Guys, have you ever went back to a girl that you didn't really care about at first?

[PricelessPearl]

There was this guy I met that only wanted one thing. He would play mind games and just torment my mind for so long. I really fell for him hard. But I had to leave time and time again because all he would push was sex and for me to do things that I didn't feel comfortable doing. He looked blank in his eyes. That was all he was programmed to do. I wanted more than that. I wanted a relationship but he never did.

All he wanted was my purity and I'm glad I never gave it to him.

Anyways, all I think about is him it is so hard for me because I really care about him as a human being and see that there is hope for him.

Do you think that a guy can change? Do you think that some day he could look back and care about me and want to be with me and wait? Or should I just completely and utterly try my hardest to forget that I never met him?

Please no harsh comments. Thank you for your time.

[JohnScofield]

Move on.

Yes people can change, but only when they want to. There is not a woman in the world that can change a man that doesn't want to change. Even then seldom can a woman change a man, he has to change himself.

How many of your girlfriends have been in the same situation only to get really, really hurt.

I think you need to move on and see what else life has for you. If he is going to push now, what is going to do when he really has your heart in his pocket?

You can move on, it is not easy I am sure, but you can.

I wish you well...

[PricelessPearl]

I know, it's foolish of me. And you're completely right.

And yes, my friends have been in the same situation and have gotten hurt.

Thank you.

[JohnScofield]

I just noticed your name "priceless pearl" That is exactly right, you are priceless. As someone very great once said "Do not throw your pearls before swine." You knew the answer before you asked the question... Best wishes sweet one...

[PricelessPearl]

Yes:) His name is Jesus. My Lord and Savior.

Thank you for encouraging me and uplifting me.

God bless you my dear through the hurt and the healing.

[JohnScofield]

Yes exactly. So let's talk about two more things then... what is love?

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

What you were being asked was not Love was it? And...

[JohnScofield]

When you are struggling about what you are thinking about, what does it say we are to do?

"whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."

I will leave you alone now, it is late for me. But do not exchange the truth for the lie... no matter how beautiful the lie is dressed up.

Until soon...

[PricelessPearl]

Yes, the Lord has been teaching me that verse about dwelling on what is pure, because I felt in a trance or a trap for the longest time because of this man and his promises and lies.

Yes, and do not bow down to the devil for what this world has to offer you.

Thank you, you don't know how much you encouraged me.