I’m pregnant and terrified to tell my parents. Any advice?

[Honey123]

I’m 26 and I’ve been with my partner for nearly 2 years and we’re engaged. I know this sounds ridiculous but my parents are super strict and don’t approve of my partner and also don’t approve of children before marriage. I’ve tried to get my mum to be more understanding of the times and that things aren’t the way they were when she was my age. I’m terrified to tell her. However this is something my partner and I both wanted so we are completely ecstatic about it.

[Femphile_xoxo]

Omg!! Congrats on the baby 😘.

Sucks to hear about your parents. Tbh, I'd tell them after you guys got married if you're worried that they'll react really badly. Just remember that they'll still be your family either way and I think that if they react badly, they'll have to come to terms with that.

My mom can be pretty iffy about stuff too so I try and tell her big stuff like that when she's in a good mood. If she reacts badly, and I know it's so hard, try to just remain calm and tell her that you were hoping she would be happy about it because you're happy about it. And that there's no changing it and you're hoping she'll come around. (Maybe throw in an "I love you" somewhere in there).

Good luck with your mom!! And if she reacts badly, I hope she'll come around (she probably will! How could she not be excited a little bit on the inside about a grandkid 😉)

[Honey123]

Thank you! It will be the first grandchild which I feel is a good and bad thing all at the same time. Unfortunately we don’t have any wedding plans as of yet so I have a feeling she’ll need to find out about baby before we can get married unless we pull something together really quickly!

[Femphile_xoxo]

Omg totally take the time to plan out your wedding whenever y'all want! A grandkid is such a big deal that I think even if she reacts badly, she can't *not* come around eventually.

[Apulu_Imback]

Wow congratulations! You are an adult and your parents will most likely forgive you after they know they are having a grandchild. You aren't a minor that you are scared of being disowned or something. You can live off on your own life with your partner. Just tell them or marry quickly and tell them later. They should be understanding enough.

[SamIam96]

YAY. Congratulations!!!

It stinks that at 27, your parents are ruining what should be one of the happiest moments in your life. I suggest that you tell them the good news. If they don't already know, share your plans for marriage. Talk about being grandparents. How they respond, speaks volumes about their character. If they're good people, they will recognize that the timing is not perfect, but everything else can be -- if they want. If they aren't supportive, you need to do some soul-searching to decide what role you want them to have in forming this new human. Do you want to propagate their negativity?

A lot of ifs. There's a lot of pressure on you to create the future you want with your parents as well as your new baby and your new family. Be strong. You're so close to having everything you want.

[Honey123]

Thank you. They seem to ruin everything that’s meant to be a happy time for me including when I got engaged. I’m almost at the point where if they choose to cut me off I think I’ll be ok with that

[SamIam96]

That's a crummy place to be. If it comes to that be clear: they are making the decision to push you away. You would like things to be different. But, you have a young family to care for. They are your first priority.

[crossdressingrihno]

You're an adult woman you're almost 30
You're within the healthy range of having kids and the family and you've been with this guy for a while and you can make your own damn decisions

If your family is going to get b***** about you having a personality that isn't an exact copy of what they deem to be the personality that you should have then they can f*** off they don't love you as a person they love you as a object basically as a thing or an idea but not as a person

If marrying the person you love and having kids with the person you love is enough for you to ruin a relationship with someone then you've never had a relationship to begin with

[crossdressingrihno]

Fact is if they are willing to cut ties with you over this

Or they are willing to risk your relationship over this then it's better to cut the baggage now than to have to deal with it later when you have a f****** kid in the house

[crossdressingrihno]

I know this isn't the information a lot of people want to hear but it's the information you need to hear

If they're willing to accept you then everything's good there's no problem if they're not though well then I guess bye-bye they can leave maybe even permanently

[crossdressingrihno]

You're starting a family the most important thing right now is picking and choosing who gets to be near that family who gets to affect that family because the people you let near your child are going to be the people who affect how your child lives how your child thinks what your child does and what they say

[crossdressingrihno]

Because you and your husband aren't going to be the only influence on your child's life

[crossdressingrihno]

And overbearing families just aren't good for children

[crossdressingrihno]

Neither is a bunch of arguing and things like that that's not good either that's how kids get depression

[slatyb]

I assume you aren't still living with your parents? How do you tell them? You are an adult. Adults have children. Just tell them. What's the worst that can happen? If they get ugly, just end the conversation. Tell them you will talk to them when they can be civil.

[Honey123]

I moved in with my partner a few months ago due to their toxicity but I still have a fear of them (mainly my mother)

[slatyb]

Why? What is the worst that can happen? They stop talking to you?

[whirled_up_girl]

If you and your partner are happy about it that's what matters. It sucks that feel you can't tell your parents but they are the ones who will have to find a way to be okay with it. I would think they would want a relationship with you and their grandchild.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I want wish you and your partner the best along with the baby, it's sad when things happen but lay things in God's hands and hope for the best also don't let anyone hit you meaning your parents if they do call the police that is abuse never deal with them being abusive towards you 👼🙏

[legalboxers]

fuck them. plain and simple. you are an adult. Fuck your parents, and the noise "no sex before marriage" "no children before marriage" or whatever shit people say on here (I know you motherfuckers will downrate me so bring it bitches). You need to do whats in your heart and listen to your close friends.

[AviatorTom]

You and your partner are happy about your pregnancy. Go ahead and tell your parents that you are pregnant and that both of you are happy about it. You may be surprised how your parents react when they realize a grandchild is on the way.

[DizzyDesii]

Well just prepare to love your family from a distance. Focus on your man and your baby. If your parents can't deal after you tell em, run for the hills and love em from a distance

[Agape93]

Fuck your parents. This isn't about them and what they want, it's about you and what you want. If they can't be happy for you, cut them loose.

[gabby100]

They are going to find out sometime. It would be better coming from you. At 26 you are a big girl, the responsabilty is yours.

[OddBeMe]

Parents can be surprisingly “forgiving” when told they’ll be grandparents

[CallMeEd]

Get married and tell them

[moviedude714]

Having a boy or girl?

[clemdenim]

do you live with parents