How can you be ''the love of their life'' if you're gonna dump them anyways?

[Anonymous]

I've heard these known phrases too many times.
''You're the love of my life''
''You're my soulmate''
''We're meant to be forever''

You're going to dump them anyways so what was all that enery, talk and time spend for? It doesn't make sense to be someone's ''soulmate'' but only be their temporarily girlfriend/boyfriend that can be replaced any moment. There is nothing holding you together without kids... nothing. Total waste of time. Too much for nothing.

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If you can dump them and then actually have kids with someone else then that person was NEVER the love of your life.

[Ekvark]

Yeah those phrases mean absolutely nothing. Yeah you can love someone to death and want to be with them, but at the end of the day things can change and no amount of
sweet-ums can change how another feels or what they do of their feelings change.

[Asker]

I'm willing to bet the couples who actually settle down and had kids aren't too much into lovebombing BS. They don't say much, they are straight to the point and into actions, realistic goals and not empty ''one day, ''oh my love'' empty words with no plans.

[In_Trance]

People say all kinds of dumb shit when they meet someone

[Asker]

It's really BS. My logic is that if they're not even going to commit and form a family (kids) then those words are worthless.

[Anonymous]

Do you know something I dont?👀

[Asker]

Yes... there are too many lovebombers. They say those same phrases but they're never going to form a family with you... then they likely have kids with someone else.

[Opinion Owner]

Damn... I'm shocked right now.

[Opinion Owner]

Did this happen to you?

[Opinion Owner]

there's no point in having kids without commitment

[Asker]

No I didn't but I've seen a couple of my friends and others falling for that BS.

[Opinion Owner]

I might be on of them too😭😭 but I don't know I think he's genuine?

[Asker]

These are my question for you.
- When did you meet him? months ago, a year ago, etc
- For how long have you been dating him?
- Did you guys talk about your purpose in dating, goals, plans?
- Are his words followed by actions (ex: he promises a vacation next month and he does that)?
- Are you guys living together? If so have you establish a timeframe?
Base on your question, I'll let you know if he's genuine or BSing you?

[Opinion Owner]

I met him 3 years ago
We were dating for a few months before he asked me to be his girlfriend. Then a couple days or weeks later he says "what you think about having my last name" weve been dating for 2 years now living together for 1 year. Wow... so he always does what he says and promises right now we are saving up for 3 vacations. He always brings me around his family and talks about me to his friends but gets a little nervous when others question him about when he's marrying me. He cooks and very much cleans around the house. he's always down to go on dates and adventures with me... dang... he's really amazing but let me know what you think

[Opinion Owner]

I haven't established a time frame because I dont even know. But I said I want a ring b4 kids

[Asker]

If you're between ages 30-35 then you don't really have much time if you want kids after getting married. If you've been in the dating stage for 3 years that's enough time for him to decide already. The moving in together part tends to slow things and makes more men get too comfortable and take too much time.
As much as you care for him, he's sweet, he's taking you on trips and is promising many times, while you're still just his girlfriend, without a timeframe established, without a ring in your finger and no wedding set... you're not getting nothing out of all that.

[Asker]

How much are you willing to wait? You can't afford another 3 years wasted.

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly I'm scared of marriage but I'm ready in another year or so for kids at least... and to at least be engaged

[Asker]

Have you expressed to him that you're ready in another year? If not then he's going to take whatever time till he's finally ready or he won't come around. Many men like to take all their time if the woman doesn't establish a timeframe.

[Opinion Owner]

Noted. Thank you