Am I a dick if I only want to start a serious relationship with a girl between the ages of 18-21?

[Gangactivities911]

Im a 26 yr old male for reference. I don't know why I’m posting this maybe I just wanna stir the pot, maybe I’m just trying to get a reaction. But I’m serious. I don’t think it’s fair that I just miss out on the age when my potential wife is the most attractive to me and to men in general. Yes men by and large find women 18-21 the most sexually attractive. This is completely normal, google it if u don’t believe me. I never had a girlfriend I’d actually consider dating between those ages and I don’t feel comfortable just missing out on it. And yes I fully ready to die all alone and just stick to casual the rest of my life. Why r u guy’s thoughts on this?

[AncientWisdom]

I think it’s severely limiting yourself but it’s not a dick move. It’s a dick move all the females commenting their normal bullshit. Here’s my advice to a young men period. DO NOT GET MARRIED ! Marriage in modern western society is a bad deal for men.
This is the timeline of American marriage 1) get married 2) have kids 3) man grows comfortable with wife , but wife grows bored or dissatisfied (for whatever reason she has found to justify what comes next) she files for divorce ( western courts are biased in favor of females divorce is a 50 billion dollar a yr biz for the government so the laws incentivized women to seek divorce so they can steal the man’s life by enslaving him to them and the government gets a cut.) she will win all your property all your bank accounts and your children. Then to add insult to injury the courts will award them 50 to 75 % of your future wages in alimony and child support. Effectively enslaving that man for years.
You will really be supporting her and her fuck boy she moves into your house to service her.
1 million divorces per yr in the USA alone. Well over 800 k initiated by the female because she has already been taught that men are disposable and she’s a princess. Over 90 percent will be won by the female no matter what she has done during the course of marriage.
So you need to chase your dreams become the best man you can be for YOURSELF ! without a damn female anchor for about ten years then she blows up your life.
Male suicide is 78 % of all suicides can you guess why? Out of every 100 divorces 22% of the men blow their brains out (because that is literally the only thing they can do it’s a final fuck you ) behind a hypergamous deluded piece of shit women who has stolen their life and children. DONT DO IT !! Because they are all taught this shit. Until the laws are changed men need to stop marrying period stop having children too. Then the government will change it when the birth rate drops enough they need people to be born. Until it’s fair just don’t do it.

[Gangactivities911]

I feel like if u make a good bit more than ur wife and u get a prenup then marriage could workout cuz then they wouldn’t have motivation to divorce and would have motivation to stay. Just throwing ideas out there

[AncientWisdom]

@Gangactivities911 and you would be wrong in your feelings. Numbers don’t lie. You’d just have more to take. Over the course of my 2 major careers I’ve been able to save 7.3 million dollars I have everything I want and when I die my children will be well off. I never married I have a female friend with benefits for 30 years I have two wonderful strong , intelligent, happy sons one from her the other from my only long term relationship. She thought she was gonna do me that way. I’m not the one I will retaliate if someone does me bad. I don’t care what the gender is she knew that and backed off I raised both my sons I said that to say that I believe I was able to do this because I didn’t have the interference from a woman I came from dirt poor my grandfather was a Cherokee halfbreed sharecropper my mother was not a good woman and I never knew my father as a child I met him at 22 he wasn’t worth the effort. So I decided I was going to be the patriarch if my own family. And I did just that , also prenups can be got around with a good lawyer and they break them all the time look it up don’t take my word for it. I wish you the best.

[Gangactivities911]

What if I don’t plan on having kids? Would u say it makes sense then?

[AncientWisdom]

I’ve seen that too , they will trick you if it suits them to do so. If you got a vasectomy first but I still wouldn’t trust it. I’ve seen to much in my life how they do men. I’m not signing up. I saw where you commented below about missing out on their good years , and that’s exactly right they wanna screw around and puck up all them bodies in their teens and 20s while they still look good then settle down with a average guy when their looks start slipping or they are at the biological wall nature in its infinite wisdom put on them. Like I said I haven’t and will not marry ever in this society I’m to old for that now anyway I’m not a 55 yr old that thinks ok maybe I will die single as that’s my preference

[TruthBringer]

If that's your preference, then go for it. Nothing wrong with wanting someone who is just starting her prime years, especially since the age gap between you and them is not even big. It does mean you're limiting yourself from finding potential partners above the age of 21, but if it is your preference, don't let anyone stop you from pursuing it.

It's like you said, women have all these requirements like he has to be good looking, fit with 6-pack abs, tall, etc. But God forbid that we have our own preferences? The reason why you're getting hate is because you're making THEM feel inferior by excluding people like them from your commitment. Yet the hypocrisy is palpable considering they have no issue doing it to other people. They function on the 'Rules for thee, but not for me' mindset. So I'd say, fuck them. Go date yourself that 18 year old. It's your life and none of their business.

