I come across as so confident but why when it comes to my feelings towards a boy do I back down out of fear they won’t like me?

[Anonymous]

Whether it’s sleeping with them, or pics, ur it seems like when it comes to guys this is the only area in life I struggle to be confident and stand up for myself in. I have been in an extremely toxic situation in the past and that lasted for 3 years and it didn’t end on my terms so is it my fault? Why am I the way I am? I know I can’t find love or be loved until I am fully confident that i love myself but sometimes I don’t know how? Why am I so afraid to stand up and say “no I don’t feel comfortable with that I’m not into that and if you don’t like it then too bad”? I just wish I wasn’t like this. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. This has definitely kept me from allowing myself to be open and ready for healthy relationships. What do I need to change?

[Helotome]

First of all your half is still out there. Mindset is everything. Don't expect to date the first male you interact with. If you find a male to you find attractive then approach him with light conservation. May be you are overthinking about where soulmate is which is fine. Don't overthink and put yourself out there. If you don't the person then you may start to feel insecure or shy which is totally fine. As you get to know the person then you will open up slowly. Enjoy your self. Start with your mindset + action. Wear beautiful clothes that you like and be you! I root for you 🌹

[Contra1166]

I got the same problem with women, approaching a lady I fancy gives me panic attack level anxiety.

[In_Trance]

You don't believe you're good enough. That's the problem

[Wise4myage]

Do you have a fear of commitment?