Does being in a committed relationship mean that your partner should never be physically attracted to anyone else? (Page 2)
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No way! Have you all seen Hugh Jackman? He's 6'3 and jacked as well as extremely charismatic. My wife is supposed to find him attractive. But she's also supposed to have values that leave her stuck with me.
No, people will naturally be attracted its human nature but one should have respect for their partner and not eyeball someone around them or in general i don't think its a good look when someone can't control their eyes or mouth single or not. It's about respect ultimately
Sometimes it happens that while sitting with my girlfriend or watching pics, I comment on dress, beauty, sexy figures of a girl. Luckily my girlfriend doesn't mind it and also offers her own comments, including about guys. Being a temporary moment we later forget.
If you mean simply noticing someone is attractive over feeling attracted to someone.
The first I would say is basically noticing and I would acknowledge and notice someone is attractive but it would be taking it to far if my partner becomes attracted.
If the second became an issue it would have to be a conversation for both of us to have a to see if there is a issue with in the relationship that is causing these feelings and how to resolve them.
To notice means you won't see the person again.
To become attracted could mean you have no choice but to be in that person's presence. It does not even mean they are interacting much or at all.
It would still be unreasonable to say one must not become attracted in such situation.
If I don't change your mind, that's fine.
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It doesn't for the specific reason that I have been through this experience in the past as well as my partner.
It was always something that was unresolved in our relationship that created these feelings.
After they were resolved it was no longer a issue we both grew.
What's a relationship without growth. 🤷
Personally if I'm in a relationship with someone and they find someone else attractive that doesn't bother me. I mean as long as they remain faithful and continue to love me I won't have an issue with it.
I chose that opinion because, when you’re in a relationship it’s not like your mind turns everyone else into ugly trolls. As long as you aren’t being disrespectful or pursuing, or acting on that, then there should be no issue.
I'm in a committed relationship with a lesbian that only likes my phallus. She's snogged other women and maybe I'm holding out that she'd bring another dame in. I've seriously considered that I'm holding her back from enjoying muffing some hairy clams. It's becoming easier to rationalize dissolving the union to let her go and do that.
I know my wife is attracted to certain guys but she would never act on it. She also knows in attracted to women but I wouldn't act on it either. My moto is, I can look at the menu, I can order from it but I can't eat what is put in front of me.
Good menu analogy
Thank you 😊
I honestly don't know, since I've never been in a relationship before.
But I can tell you what I think.
I think that people CAN be attracted to other people, and that's normal. But think that what it comes down to is what you decide to do with that attraction. Do you dwell on it; or do you acknowledge it, laugh, and move on?
(The appropriate thing to do would be the latter.)
its natural but if you have any respect for your partner nobody will ever know that you are attracted to anyone else.
Precisely!
committed relationship is not about control, it's about respect and - to a certain extent - business.
physical attraction is just that.
those who fixate on controlling who someone finds attractive too often learn too late that it's rarely possible.
I am physically attracted to other people, and not all of them are celebrities. My girlfriend knows this. She also knows who some of them are, as they're friends. She doesn't care since she knows I won't do anything about the attraction. I had a crush on her and another girl before I asked her out. The other crush didn't go away just becuase I got a girlfriend.
Had to say a but disagree with it being purely physical. It’s also chemical and emotional. These are important as well as you can emotionally cheat. The equivalent of chemical cheating to me is porn. It’s best to get your dopamine hits from your partner rather then a face on a screen doing the next crude thing. Porns dangerous.
Okay, but that doesn't really answer the question that I asked.
Well at least not blatantly obvious, such as staring or cat calling.
You shouldn't be "staring" secretly in your heart, either.
It’s normal to be attracted to other people, it’s human nature.
but if you are committed and satisfied in a relationship, chances are you have no interest acting on other physical attractions
It annoys me, but I wouldn't complain much. Blatantly staring at others while in my presence is just rude. What if I stared and smiled at other men?
Everyone will notice how others look. It's a matter of if they go out of their way to check out others are keep their eyes on them that would be the issue.
I mean that’s something that’s realistically out of our control.
As long as they aren’t acting on it I’m not gonna worry about it.
You can't prevent someone finding another attractive just from being in a relationship. I always say, it's more about what are the thoughts after seeing such.
No, that's against human nature and biology. What matters is if you trust them and they're worthy of that trust