I would say, go for it, but don't dismiss girls over the age of 21 who you have a chance of having a good relationship with. It's always better choosing a good & mature 24 year old over an 18 year old scumbag. Unless you happen to find a mature girl from the age of 18.

[Gangactivities911]

Fair enough I think I’d rather just not be in a serious relationship if i have to start it with a 24 yr old to be honest. I’d rather just be friends.

[TruthBringer]

@Gangactivities911 I get your point. Especially since 24 year olds (in general) have more (emotional) baggage than 18 year olds attained by years of casual sex or bad boyfriends. The older a woman, the more 'history' she has that often seeps its way into new relationships and starts to poison everything. Of course this is generally speaking and not a guarantee. I got with my girl when she was 18 like 3 years ago and there is a major difference between her and girls of her age now when it comes to baggage. I would also go for the more younger once basically for this reason mainly, unless I know for sure that a girl of my age does not carry any baggage.

[Gangactivities911]

It’s that but I also just find 18-21 yr olds more sexually attractive and I don’t think it’s fair that I miss out on those years of their life.

[Anonymous]

Is this age relative to your own or set for that age? If first than like you said you have a smaller group of potential partners but its a prefefence. Its in my opinion not unethical. So I dont think you would be a dick. If its set than yes, I think you are a "dick" as you will start a serious relationship with someone knowing it will only last a few years. Bassically taking years of their time at least if they dont know at the start. BUT, if you find a fitting partner for you, I doubt you would end it because your partner gets too old, at least in that age group.

[Gangactivities911]

Like how if I start a serious relationship with a 19 yr old girl I’m not gonna break up with them right when they turn 21 but I feel weird missing out on the years of my partners life when they are the most physically and emotionally attractive to me I don't know.

[JoyGirl]

No, you are not a d.
It is just your preference.
Plus, that isn’t much of an age difference.
My boyfriend is 25 and I just turned 20. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[TruthBringer]

Exactly, 25 and 20 are very normal age difference. 26 and 18 isn't bad either. It's not like he is getting with a 14 year old. My girlfriend is 21 and I'm 24. We got together when she was 18

[JoyGirl]

@TruthBringer Yea. ^-^

[DaveJord]

I have an issue with guys in their 20's dating any teenager... but if you want a 20 year old them I say what the hell go for it.

But your 26, I think it short sited of you because there are millions of super hot ladies into their of all ages.. well at you know what I mean. I don't find to may 80's year older too sexy... lol

I like a lady with some experience but hell I was 26 once... but 18 seems a little pedo to me.

[Gangactivities911]

Maybe u should google what pedophilia is cuz u don’t seem to know.

[DaveJord]

No I know what it is... but a 26 year wanting to bet 18 years is not right to me... so it just my opinion.

[Gangactivities911]

And how does that make u different from someone who disapproves of homosexuals?

[DaveJord]

Lol... yeah that makes sense I guess. \_0_/ NOT!!!

Why don't we see feather weights boxing with Heavy Weights? Why do grown men not complete in youth sports? Why do deer run out in front of cars? Did the chicken come before the egg? What is the meaning of life? Oh wait... what are we talking about you lost me? With the apples to apples comparison... or was it apples to oranges, or was it zucchini?

That response is why 26 years should stay way from 18 years, because you sound like a someone who could really screw up some young ladies mind, and exactly like the type of person a 25 year old women would pass on... so maybe that is why you like them young?

[Gangactivities911]

Actually most men don’t prefer women that age. Literally google it. LOL

[TruthBringer]

@DaveJord While I usually agree with the things you say, I'm inclined to disagree with you on this topic.

"yeah that makes sense I guess. \_0_/ NOT!!!"
- And neither calling it pedo when first of all it is not against the law and second of all, we are speaking about a 26 year old, not a 45 year old. They are still in similar stages in life. The only difference is that one is a bit ahead in terms of stuff like education.

Also, we are lead to believe that women mature faster than guys. This is not only proven to be true, but has a biological reason, and explains why women generally date older men regardless of age. An 18 year old girl is generally speaking not the same as an 18 year old boy. It is common to see 18 year old girls date older guys.

You're free to thin that a 26 year old is too old for a 18 year old, but I believe that if the 26 year old has genuinely wants to grow with that person and has pure intentions, I see not why it isn't beneficial to the 18 year old. Younger ones appreciate the support and wisdom of those who are older.

[jaybee281]

No it's all good - It's all 18 years old girls who ask if it's okay to like older guys - it's pretty normal - I just think that most times people don't mean that - Like if you meet a hot girl your age that you genuinely like you wouldn't care about age - The same way the girls wouldn't if she met someone appropriate for her - But if you see it from experience that you're only liking girls in that age range - then it is what it is - and any pedophile reading this no this does not include you

[Gangactivities911]

It doesn’t matter how hot they are I don’t think there is a 21+ yr old in existence I’d seriously date tbh.

