Is it true that girl who doesn't even want a relationship can still get it, where as A man who wants a relationship has to put in effort to get it?

[chris_987]

I know plenty of girls that have been in relationships but where never looking for them. I don't think the same thing is true for guys.

[MaKa_newbie]

I started dating my boyfriend when I was 20. Before that I dated guys but only a date or two, never had a boyfriend or dated anyone for a longer period. I didn't want nor searched for a relationship. He was my brothers friend, we talked something random in insta about my brother and after a few days I spontaniusly asked him out (it was some joke I didn't mean nothing serious by it). we went out, had a good time, continued to talk, went on couple more dates and here we are after almoust 3 years living together in a completely different country. So there is no rule I think. If you like someone you like him. If you fall in love, you fall in love. Never before did even one guy made such an impression on me as he did.

[chris_987]

It's fair to say that guys can't think that way, because most girls are seeking attention from guys hence the leggings and make-up, there not put here trying to give guys attention.

[MaKa_newbie]

Maybe you are looking for a wrong kind of girl or maybe on a wrong place. That is the same thing he said before I made that joke about meeting... I, for exaple, don't wear make-up (maybe mascara sometimes), I wear baggy hoodies and leggings or sweatpants, swear, drink beer, smoke... so I'm not really girly as you could say

[chris_987]

I don't know if that has anything to do with the fact girls want guys to approach them. Girls mostly see strange guys on the street as a potential threat so no girl see all guys as an option. Men aren't threatened by girls physical so it makes sense for us to approach them. But it takes skill to make a girl who doesn't know you feel safe. if he gains this skill he might just use it to see how many girls he can attract.

[MaKa_newbie]

We are in 21st century. Girls should deffinetly start aproaching guys! I did that quite ofter, especially in clubs. I had very bad experince with some dudes coming up and grabing me and stuff, but I know that not all men are like that. But I also had quite a few guys that really respecfuly came and asked me if I would like a drink, or a dance or something. And to them I was never agressive. So I also, as a girl, think that it is about how you aproch a girl. For example, if you just come strait up: "Hey, you wanna drink?" It is coming across to me you just want to get laid. But if you come respectfuly and kindly: "Hey, can I buy you a drink, if it's ok with you?" Totally different story. There you showed me respect of asking if I want you to buy me. stupid example but I hope you get the idea.

[chris_987]

Your prove my point by saying it depends how you approach a girl. Men aren't afraid if a woman only wants sex so a man would never turn down a girl because of how she said something. Assuming girls did start approaching guys.

[MaKa_newbie]

Exacly. Men will say yes to anything that walk on two legs and has a hole to put a penis in. And how you aproach is big key in what kind of girl you bring home.

[chris_987]

They say yes because it's most likely never gonna happen, would you jump on the first guy the showed you attention of you never got any attention from a man ever on your life.

[MaKa_newbie]

So if I understood correctly, you are saying that of course men say yes to a woman aproaching as it will never happen again? And why would anyone jump on a first person that aproaches them? It is so desperate

[chris_987]

Men are literally paying for girls just to talk to them. Are you not aware of how men just don't get any attention from the opposite sex. Well I guess of your girl you wouldn't know

[MaKa_newbie]

First thing first. NEVER and I mean NEVER did a guy pay for my drink. I can pay for my own drink. If he offers me, I would pay him and continue a conversation. And I told you it is a stupid example but just wanted to give you an impression on different aproaches and how that affects a girl. And no you don't have to pay a girl for her attention. But still, in my opinion, who asked he pays (drinks, date, movie).

[MaKa_newbie]

And a little advice, don't meet girls in the clubs (if you want a nice girl).

[chris_987]

Well I was talking about onlyfans and strip clubs, do you think that if a guy had hundreds of girls in his dm's and girls sending him pussy pics, do you think he would be buying anything for a girl?

[MaKa_newbie]

Honestly, I don't understand the concept of OF. But in any way it doesn't make sence to me that girls/guys do that. I mean those pictures/videos or whatever for people to pay to see that. I don't know honestly who is more dumb in that case. Person selling their body or a person paying just to see a naked/nude picture or whatever.

[MaKa_newbie]

For a christ sake you have pornhub for free or just go and get laid

[chris_987]

If they could get laid they wouldn't be on pornhub or onlyfans. I don't think you have good comprehension skills

[MaKa_newbie]

English is not my mother tongue, so maybe I din't understand something good enough. But why would you lower yourself to a point that you want to pay for some nudes? At least today there is tinder, hindge and all those websites. Go out, meet people. Lover doesn't just fall from a sky. It's not like in a porn, oh here comes a plumer, college girl, fitness instructor or whatever... and in my opinion it is better to stick to a free pornhub than to go and pay on OF for a photo

[chris_987]

I went on tinder never got one response, there was show called the tinder swindler where a guy pretended to be rich and all the girls responded to him and he was able to used them and steal there money. So girls are only on tinder to look for one type of guy.
I literally said the girls don't have to meet people because guys approach them, so we literally went around in circles and you never understood anything I said but it's fine.

[Sevenpointfive]

yeah, that's true. girls have told me several times that a relationship just kind of happened