Can a bad partner push someone sweet too far?

[Anonymous]

I got out of a toxic relationship several months ago. He kept mocking me how I'm not ready for a family, how I'll never find someone better than him, started isolating me from my family, etc.

The last thing he said was something like ''I'll just be coming to visit you and that's it, you're not ready''. I was so upset that I replied with an ''How do you even know condoms can protect you. After all accidents can happen. I'll make sure you regret it forever''. All of the sudden, I found myself planning a scheme on him. I've gotten to the point that I wanted to ruin him. I hated him at that moment.

Needless to say he didn't come and it was over the following week. I think I scared him away. I've never thought about doing plots on anyone ever. Can a bad, rotten person push someone sweet too far?

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It's like all of the sudden, this bad side within me showed up. Out of rage for everything he's put me through, I wanted to get back at him.

[Anonymous]

Everyone has a limit, and he pushed you to yours. The good thing is you didn’t get a chance to act on it, and I don’t say that in a messed up way. Maybe it’s just the zen in me, but I believe everything happens how it’s supposed to, and that the universe is meant to deal out karma, whether you witness it or not. I’ve been in your shoes, having had an ex who was so horrible to me that I was in the deepest depression I’d ever been in before or since then. I wanted to get back at him, and somehow would never get the chance. I’d plot trying to run into him on purpose or ways to directly hurt him but my plan always fell through. I realize now it’s because dealing karma was not my responsibility, because I am not the negative, nasty human being my ex was and shouldn’t stoop so low to feel avenged or redeemed. Once I worked to forgive him and close that chapter, I got to watch him get karma from afar and interestingly enough I didn’t have the glee I thought I would, but I felt remorseful. Dude looked like shit and his life was in shambles, and the thing about it is he did it on his own and couldn’t blame anyone but himself. That there felt like justice.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yes... that's why it's so very fucking important to surround yourself with positive people. All it takes is one schemer or one narcissist and they'll fuck your world up. The sad truth is if you play their game, you'll have to become just as evil and fucked up as they are to win.

[Asker]

The scary part is I was thinking of doing it if he had come. I was thinking of tampering the condom. He didn't come and it was over. I can't believe I would think of those things. I never thought about doing bad to someone ever.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I mean hey... you wouldn't be the first chick that went there at all. There's a reason my own mother gave me the talk about how a hole could be poked in condoms... Bring my own, flush it down the toilet basically. #1 reason I pretend I'm broke around women to be honest. I have muscles and only want to be wanted for that... because if I'm wanted for money, I'm setting myself up to get taken advantage of. At least just being a muscle guy they feel like they're just using me for lust reasons.

I would suggest to you to analyze yourself and what was going on there though. I mean let's say you got pregnant by him... because you were pissed off by him and his behavior. You'd be trapped with him being a part of your life or at least attached because of the kid. If you just wanted to move on at some point you'd have to drag the kid with you... the new guy looking at it. It's not wise to just try and trap a man... know what I'm saying?

[Pyrofox]

What a shitty narc. Ultimately your family raised ya. How ignorant and stupid do ya have to be not to realize that.