[hahahmm]

No but you better make sure she's the right one. There's a lot of wrong ones out there. Also, don't be surprised if 30+ year-old women call you names.

Personally, I think you're probably better off waiting till you are 30 to look for 25+ because it's more certain that she really wants whatever she says she wants... BUT yes, the number of bad apples will be larger in the older age groups too.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

There are women who only date younger men.. so why not? who cares?

I agree, women 18-21 are at their physical best and only a fraction manage to maintain that past 22-23, while guys stay fairly ripped until around 30 with little effort. It unfair, but women are the gatekeepers of sex, so let's call it a tie.

[Seangreen]

No you're not a dick you're a creep you just want young tight pussy you would go younger than 18 if it was legal is basically what you're saying and you don't want a girl that can go to the bar obviously so it's like you're almost a predator but you're not

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I do think it makes you a dick. Even if the girl you're in a serious relationship with is 18-21 she'll get older too. Are you going to consider her a "downgrade" when that happens?

[Gangactivities911]

All men find younger women more attractive so in that sense I guess but I don’t really look at it like that. I’d definitely stay with her if that’s what ur asking.

[Opinion Owner]

what if you met a great girl who was over 21? Would you be disappointed that you lost her "best years"? If she was 21 would you be disappointed that you were only getting the tail end of her "best years"?

[Gangactivities911]

Yes I would be upset. Maybe If everything is absolutely perfect I might go for it but it’s doubtful

[slatyb]

You are too old to be dating 18-year-olds, and your preference for very young women is a sign of immaturity.

[Gangactivities911]

Yeah I am immature. Is that wrong?

[slatyb]

It doesn't bode well for your future happiness.

[Gangactivities911]

I’m very happy with my life and the direction it’s headed. Thank u very much.

[Subarugirl]

you're really not that much older so it's not weird, but since that age group is the most desirable. What is kind of shitty is that you are objectifying people/teenagers based off of age.

[Gangactivities911]

It’s shitty that women objectify men based on height yet they mostly all do. And I don’t even see it as shitty. I think I am entitled to the years of my partners life when they are the most attractive to me. Why is it fair I miss out on that time period?

[Subarugirl]

Maybe because you are sexualizing literal teenagers

[Gangactivities911]

U mean legal adults? Maybe u should write ur law maker to raise the age of consent if u don’t think that’s ok?

[TruthBringer]

@Subarugirl Lovely how you try to make him sound like a pedophile while he isn't breaking any laws. Nice try, but you failed.

[Subarugirl]

@TruthBringer if I were accusing him of being a pedophile I would have called him one...

[Subarugirl]

@Gangactivities911 there are legal adults who are teenagers... I don't see the problem

[TruthBringer]

@Subarugirl Plausible deniability isn't going to work either. We all know what you're trying to imply when you're trying to shame him for so-called "sexualizing literal teenagers". His age isn't far off to make it seem weird and neither is it against the law.

[Subarugirl]

@TruthBringer I never said that it was, and if I were trying to imply something I would just say it, do with that what you will.

[TruthBringer]

Then what's so relevant about mentioning it, eh? Because it wasn't relevant to mention it, in the first place (the "sexualizing teenagers" accusation). How is that "objectifying". With that same logic, it would mean that women objectify men for things such as height, physique or even money. But no, we call that "having a preference", but for some reason this doesn't count as a preference? It's a no-brainer that men no matter the age prefer younger women who are just in their prime years or are entering it. But you're just on the double standard bandwagon.

[Subarugirl]

@TruthBringer you would have to be blind in order not to see the sexualization of you women by adult men. No one should have to deal with that but you women have to more than most.

[TruthBringer]

@Subarugirl "sexualization". We are all sexualizing each other. Older women sexualize younger men and odler men sexualize younger women. It has to do with biology. You talk asif it is a crime to have a preference of age. While in reality, his preference is far from being a crime. Liek I said, so it's perfectly okay to have a laundry list of "perferences" of what a man should be, how she should look and what he should have, but God forbid men have preferences. Otherwise we are "sexualizing", "objectifying". Love the hypocrisy and double stanadards.

Unless he is getting with a minor, your accusations are baseless, irrelevant and completely subjective in the eyes of the law as well as biology. Try harder.

[Subarugirl]

@TruthBringer I never said it was a crime, those are your words. I am not accusing anyone of anything.. what accusation? That’s reaching if I’ve ever seen it 😂

[TruthBringer]

Love the gas lighting attempt now. Like I said, learn the difference between sexualizing and having a preference.

[Subarugirl]

@TruthBringer show me where then?

