If men are the gatekeepers of commitment, how can a marriage proposal ever be declined?

[Bostonbutterfly]

If men are the gatekeepers of commitment then it means he has already analyzed it all and taken the major step. It means he was positive sure it was the right timing and the woman would obviously say yes.

How come even today there are still certain proposals that have been rejected? Why aren't all accepted? What happened there? Why would a loving girlfriend say no to him? He's opening the gate and she's saying no to that.

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True story: my mother's friend declined her 1st boyfriend's marriage proposal. After 3 years you would think she would say yes... but it was a no. She dated around a bit and accepted her 4th boyfriend's proposal. I'm confused on how that can ever happened?

[serious]

Well simple that is because relationship consists of two people and in the context of your question, it does not matter what the man thinks, what the man believes. The woman must trust and believe in the exact same way as the man that things will be great in future.

If the woman does not believe or has doubts then of course she will reject or decline the marriage proposal.

[Bostonbutterfly]

I can't help but feel sad for him. I think the only time I would say NO without regrets is if he was a cheater I dumped and he's knocking on the door with a proposal. Otherwise if I the relationship is doing great but if for whatever reason I'm not yet ready (unlikely but if) for marriage, I will accept it but postpone the wedding date. A proposal doesn't mean we're getting married the next day after all... the date can be much later on.

[Bostonbutterfly]

If I love the guy then I don't think I would have heart to decline, even if he did a bit sooner than expected. I would just postpone the wedding with the hopes that I'll be ready by then.

[serious]

@Bostonbutterfly

"I can't help but feel sad for him. I think the only time I would say NO without regrets is if he was a cheater I dumped and he's knocking on the door with a proposal. Otherwise if I the relationship is doing great but if for whatever reason I'm not yet ready (unlikely but if) for marriage, I will accept it but postpone the wedding date. A proposal doesn't mean we're getting married the next day after all... the date can be much later on.

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Yes I know that.

[serious]

@Bostonbutterfly

If I love the guy then I don't think I would have heart to decline, even if he did a bit sooner than expected. I would just postpone the wedding with the hopes that I'll be ready by then.

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Yes

[KrakenAttackin]

Your mom was just using the first simp until she found a better one.

[Bostonbutterfly]

My mom's friend. I feel bad for that 1st guy though. She tried to explain it in a nice way but he still cried.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Bostonbutterfly. He cried? This is why she dumped him, he was too effeminate.

[Spotifyplaylist]

There are certain situations that people feel they are not ready to wed but they still love the person that proposed.

[Bostonbutterfly]

Personally I don't feel it makes sense. If I love a boyfriend so much that I can't to age with him then I would say yes. Or I would say yes and postpone the wedding. Those girls could've postponed the wedding. Getting proposed doesn't mean you gotta get married tomorrow.

[Spotifyplaylist]

Maybe so but also there are some woman who have boyfriends that don't want to get married at all.