Is it normal not to talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend for a couple of days?

[Anonymous]

Like if you guys have different work schedules etc.? One to two days and then hanging out. Or should boyfriend/girlfriend relationships involve daily contact of some sort?

[Vasillilaw]

I think any really good relationship should involve contact every day. When me and my boyfriend first started dating he'd talk to me almost every single day for hours...this went on for 6 months. Now that he's been depressed we talk to each other every other day. I try to text him once a day.

[Asker]

I seriously do not want to talk to anybody for six hours daily...

[Vasillilaw]

Maybe you don't like your partner as much as you think. I remember all my friends wanted to hang out with their partner nearly 24/7 and I never understood why because I was dating someone I didn't like all that much. Now I understand that and maybe you don't want to talk to him that much because you don't like him as much as you think. Either that or you just don't like to talk that much.

[Asker]

Your logic is ridiculous. I've been in love, a concept a 19 year old probably doesn't even know. Just because I don't want someone up my ass everyday doesn't mean a thing about how much I "like" them. It's called not being codependent, which you very clearly are. That's not healthy, to want to be with someone else day in and out for MONTHS. That's very strange.

[Vasillilaw]

I hope you understand I'm not trying to attack you. I was simply telling you that you might not like the person that much or maybe you just don't like talking on the phone. That's all. Besides that my boyfriend lives 2 hours away so instead of hanging out we talk on the phone. Maybe I'm codependent, but you've obviously got your own issues.

[Asker]

You most definitely are codependent. And yes I do. I'm two degrees from completely lacking empathy. Oh wells.

[Anonymous]

Yup it's normal because it makes it just that much better the next time ya meet up

[Asker]

I figure it's no different from other friends right?