[TruthBringer]

Scroll up, I've clearly given you examples of preferences of women which with your logic would also mena they are "sexualizing" men. Yet for some reason that is not the case, except for this guy wanting to get with an 18 year old? Your gas light attempt to deny that you're shaming this guy for something that may very well apply to you and your fellow women, does not work here. Try harder as I said.

[Subarugirl]

@TruthBringer I’m not gas lighting, if that’s what you took away from it then that’s on you. If you had an 18 year old daughter and this man wanted to get with her just because “ I never had a girlfriend I’d actually consider dating between those ages and I don’t feel comfortable just missing out on it.”. I think post parents and people in general would see that as a red flag.

[TruthBringer]

You're literally looking at it from just 1 side given. If he doesn't want to miss out and all the other qualities and in tentions are in the right place, then yes, I wouldn't have an issue with it given that he is genuine about her and brings the best out of her. If it is only about that reason, then no. So it all depends on CONTEXT. You are already villifying this guy without actually knowing how he is in a relationship.

[Subarugirl]

@TruthBringer if he were focused on other qualities, then why didn't he mention them? All that he mentions is that 12-24 year olds are the most sexually appealing, which implies that sex is his primary motivator, and that he doesn't want to miss out on that experience... not relationship.. experience. If I were vilifying him I would call him a sexual predator, but I didn't did I? Based off the information and motivation he provided for wanting to be with "18-24" year old, I said it was shitty.

[TruthBringer]

Bold of you to assume that he doen't have any other qualities and is only focused entirely on the age. Last time I checked, he clearly mentioned wanting a serious relationship. A serious relationship is more than just an age preference. Just like how most women don't want to start a serious relationship unless the guy is tall. And newsflash, baby girl. Men's main motivator for relationships IS sex. Especially at that age. He already gave more information that is used as a proxy to his true intentions as a partner, but you chose to completely neglect that. You failed once more, try again.

[Subarugirl]

@TruthBringer I am basing my opinion off of the information that he shared. If you don't like it that's fine, but don't start making up stupid stuff, and claiming things that are there that aren't, like "gaslighting" and "accusations". He asked a question and I answered, if you don't like it that's you problem not mine since it has literally nothing to do with you. You wanna go pull this shit go do it somewhere else because this conversation is over.

[JohnK123]

@Subarugirl last time I checked 21 isn’t a teen

[JohnK123]

@TruthBringer TRUE she failed lol u brought the truth too

[TruthBringer]

@JohnK123 Thanks, certain people cannot handle it. Especially not when you place a mirror right infront of them

[JohnK123]

@TruthBringer ooo thats good

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes because you can tell the age of a girl simply by looking and know that she is 21 and not 25.

🤦🤦

[Gangactivities911]

Largely I can especially 25 to 21 that’s a pretty big difference

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope,

You go out in town, clubs etc, put 10 girls in a line and try and guess ages.

Trying to pigeon hole people on an age is weird.

Some look far older than they actually are and some look far younger.

Then shove in the complexities of makeup.

Yeah really going to confidently get an age correct.

If you think a girl is 18 there is a very high chance she’s 16.

[Gangactivities911]

It’s not just how they look. I said women in that age range are the most emotionally attractive too

[ChrisMaster69]

Rubbish basically

[Jamie05rhs]

Word of advice: make sure you think this through completely. Because if you fail at your mission now, and fail next year, and fail the year after,... then you would have been better off just dating a 22 or 23 year old THIS year (2022).

[Gangactivities911]

At 30 I could still probs go for 22-23 yr olds tho?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Gangactivities911 Not likely.

[Gangactivities911]

It’s also that I’m just simply not interested anymore. MAYBE but not likely I would still go for it if there was a very significant age gap and they were above 20 but to be completely I’m really just not interested anymore if we start dating after they are 20. I don't know what to say it just doesn’t seem fair to me and I’m not gonna go for it. I’d rather just stick to casual.

[Jamie05rhs]

To each their own, I guess.

[Leonharted]

I don't care what you do. I personally found that age group to be insufferable, but that's just me.

[Gangactivities911]

But do u not find them to be the most physically attractive?

[Leonharted]

I don't care how attractive someone is if I find them annoying.

[Gangactivities911]

Ime women don’t get better with age. They get worse

[Leonharted]

Well, I got bad news for you. Pretty much every woman you get with is going to age.

[Gangactivities911]

Ur misunderstanding I think. I don’t expect them not to age. I want them to be under 20 WHEN I meet them and start dating

[VikingWarLord]

I'd bump that up from 18-25

Those are the perfect ages to snag chics, they usually love to have sex A LOT and will let you experiment and do new things to them in the sack.

[Anonymous]

It's normal for men to be attracted to women that young

[Slartybartfast]

No, it's what you want..

[standardguy]

21 versus 26 is a completely normal age gap

[SnakeBoop]

loooooooooooooooool

[Anonymous]

No, but you are narrowing your window quite a bit.

[MountAverage]

Yeah.