Boyfriend wants to meet my friends but I don’t have any friends? What should I do?

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My boyfriend I’ve been with for about 2 months wants to meet my friends. However, I don’t have any friends. He wants me to meet his friends and wants to meet mine. I told him I don’t have any friends. I told him I lost my Hs friends since I went to the other coast for college and don’t have college friends still since I went back to my home state after. I don’t have work friends either.

annabananna · Accepted Answer

He should understand if you explain it to him like you did to us. Also, don’t feel ashamed about it. Some people take a bit longer to open up and make friends and it will happen to you. It’s more common than you think to move to a new area and not have friends even after a year or two being there. Esp now with Covid.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

Just tell him you don’t have friends.  I openly admitted to my boyfriend that I don’t have any local friends so we can’t go on a double date.  It shouldn’t be a dealbreaker for your boyfriend.

clampfan101 · Accepted Answer

You already told him, so I see nothing you need to do aside from moving on. It’s not like you need to apologize or anything. Just forget about it and try to make friends in the future. (for your own happiness, not to make up for it.)

InferiorElegy · Accepted Answer

I guess Moe from the Simpsons because he's a depressed loser with nothing and that's me, except characters on the show consider Moe a friend and I have none, he's also been on dates and I've never had a date.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

Just be honest and say you don't have anyone you could consider a close friend. He should be understanding, but if not just start the process of finding some.

De_La_BakedBeans · Answer

Literally just tell him what you told us. He'll understand, I'm pretty sure.

dustybiker · Answer

Sounds like you were honest. That’s always the best.

anon1903 · Answer

I can see why you don't want to tell him the truth cuz yeah, people do judge loners. I suggest explain your embarrassment (if that's the case) and come out as loner. It's fine, if he loves you he'll try to understand.

Sasha_Gee · Answer

You already told him you don't have HS friends, now replace 'HS' with 'any' that is all you can do. He sounds like a good guy, he'll understand.

melanieeeB · Answer

Well you already told him that there are no friends to meet, so that topic should be off the table i guess... no friends=no meeting, it's that simple

Anonymous · Answer

you told him you lost your high school friends. maybe remind him? you don't have to make friends, just be honest with him.

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

If you already told him you don’t have friends, what’s the issue. Introduce him to your family.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Nothing for you to do. He can't meet people. who don't exist. Meet his friends, maybe you'll become friends with them

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Hold is hand take him to a mirror and show him that he is your friend and make him meet himself. Either it will be awkward or romantic as hell 😉

loveslongnails · Answer

You don't have to do anything - you've already done it. You tell him "as soon as make a friend that I like and sticks around, I'll introduce you. Till then, it's just me".

mark000h · Answer

That's ok. Some people don't like to have many casual acquaintances, keeping important people close.

Anonymous · Answer

You've told him, that's it. It's just the way it is, don't let it get to you. Doesn't "mean" anything nor should it change his opinion of you. Don't worry.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Tell him the truth. Maybe he’ll introduce you to his friends.

Koalamate · Answer

Tell him what you told us, don't hide it everyone goes through a stage in life they have no friends.

Prettysteena7 · Answer

Tell him the truth, if he can’t accept that then he isn’t accepting you for who you are. Hopefully you two work through that because tbh when you have a significant other they usually become your best friend.

rabbitzzz · Answer

It's not bad from a guys perspective for his girl to not have friends. However you are at a vulnerable position. Have some female friends.

Nagahime · Answer

Just tell him the truth. You never know, he might not even really care that much.

Staximus · Answer

You don't ever talk to any of your friends from high school or college? That is very strange and kind of a red flag

awkward_author · Answer

Just tell him that. I’m sure he’ll understand. There’s nothing wrong with not having friends.

Joshua0213 · Answer

I mean if you tell him you have no friends i dont see why he would care tbh, but you should have friends for yourself

wootiwooti · Answer

Could you make friends? If he will give a few months to you that would solve all problems. Making friends is not so hard.

Anonymous · Answer

To be honest, I would be concerned about someone who had absolutely no friends. It would be even worse if they tried to hide it from me. That's actually a little creepy. Sorry...

Wise4myage · Answer

Just tell him the truth, he's gonna find out sooner or later anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

After you explaining your point to him, no need to do anything else. He will understand you

scooogy · Answer

In either Japan or China (one of them) you can't rent a friend, that could work :P

ElvenMr · Answer

Tell him what you just told us. It's okay, he'll probably understand it too.

fashionqueenisabel · Answer

It's exactly the same with me, I don't really have any friends at the moment either. Be honest and tell him the truth. Good luck!

joshctlee · Answer

Good for him because I don’t wanna meet/hangout with my girls friends. He may love you more!

Anonymous · Answer

He won’t be understanding well. He will think you are weird person without a friend. Maybe you can hire someone pretending as a friend.

malakaki · Answer

Then tell him you don't have any friends.

chapawapa · Answer

Tell him ur a loner... That what I do

AMA_ImAnOpenBook · Answer

Literally just tell him what you just told us.

jahaims · Answer

So what's the problem?

UnknownGagsUser · Answer

You tell him the truth..

jasco · Answer

Make some friends than

Stevefiveo · Answer

You can't have him meet people that don't exist.

In_Trance · Answer

tell him you don't have friends

Shy_Steve · Answer

Just be honest with him and tell him.

MrSmithee · Answer

sounds like u solved it.

Anonymous · Answer

Ngl I actually laughed out loud to this

noohair · Answer

Tell the truth.

BestWoman · Answer

Why u don't have

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Just tell him that

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