Girls, My boyfriend's sister is crazy, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and I really love him but his little sister is a psycho. Let me tell you how psycho..

She always screams and yells at him and when she is mad she punches and kicks him, he is quite a bit bigger then her so usually she doesn't hurt him but earlier last night she stormed into his bedroom while we were cuddling and yelled at him for using her towel (which was an accident and it was actually me at used it because he got it out of the cupboard for me)

He was trying to explain what happened but she just yelled louder and slapped him in the face and then when he grabbed his face, she punches him in his testicles!! REALLY HARD! then she spat at him and walked out and said "have fun making babies her now with those, bitch" and then slammed the door.

I have never seen him cry from anything since we started dating but he was curled in a ball crying and heaving and sweating it was horrific to see! And it lasted for hours! I would love to be able to have children with him one day so I really don't want her to do that again...

I talked to him about it this morning and he said he is afraid of her and his Mom always takes her side... What do we do and from what I just told you, do you think she is an actual psychopath?

[Kydill13]

I think she’s jealous that you’re the special person in his life. How old is she? She sounds like she’s really young. It might be a good idea to sit down with her to set boundaries? Like, if tell her to chat to you you guys if she’s upset about something. Or I would change the door knob to have a lock on it if the boundaries talk doesn’t go well.

[Asker]

She is 13 and he said she has always been aggressive and mean but it has gotten worse since we started dating so it could be that.. he tries to talk to her about her behaviour but she just has an attitude and doesn't listen :/

[Kydill13]

It might be a maturity thing for sure. I would chat to her to let her know that you’re not taking him away from her. He’s always going to be her brother. And that you and sister can be friends if she wants.

[Anonymous]

Does she act like this around anyone else, or is it just to her brother?

Her comment after she punched him in the nuts is very telling, though... if she isn't careful, she might end up actually popping his balls

Have you spoke to her about her behaviour yourself?

[Asker]

She is a fiery girl and always gets in fights at school but she is especially nasty to him and does not hold back at all and will hit him with full force.. yeh she is smaller but when she hits him with full force in his face or testicles area it looks so brutal and painful

I have spoken to her with him before but she has no interest in what we said to her and she just has an attitude and says things like just sleep with one eye open then...

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm, it does seem like some general anger issues then, not just a personal grudge

You said she's only 13? Can she really punch hard enough to make a grown man cry?

[Asker]

She does have anger issues in my opinion and she needs to get help for it because she doesn't have any friends because of it..

And yeh it does not take much apparently.. he said it is the most painful thing that she does to him and he said he would rather her punch him in the face then in that area and I think she knows it because when ever she is arguing with him she will raise her first and look at his crotch area and he covers up right away and I think she gets a thrill from that in some screwed up way

[Opinion Owner]

And she understands the potential consequences? That her brothers balls could be completely crushed and he'd never be able to have kids?

If she understands the dangers and still does it... he is right to be scared of her. Why doesn't he move out?

[Asker]

I am not sure if she understands that at her age because I can't remember if I did then either but I just didn't have a brother so I would have thought they would have discussed it earlier in there lives or there mother would have at least.. either she does understand and just does not care that she could damage him like that or she doesn't understand and just hits him there because she realized that it really hurts him.. I would like to think it is because she just doesn't understand and isn't just being evil and actively trying to hurt his balls to prevent him from being able to make babies with them or something like that...

He has not moved out because we both just turned 18 and it is hard to save enough right now

[Opinion Owner]

It really does seem to me that she wants to break his balls... if he can't move out I don't envy him that's for sure

You have mentioned the mother a few times, what is her view on the whole thing? Surely she must be protective of her own son's fertility?

[Asker]

She doesn't get involved much and she is very distant from them both since there father left and she expects him to be kind of like the man of the house but he has a lot on his plate already with finishing school and college and so on, I am not sure if she even knows that she is hitting him in his testicles that hard because I think he is embarrassed to talk to his Mom about it because he feels weak or something like that

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that makes sense, she probably doesn't think it's that serious given the age difference but to get her on side you definitely need to make it clear that she's going for the groin and not just normal roughhousing

[Asker]

Oh no it is certainly not rough housing... I have a sister and I know what rough housing is but this is abusive

[NikiNikkiNiki]

Oh my God! I feel so sorry for your boyfriend, his poor nuts 😥

How often does she do this? It can be very damaging!

With her saying, "have fun making babies her now with those, bitch", it sounds to me like she doesn't like you and is taking that out on her brother? Maybe she's telling the truth, she hopes you and he don't have babies so she's smacking his nuts around hoping it's less likely? I dunno

[Asker]

She does it more and more often since she has become a teenager he said but it is usually just threats or trying to make him flinch but when she gets THAT mad she actually hits him but I have not seen her hit him in the face that hard and this is the first time I have actually seen with my own eyes her hitting his balls and it was horrible to see because he has said she has done it before but I had not seen it until this happened and I wish I didn't see it

I just don't know what her problem is with me I never did anything to her :(

[NikiNikkiNiki]

Does she kick or stomp on his testicles, or just punch? She probably can't do too much damage if it's just her hands, though there's always a chance 😥

I bet that was hard to see your boyfriend like that, I feel so sorry for the both of you - especially if you hope to have kids... I worry if this becomes a habit she might actually cause lasting damage, though it sounds like she already does it fairly regularly...

