I honestly can't tell if I'm overreacting or not. But I feel like I need to end my relationship. My boyfriend doesn't know how to pace himself when he drinks and it makes me feel like I can't go out and let loose because his equivalent of "letting loose" is drinking until he blacks out or passes out. I find myself getting irritated when he drinks to the point of being sloppy because it makes me not even want to be around him.
For example: he has invited me to meet him places in the past, just for me to show up and he's not even there. Because he was drunk he wandered off and went somewhere else. And this has happened on more than one occasion.
Most recently, on memorial day we were hanging out with his family and it had started to get dark outside. Mind you, we had been drinking all day and people were already making fun of him for not being able to handle his alcohol.
(Again, the issue is NOT that he is a lightweight, the issue is that he will down a whole can of beer in 2 seconds and just keep going. I'm pretty sure he doesn't know what 'pacing yourself even means' despite bringing this idea to his attention on several occasions.)
Anyways, its dark outside and he asks for some light so he can grab a beer. I gave him light using my phone. I propped it up the same way I had for myself and everyone else ALL day with zero issues. And he sloppily knocks my phone right into the cooler where it is submerged by water.
Fast forward to today, my phone won't turn on and all of the photos of my daughter from the last 2 years are likely lost. I feel like the worst mom ever. And a new phone it will be a constant reminder that he's the reason my phone died and everything was lost. I've cried off and on ever since my phone stopped working. This is a big deal because I don't have family in the picture. There are no other photos, I'm the only one who had them.
Am I being dramatic? Is there even a way to move past this? He can't fix it if that phone doesn't turn back on.
For example: he has invited me to meet him places in the past, just for me to show up and he's not even there. Because he was drunk he wandered off and went somewhere else. And this has happened on more than one occasion.
Most recently, on memorial day we were hanging out with his family and it had started to get dark outside. Mind you, we had been drinking all day and people were already making fun of him for not being able to handle his alcohol.
(Again, the issue is NOT that he is a lightweight, the issue is that he will down a whole can of beer in 2 seconds and just keep going. I'm pretty sure he doesn't know what 'pacing yourself even means' despite bringing this idea to his attention on several occasions.)
Anyways, its dark outside and he asks for some light so he can grab a beer. I gave him light using my phone. I propped it up the same way I had for myself and everyone else ALL day with zero issues. And he sloppily knocks my phone right into the cooler where it is submerged by water.
Fast forward to today, my phone won't turn on and all of the photos of my daughter from the last 2 years are likely lost. I feel like the worst mom ever. And a new phone it will be a constant reminder that he's the reason my phone died and everything was lost. I've cried off and on ever since my phone stopped working. This is a big deal because I don't have family in the picture. There are no other photos, I'm the only one who had them.
Am I being dramatic? Is there even a way to move past this? He can't fix it if that phone doesn't turn back on.
