I'm a despot, will this be a problem in my relationships?

[HumeyraHaktanır]

Hey, do you think being a despot is a bad thing?
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[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Maybe you have experienced something in life that caused this to happen to you I wish you the best in your relationships, maybe some counseling can help you, please don't be offended by this.

[HumeyraHaktanır]

Thanks so much. Yes, probably as you said. I've had some troubles in the past, it may be due to this.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@humeyrahaktanir You're welcome. I hope you can get some help with this I know it takes time !!!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for Most Helpful Guy :)

[TommyMountainFigure]

Not if you find someone willing to live that kind of lifestyle. You might find it tricky if you think a regular relationship can be converted to that way of thinking though.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for picking my answer.

[HumeyraHaktanır]

You're welcome.

[dynamicyandere]

It depends. Are you able to be loving and caring at the same time? Power-imbalances in relationships aren’t inherently a bad thing if it’s consensual and safe and not toxic.


There are people that prefer to have their partner hold more power in a relationship than them—to take the lead, to take control, to call the shots, to dominate them in bed.


It could be MF or FM or MM or FF, the gender doesn’t matter. It’s just that both people feel fulfilled when one dominates and another submits. This isn’t for everyone of course. An arrangement like this needs to be consensual and feel fulfilling for everyone involved.


In a D/s relationship, it’s expected that one holds the power. But, the one wielding the power needs to also be caring of their SO and take good care of them, making sure all their needs are being met.


If you wouldn’t feel fulfilled while being with someone who would happily submit to you, then perhaps an equal power exchange would work better for you. Here, you’ll need to learn to let go of some control, get used to making decisions together, and work with your SO towards the common goal of developing a healthy and beautiful relationship together.

[Honesttguy]

If i punch you would thst be a problem in our relationship?

[EaterPeter]

It can be, you may want to try to dial it down to a notch or two

[EnglishEuropean]

Yes, nobody likes a deskpot.

[DevinAM]

I'm not sure what despot means...

[RuthlessAggression]

very

[TallAnon]

Yeah, likely

[Anonymous]

Yes.