[Asker]

I don't know if she does anything specific but he has just said she will hit him there if she gets the chance to catch him there off guard and is really mad.. I think she just does whatever is easiest at that time , if she can kick him there she does or if she can punch him there she does or throw something at him and aims for that area.. I think it hurts him no matter which way

I really don't want her to cause him damage there because I love him so much and I want to have children with him one day and it would make me so upset to think that his sister and her anger issues could ruin that for us..

[StephBelsten]

Oh God that sounds like torture for him 😖

Are his balls not swollen? I heard they swell up when they get hit too much...

Also I think I already know the answer but why doesn't he just fight back?

[NikiNikkiNiki]

Well that's good at least, kicks and stomps would probably do more damage than punches I imagine...

Does his mom not stop it?

[NikiNikkiNiki]

@StephBelsten makes a good point too, why not fight back if it's so bad?

[Asker]

@StephBelsten no they were not swollen they look normal size and shape still but that is why it is scary because I read that even if there is no visible damage since they are organs that are producing sperm if they get hit enough or hard they can have trouble producing the sperm and we would not be able to tell if she has always hurt the sperm or not...

He does not really fight back but he will push her away or restrain her but she does it a lot when he is not expecting it and she is quite fast and once she hits them it's pretty much over and he needs to sit down.. he said he is afraid she will walk in while he is asleep and just punch them when he can't even react or protect himself so he is afraid to fight back because of how she might retaliate later on not just in the moment

[NikiNikkiNiki]

That's smart honestly, I can't imagine how bad it'd be if she got him while sleeping! So is there nothing he can do to stop it? I can't think of anything else

Wait, they can still look the same but still be broken? I didn't know that, that must make you so much more worried 😥 She might have already messed his sperm up and you wouldn't know...

[Asker]

Yeh and its so f*cked up because it's not that she even has to do it but it's also the psychological trauma that he has because he is afraid to sleep comfortably in his boxers/underwear/bare because he thinks she might find something that makes her angry and she will just come in and hit him there it's so cruel..

Yes I read about it online and that is why it is so scary because she may have already damaged them and I might not even know!!

[NikiNikkiNiki]

He sleeps bare? Even just underwear would be devastating but nothing... she wouldn't do that, would she?

I didn't know that, I just assumed you'd be able to tell! Let's hope that that isn't the case...

[Asker]

When it's hot he likes to sleep in less clothes and I can't imagine her hitting his bare balls sack but if he has linen on then she doesn't seem to care at all because when she hit him during this instance it was directly under thin sheets and nothing else because we had the heating on and he was hot already so she clearly doesn't care if she touches them which is gross to me but anyway

[StephBelsten]

She really has no boundaries, huh

Honestly if she continues like this I think it's only a matter of time before your boyfriend is unable to give you children 😥

[Asker]

@StephBelsten please don't say that... I don't know what to do about it tho!

[NikiNikkiNiki]

Ooh, I had an idea! Maybe your boyfriend could try to resist the pain of one of her punches, and she'll think that he's getting used to it and won't bother anymore?

Other than that... I think I agree with Steph 😖

[Anonymous]

Ouch, you need to talk to her before she destroys your boyfriend's balls. I have a cousin who lost a testicle after her sister kicked him.

[Asker]

OMG!! That can happen? 😱 Your poor cousin! Why would a sister do that to her brother? I don't have a brother so anything to do with guys bits is all new to me but I didn't know they can be damaged that bad from just a kick! Horrible...

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, they can be damaged that bad from just a kick, testicles are the weakest spot in the male body. You can google "Will Zeven" if you wanna see a real story, he is a Youtuber who lost a testicle after a girl gave him just one solid kick. I believe this happens a lot more often than most people think.

I remember when I was younger, I used to hit my brothers in the balls when I was mad (I think most girls do that when they're younger because kids are immature) but I stopped doing that after what happened to my cousin, it's dangerous.

I hope your boyfriend's sister stops doing that, looks like he's already suffered A LOT from just one punch :(

[Asker]

😱😱😱 you are scaring me.. because she always threatens to kick him there or punch him there or as she calls it 'sack whack' him and she has gotten him there before but not such a hard and direct hit like that before where he cried and almost puked.. can they be damaged so badly that he can't have kids even if they are both still in there and look normal tho?

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry, I don't know that much about balls. But I think your boyfriend should see a doctor if her sister keeps hurting his balls. I'm a little worried about him.

[AvaOneLasTime]

I could knee her in the clitoris for you

[AvaOneLasTime]

on a second thought, you should do it.

[SecretGardenBlood65]

She has problem with you i think

[Asker]

What makes you think that? I never done anything bad to her and she does not talk to me much and when she does she can be quite nice

[SecretGardenBlood65]

What they do is not normal. either she is jealous of you or she loves her brother excessively

[Asker]

I find it hard to tell.. she never opens up and always has a nasty attitude when we try to speak to her and there mom is so distant from them both that she expects them to just work it out by themselves

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Oww a sick family picture