It has been over 2 years and I still haven’t meet my boyfriends kids yet. I’m waiting patiently for that day to come when I get to meet them. Is 2 years a long wait to get introduced?
Is 2 years a long wait to get introduced to his kids?
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Yup, too long. People who have done this before suggest a minimum of 6 months before an intro, but no one is saying 2 years is good. Considering people often get married after a year of knowing someone, I think after a year, your partner should believe and trust in you enough that you are sticking around and won't just leave at the first opportunity. He should know your character by now to know that you are safe and stable and responsible enough to meet his kids. Two years is a ridiculously long time to have never have met them if you've been fully together that long. Your Spider sense should be tingling and you should honestly start questioning if he's leading a double life that you're an unwilling and unknowing participant in and/or is he stringing you along waiting for someone else or looking for the nearest exit in your relationship.
Want to find out? Go tell him you'd like to meet his kids next weekend and that you are wanting to be a part of all parts of his life as it has been two years and (I'm assuming this part) you've done nothing to indicate that you're not ready for all of you to move on as a potential family. See what he says. Watch his body language and how he explains to you, if he does, why after all these years that's somehow still not possible. Then it's up to you to figure some things out....
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seems very long to me.. I think the max I heard of was like a year, but with a very slow pace of dating until getting very serious. did you meet his friends and other family members? I'd worry myself if he was running some double life.
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Two questions, does he know that you want to meet them and how old are they. If they are very young then he could have concerns about their ability to process the situation and compartmentalize it appropriately and in a healthy rational way. If they are older and he does know that you want to meet them, then have a heart to heart sit down discussion with him and talk about the situation and get a straight answer from him. If you feel that he needs time to think about things and decide how he wants to proceed, then give him maybe a week as a reasonable amount of time to think about it since you've been together for 2 years and press him on a response after that amount of time and don't take no for an answer on an answer to that request.
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That depends on purely on the kid, not you or your boyfriend. If the kid has not yet moved on, then there's nothing you can do other than talk to your partner about it. Talk to him and try to figure out why it's taking so long. If it's cause the kid's not ready then you're gonna have to wait.
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That is a very long time. How often does he see them? To me that’s a sign that he’s perfectly happy with things as they are. If you want more, it’s time to end this and look for someone who wants that with you,
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Your business, but my mom was a single mom. Speaking as a child, I could have gone my entire life having never met the guy that she was involved with.
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That's way too long. Have you ever been to where he lives? If not, I'd be suspicious that he's still together with the baby mama.
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It depends. Maybe the child is emotional and wouldn’t handle it well. If I was single and dating I wouldn’t bring him around the kids for at least a year.
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Seems a bit long my girlfriend felt comfortable me meeting her kid after about 5-6 months
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That does seem a bit of a long time. Maybe his baby momma is still in the picture?
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Depends how young they are and how emotionally vulnerable he thinks they are.
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Kaç yaşındasın? otuz yaşın üzerindeysen muhtemelen seni meşgul ediyordur
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It's not about you. It's a difficult situation - be patient if you have good intent
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He is being 1 stupid or 2 he is still with his wife or mother of his kids
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For me that would be too long...
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that does seem like a while but-- idrk
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2 years? Yes kinda much, you can kindly ask him.
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Yeah kind of a long wait.
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Yes thats a very long wait!
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It's a little long.
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For sure.
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Yeah
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kinda...
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yes, it is
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