGHT people outside of LA would be similar to the people here, but WOW, I was wrong. It was such a culture shock, and if I could redo it, I would have gone to a college filled with more kids who grew up in cities. My college was filled with a bunch of boring, Hicks and suburban kids.
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I wouldn’t really change anything. I can’t think of anything I would like to change because it has shaped who I am today and I love myself and the way I am today… I have grown a lot and learned a lot from my mistakes and the issues I have gone through. :)
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I would change nothing. I made mistakes but I grew from them and I do not want to risk an unknown future by reversing my previous decisions.
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Nothing really meaningful since every experience brought me here, made me who I am and I love who I became. But if I had to, definitely my Wiccan phase. Hahaha
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Truthfully, I have gotten four women pregnant. I would not actually change that. Sex is healthy and natural and I love the four children that came from those relationships with all my heart. However, I would change two things related to two of those pregnancies.
To start, my girlfriend and I have lived together over a decade and we have three children - two boys and my little princess. She and they are the center of my universe. Note, that three of my children came from the same woman.
My first born I only found out about two years ago. He is 14 now and I have a great relationship with him. He is a great kid and he gets along with his much younger siblings - actually half siblings - and plays with them and he is an amazing young man.
Unfortunately, I feel like I missed so much in his life. I love him and yet I was not there for so many things that mattered. He was born from a one night stand (I won't go into the details here) - even now I don't know his mother all that well. She decided not to tell me that I got her pregnant and that she decided to keep the baby.
Believe me, I am glad she kept that baby and raised him so well. However, if I could change things, I would have had her tell me at the time. At the time she decided that her baby did not need to know his father and it was only as he became a teenager that she decided he should know his dad.
Dear lord, how I wish she had told me.
The other one is even harder. A girl I was dating had an abortion without telling me. She had told me at the time that she was pregnant with my child, but then one day dropped the bomb that she had an abortion.
In truth, we had discussed it and I thought I had talked her out of it. I said I would raise the baby on my own and she need not be involved after the birth. Apparently that was not good enough and so she had the abortion.
To this day - and even at this moment - it brings tears to my eyes. I only wish I could hold my baby that I never knew and tell him/her how much he/she is loved. I feel like a failure. A man should protect his baby and I failed and it kills me and I would change that in an instant.
Not the fact that she got pregnant - again, I have no regrets with any of these. Sex is healthy and natural and as a man I need it. Yet, it comes with responsibilities and with my other children I try every day to live up to those responsibilities. In that case, though, I was not there and I failed.
The fourth pregnancy - which was actually the first - was a miscarriage. It saddens me and I often wonder what might have been. (I was only 22 at the time. I often wonder how well I would have handled it.)
Yet, in all that, I have regrets only that, for so many years, I did not know my eldest son. Then the biggest regret that I was not able to read the signs and prevent that abortion. Those two things I would change and as happy as I am - and believe me, I love my girlfriend and our children and my eldest son - I wish I could change those two things. -
There are a bunch of things I could change, a few are very much life defining moments. The thing is each is defines who I am, it defines the people in met during my life.
then there is the temptation to change it for someone else, however are you then simply doing the same thing with them, changing who they are.
Then there is how I have directly helped others, would that change, would I still have worked as a volunteer at a counselling centre, would I still have done outreach work with homeless, drug addicts and sex workers.
i think @Aerissa_Jade sums it up really well, with her closing comment,
“without knowing how the change would ripple, it would be best to not mess with it.” -
If I could go back in time, it would only be if I could take with me the knowledge I have now, so I could make wiser decisions. I'd have a sooner realization of how stupid and ignorant my parents were. Physically, I'd take better care of my teeth. Even though I haven't had a new cavity in decades, I have a whole mouthful of dental issues from being stupid long ago.
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There would be a lot of things I would change - and I’m not sure what would be most beneficial to change…
I probably would not have done college, or I would have gone to a cheaper school. Maybe community college. I would have probably taken all the money wasted on conventions and trade shows and women’s day events and either consolidated into one type of thing, or spent on marketing. I might have gotten a PR or marketing degree.
One big thing is I would have probably made more effort on dating much earlier. Working out, eating better, learning what looks cool, learning how to interact with women more, all that. I think it would have given me more confidence if I was good with women. -
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To be more of a confident man than I was 16 years ago when I was in-love & engaged to this 1 girl who I was romantically involved with.
I was going through too many issues, my ex-fiancé left me considering my issues were weighing her down, I wanted to work this out with her, but she wouldn't permit that & that was it.
Unfortunately the sad memories & the emotional scars had impacted & changed me to the point where my personality has change, & I feel like I don't like the person that I have became.
Mind you the problems which I was facing during that time,... minor of those issues were my fault,.. yes, however the rest of the issues were not my fault yet unfortunately I still had to take care of them. -
Me personally, Nothing. Believe me when I'm telling you, I went through Hell that I don't wish for anyone to go through, BUT that made me a stronger and a wiser person that I am today. And because of that, I'm able to help so many people both in real life and virtual one.
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First of all I’m not hung up on her I just wish I had acted different. I used to get so upset at my first love. I could be kinda mean to her. I was lost back then. I was young and ignorant and still learning to love myself. Time has made me much wiser and now I get it. I still feel bad and hope she's living it up cause we were best friends before we dated and while we dated that kind of changed. I took that friendship for granted and we haven’t talked since. Would be nice to know that it didn’t end as bad as it did.
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Go back to the year 2008, I had a chance to lose my virginity when I was 20, wouldn't happen until 5 years later though but I sometimes wonder how my dating life or sex life would have been for the remainder of my 20s if I had sexual intercourse for the first time at 20.
But I made it to third base with a woman that year -
I don't want to go back and change anything about me, I have came along way and I couldn't imagine myself staginating, especially being a child again because I were abused and bullied as a kid. I definitely don't miss childhood, while my teen years were my absolute worst phase, I am glad to finally grow older and officially take charge in my life now
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Probably nothing. Everything that I have done in my past led me to where I am today
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I would've been nicer to girls when I was younger. I did things to girls in elementary and middle school that I'm ashamed of. I want to apologize but I figured it'd be pointless. I'm the last person these girls would want to hear from and I wouldn't blame them for being unforgiving
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All of my experiences both good and bad developed me into the man I am today so from one perspective I appreciate it but I certainly wish I could have done somethings better though.
For one somethings I have said to people who didn't deserve it and all of my sins I did before God. - 1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Let me say it like that: I wished I didn't went with my "friends" to Croatia in Aug.2017, cause that changed everything for me.
But at the same time I wouldn't change it, cause it made me me -
Be more creative in the way I do my school work. I never was much engaged with the assigments. Every time I have not really cared if I met the requierments of what I was supposed to to but rather just did something that was fun and interesting to me I got top grades and amazing fulfillment and praise.
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There’s SO many things I’d like to change but when I think about it, if I hadn’t had gone through them, I wouldn’t have learnt from it. So I’ll go with the basic winning lottery ticket numbers
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I would deal with some absolutely horrible people from the start of their behavior. I did stand up to them then, but lesson learned. That type need to be completely dealt with from the get go.
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I would change my approach to joining the military. This means I would join the Army instead of the Navy and I would watch my damn mouth when in the military.
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