Is it so wrong to not want your partner to mention how hot other people are?

[Anonymous]

Getting upset over hearing your partner say how hot another person is is often associated with insecurities, but if I mention how another woman is attractive my partner will be mad at me so for her sake I control what I say. I wish the feeling was mutual.

It's wrong. Your partner should respect your feelings.

There's nothing wrong with it. You shouldn't control what they can or can't say.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Depends on context. There's a respectful way to do it and then there is a trashy way to do it that would piss anybody off. And to be clear, if you're pointing out someone else is way hotter than your partner, there is a huge need to be extremely tactful about it. As the receiver of that information, there's a real factor that also needs to be in play that realizes, "Yeah, sometimes other people are hotter than me."

Overall best to avoid it... but my wife knows I'd cheat on her in an instant for a hawt midget. lolz. No shame in my game.

[Anonymous]

I could see how it would be annoying if she was constantly saying these things in front of you, but if it's just every now and then, get over it. Being that insecure will destroy your relationship.

[Asker]

Empathy is certainly not her strong suit. I'm pretty petty though, so whenever it happens I say "You know who's hot? [ this woman ]". I say that a few times changing out the name of some woman she wouldn't know. Last time it was Emma Stone when she said Andrew Garfield.

[WhitneySnow]

It’s not polite to talk about how hot you think other people are when your partner’s listening

[Crankor]

How I view it, it's more about what those persons thoughts are after saying it rather than the saying itself. Ofcourse there's a more respectful way to put it into words as well. I'd say it's not wrong overall though