I’ve been seeing this guy for just over 6 months. I’m 28 and he’s 50. We’ve had a few disagreements here and there but aside from that everything has been going well. One thing I’ve noticed though is the lack of intimacy with him and sometimes it can be frustrating. Especially when he tells me he wants us to have more sex and tells me that it will get better like he has done for the past few months. We’d not had sex for 3 weeks and he said we would have some on Friday night just gone. Friday came and he made a comment to me about how we’ve ‘not had any action’. It upset me because he does this a lot and makes me feel like it’s my fault. So I got defensive and told him I didn’t like it when he says that and I wish we were more intimate together. He said that he likes to cook for me and wants us to watch films with the two nights we have together. So I told him it seemed wrong for him to prioritise movies over intimacy especially when we do only get two nights a week together. He got really annoyed by this, like it was such a big deal for him to be intimate with me. I told him that just taking 30 minutes out for us to have intimacy together would be nice. He then said ‘well maybe you should come over every two weeks’. I found this confusing because why would he want to spend less time together in order for us to be more intimate? I kept apologising to him over the next couple of days (with no apology from him) because he said he can’t see us moving on from it. On Monday morning he told me that it was okay and that maybe he does prioritise food and tv above intimacy and that he loved me. Tuesday night he brought the argument up again and I told him we was supposed to be moving on from it. He said ‘good luck with that’. I told him I didn’t want us to split up and that I didn’t mean what I said with malicious intent but he was having none of it. I can’t understand why he’s saying this to me again after admitting he might have got his priorities wrong.
He won’t drop the argument and I feel like he is punishing me for having needs?
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