Are most broke guys insecure in relationships?

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VinnyMac · Accepted Answer

Whether a guy is secure or not depends on them. Honestly I know speaking for myself being broke is really hard. When you're broke you cannot always do many of the things that you want to. It's like when people say money doesn't matter. That's not really a true statement because unless you have money how are you going to put a roof over your head or food on the table. Even if your fortune and somehow blessed with having money come to you in your time of need, that money makes a difference in your life and that money does matter. Every person has many things to offer without money, but I'm pretty sure if a guy says they're insecure they may not be being honest with themselves, unless it really doesn't bother them or it's not something that will have to large of an impact on their lives, their family, friends and the relationships they find themselves in.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Not at all. I mean, they could be, but they don't have to be. I was broke most of my life, but I never worried about how not having money would hurt a relationship. If a woman cares whether or not I have money and wants to break up with me because I don't have enough money for her liking, she's welcome to kick rocks and I'll feel lucky to be rid of someone with that attitude.

Now that I'm no longer broke, I'm still not throwing money around, and I could be mistaken for a broke guy. If it keeps women away who are sniffing around for money, I feel lucky. I have no problem finding many women who appreciate me for the many non-monetary benefits of my companionship.

Love has very little to do with money, at least as far as my experience goes.

shaysh87 · Accepted Answer

Im not interested in dating a broke guy, not because I'm interested in fancy dinners or being bought expensive gifts. It's because a grown man being broke, especially if he is in his late 20s-30s, shows he is incapable of taking care of himself as an adult.

who would find a grown adult, to be incapable of taking care of themselves, to be sexy?

someone without a job is never sexy.
someone who can't pay for food and has to ask me to help pay for their rent is never hot.

the only people who would find these things to be attractive are men with issues or problems. They like to date broke women because it makes them feel better about their lack of success in life.

Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

I don't know about most. A lot may be but not all of them are. This is an unpopular opinion and I expect some downvotes but guys who get mad at women for not wanting to date broke men certainly are insecure. If a woman wants a man that is financially stable some men get mad and call her a gold digger. Some people don't actually know the difference between wanting a financially stable person and being a gold digger...

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Im guessing it depends on why he is broke. There are a lot of reasons why someone might be broke.
- If it's because of incompetence to find work or keep a workplace then I'd assume they might not have all that much confidence generally.
- Maybe it's the case that he's got too much confidence and that causes him to make bad decisions.

But confidence in relationships could be a different thing although they sure are related and do affect eachother.
Some part might not in fact be confidence at all regardless of economy, it could be false/acted confidence or outright arrogance.
In some cases the relationship fuels his confidence temporarily.

What I am saying is that it's a complicated issue, like most things and subjects on gag.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

No. I was broke when I got my first few. Well let me know say broke. I had jobs and was on my own but I didn’t have a lot of extra money. It’s a chance to help weed out the gold diggers. If she isn’t going to stay with you because you are broke. You are much better off. Even if you are wealthy the test is to take her to a hole in the wall, dump place to eat or hangout. If she leaves you on read and doesn’t reach out after you try too. Then you know she was only there for the money. I did that I lost out a bit but I don’t regret it.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

I don’t think so. First and foremost, it depends what age they. College student vs a guy my age.
I have to ask though. What is your definition of broke?
In my experience, I would say the rich guy is more prone to being insecure and it’s usually something specific.
The poor guy may just have bad self-esteem. The rich guy may be the person that never got anyone in high school. Put all his energy towards work. He’s a complete mess.

Some thinking that money is the only key to happiness. That’s an insecurity on its own.

The rich guy with a small penis.

While it’s good to have money, it’s definitely not everything. It is some, but not everything.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was broke the only 2 insecurities I had was (1) that a rich man could come anytime and "steal" my girlfriend (i only had 1 "girlfriend" at that time) with his riches and (2) the girl would be fed up with me being inhumanly low on money and therefore would stray around and look for someone more resourceful than me.

I know some ways to keep a relationship happy - with or without money. But it seems, that my ex was not interested in real feelings for each other. In the end she has found herself a rich guy in a bigger city. That was 3 years ago now.

Anonymous · Answer

A broke man can never work, irrespective of how good he is, women will always, always go after men with more resources. I am broke but not because I am lazy but I am in grad school and working hard. My girl left me while I was doing my master's.
I didn't have much money or time still I took her on dates, city tours with public transport, cooked for her for months. Most of the time gave her the expensive but good food from my share of food too, took care of her while she was sick for two days. Did it work?
No, she always wanted bike or car rides, be taken to expensive restaurants as other guys of my age are doing so with their girlfriends. Eventually, she left, most women I know are like this. I have decided not to date till I get a job.

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

At different times I have been rich and I have been flat assed broke and I can tell you that it makes a huge difference. When it comes to asking yourself what you have to offer in a relationship money is a big one. I know it shouldn’t matter, but let’s face it, it does. Nobody wants to support someone else and that’s what ends up happening if you date a person that is broke.

Wester1967 · Answer

I carry on like I don't have much money. Just to see how women react. Nothing cuts to the chase like a hot knife through butter. 95% of them are vulgar provision hounds and gold diggers. And that number might be low. Take that ho sh*t somewhere else honey

muscularbumblebee · Answer

No don’t think so but depends on the individual. I’ve dated both rich and broke guys and based on experience richer guys tend to worry that the girl is after money or career potential etc whereas broke guys don’t have that much to loose (in comparison) so can be more themselves and secure and comfortable in the relationship

Juxtapose · Answer

I don't have any debt, have over a thousand saved up at all times and have health insurance that fully covers me at no cost to myself.

