Why is my boyfriend never mean to me?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes my boyfriend pisses me off and i say things bad about him when im angry. I call him names or say something really rude. He never says anything negative to me and never gets mad at me. A long time ago i would say things and he would tell me all the time that he can "say something he knows will hurt me but he holds himself from saying things like that" Out of everything bad i said about him, he never says anything to me and its impossible for me to make him mad.

[Anonymous]

Because he is thick skinned and does not allow other people to define his emotional state.

If a little kid was having a tantrum and they called you a poo poo head, would you be offended or think it was funny?

That is how your boyfriend sees you when you are raging at him, you are just in an emotional state and dont mean the things that you say and even if you did mean them he isn't going to take your words to heart and start defining himself by your opinion, he decides how he views himself.

[spartan55]

He's mad, trust me. He just has enough respect for you that he doesn't call you names. He also has what you lack, which is self control. There is no excuse for EVER being disrespectful and calling your SO derogatory names just because you are in an argument. Hopefully you are not reacting like that any longer. Hopefully you APOLOGIZE to him when it happens too. Just know that most guys would not tolerate your behavior. Your boyfriend must have the patience of a Saint.

[Graci_e]

You need therapy. Not to be rude, but the way you are acting isn’t healthy and you obviously have some personal issues. I think you should get a therapist to talk through and sort out these issues.

It’s not okay under any circumstances to treat people that way. What you’re doing is considered emotional abuse - you’re hurting him.

Why do you want to make him mad? What inside you causes you to be nasty to him? It’s not okay - like I said, it’s abuse.

Poor freaking guy.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Why would you want to make him mad?

Why are you calling him names?

Isn’t your goal to be happy with this man?
You can’t be happy if you constantly try to hurt each other and make each other mad.

And someday you’ll regret hurting him. Recognize your mistake and try change your behavior. He sounds like an amazing person to me but even he can have a patience and one day he’ll just go.

And you’ll feel sad.

[Aurora1010]

One day you might really piss him off and then he might say everything he meant by that and that he's been holding in from your emotional abuse. What goes around comes back worse.

[slatyb]

"Mean to me?" Emotionally healthy people do not abuse others physically or verbally. What does he do that makes you so angry?

[Blackcosmo]

He seems like a great guy. It's rare to find people like this so try to take it easy on him. He really loves you.

[Levin]

Why do you want him to make you mad?

You sound like a brat.

[JustinTheGreat]

Maybe cause he’s a decent person and knows it’s wrong to be mean to his own partner.
Maybe you should try it…😬

[qwert1234]

He's probably mature.
If he says something negative while you are angry, there would be added stress, specially on his part.

[sheikalana]

He’s a sweet guy but you need to start treating him better if you don’t want to lose him.

[Shamalien]

probably because he’s mature and wants his partner to be happy? Sounds like a catch.

[Anonymous]

I have known a guy like that. It somehow turned me on a lot that he would never get angry at me.

[Anonymous]

he's a keeper and he thinks before he speaks and he doesn't want to lose you especially by saying something that will hurt your feelings and upset you

[Guy13]

There’s a relationship goal for me…

[Guy13]

Breakdown Good qualities of SO so that he/she will talk Nasty at me…

[Still-alive]

calling troll on this one

[LimitedBenefits101]

Mangina.