Sure I don't make a lot of spending money but I can pay my half of the rent and have never been late on a rent payment.

BipBipLeddus · Answer

Most broke people are, gender aside. Girls tend to have the option of leaning into the outdated "well, it's a man's job to do the hard work, I'm a homemaker" angle.

Men never have that option unless they have a sugar mama.

nitsuj86 · Answer

Some guys don't give a shit. Hot broke guys can get women, and have no issues being broke.

Broke average or below-average men. Yes, they will be insecure, because women want a man that makes money. It's just a fact.

jshm2 · Answer

Can't see why they would be as those are two very different things.

Sure if they're married then yes it will be a situation. But if just cohabiting or dating, then neither is really committed to anything anyway.

FreyaRed · Answer

No. My ex was often overconfident despite he was always broke. 2 days in month party and dining in expensive restaurants, remaining 28 days sitting in front of PC and eating noodles with cheep instant cheese sauce or canned ravioli.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I wouldn't be surprised if that is true. So many women nowadays go only after money and have unrealistic expectations.

TheorionMage · Answer

Male or female... you EARN your Companion's fidelity DAILY. Old Appalachian proverb: "A WELL-FED dog sleeps on YOUR porch and doesn't bolt off to join the pack to chase wild game."

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Having money can bring a confidence being broke cannot. Being insecure in that sense can be applied on both the girl and the boy, unless one is them is gold digger.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

I think men can be insecure for all kinds of reasons, it's not necessarily about being broke. Though I do believe a lot of men base their self-esteem off of how much they earn/can provide.

Lionman95 · Answer

I´d say yes because we guys are educated to be the providers. So being broke makes it harder to fill that role which can make a guy insecure.

Flower7 · Answer

Yep, definitely! A lot of guys won’t even date at all if they feel like they’re broke.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

No, he's just getting his turn with her if she likes broke men. Women with broke men usually have low standards, we are what we attract 🤷

wingattebaby16 · Answer

i think so.. they get worried when you won't pay for something stupid they want.. then whine like you are their mom...

RawIronhide · Answer

Yes, insecurities are normal for young broke dudes. It's par for the course.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I would say so. I would think, and sort of hope, that girls would be too. Being broke isn't fun, and having to rely on the other person to pay for everything can be humiliating.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It's my personal insecurity. If I feel I don't have enough money to be in a serious relationship or marriage I'll rather stay single.

I'm getting better at it as it's not as bad as it was years ago but it's still difficult for me. 😳

4eyes2mouths · Answer

I usually date broke girls so they understand my situation before we go out.

exitseven · Answer

It depends. Some guys can get away with being broke if they are good looking or charming and this gives them confidence.

jahaims · Answer

I started my relationship broke. My financial well being doesn't change my level of security. How secure I am comes from who I am as a person.

Slartybartfast · Answer

Broke men can't have a relationship. At least I've never seen that.

rabbitzzz · Answer

Depends on dick size I guess. I mean being broke and small dick is double whammy.

Darine123 · Answer

As they should. I wouldn’t date a guy who couldn’t afford me

Raphaëlle · Answer

If a guy thinks he needs money to maintain a relationship/get a relationship, then yes.

Anonymous · Answer

In my view guys are not allowed to be broke, if they are broke they will never have a woman in their life, women need a man with money in their wallet, as that's the only thing women care about nowadays.

Anonymous · Answer

I am in a financial crisis right now. I am no dummy and I make a good salary. But this is definitely impacting my self esteem with dating.

fred_durst · Answer

men are provider , if he is broke , any of his relationships will never work

captain_voidwalker · Answer

This is a trick question, there are no broke guys in relationships

msc545 · Answer

Most broke guys can't even get into relationships. Money is a very important thing to women.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Yes they are that's why they try to Saratoga women who have their shit together

boobliker · Answer

not at all had one girl help me through college and good in-bed that even more.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I think so, But most of us Guys can get insecure about a lot of things.

driven159 · Answer

anyone that is broke would have worries how to take care of their SO or date

TallAnon · Answer

Never been broke, but seen plenty of broke guys with confidence

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Never saw woman who would get boyfriend without car or presents those are min requirements

Anonymous · Answer

No because if a female makes it an issue, she is trash anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

I sure as hell would be. This wouldn't be the first time I had a relationship end because of shit like that.

Bjitddry · Answer

Dumb women will open their legs for them anyway so why would they be insecure?

VanillaSalt · Answer

Define broke…making 50k/yr or being homeless?

Vikkrram · Answer

It's totally depends on a guy...

MCheetah · Answer

No. It's different depending on the guy.

Bricealan · Answer

I would be if I were 'broke'

GlassTop · Answer

Would you even date a broke guy?

TheFlak38 · Answer

broke guys are single

nawtee_me · Answer

why would they be? Money can not buy love...

TsAubreyKate · Answer

What do you mean we all are broke on the inside

legalboxers · Answer

Im insecure in all relationships

Andro36 · Answer

i think most of them are

jimmy2 · Answer

Lol in these suck ass times

Iron_Man · Answer

Of course they are

Luopio27 · Answer

I would be.

mr2inches · Answer

Yes maam

tom_the_dating_snob · Answer

no not at all

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