Do you think a woman without a vulva can find love with a man? (Page 3)

Anonymous · 2022-06-19T01:55:29Z

I have vulva cancer, and I am going to have a vulvectomy. (warning if you’re gonna google it it’s graphic so graphic) um it’s a brutal thing to be going through in my early 20s. I still haven’t fully processed this I am just hoping I live at this point. This cancer has a higher survival rate and I am stage 3 so I have hope. But I am going to lose all sexual function. My clitoris is gonna be gone 😢 I’m a virgin I never got to use my vulva and vagina, and now I’m losing the part that matters for pleasure. Do you think I will be able to find a partner? I just don’t think I’ll be enough after this surgery 😔 I already had women who’ve had this (or another cancer like breast cancer) tell me how their husbands left them in the middle of their treatment.. and I feel so bad for them. They didn’t deserve to be left alone at such a hard time in their life. I’m afraid I’ll be romantically alone forever. I know I have more to offer than that part, but I feel like it’ll be like finding a unicorn to find a man that will be truly okay with this part of me. I’ve cried so much over this I can’t even cry anymore. If I make it out of this I hope I can someday find love and be in a relationship

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TexasRed95 Follow
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There are plenty of men that would want to be with you. Some guys have almost nonexistent sex drives, some are asexual, and like me some have trauma from their childhood that makes them nervous towards sex.

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wolfunknown Follow
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Here's a thing about love, you don't fall in love with looks. If you do, it's lust.

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garykingg Follow
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Honestly I wouldn't mind dating you at all, and I'm sure other men wouldn't mind dating you as well.

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FunkyMonkee Follow
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I don't think it matters WHAT kind of car she drives!

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  Loll
  
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  Sorry I didn't read the story with this. It's too late now but, I could've told you how to cure the cancer. I was in a goofy mood when I saw the question and just responded ONLY to the question.
  Sorry you had to go through that. It WASN'T needed!! In fact, I know a guy near here that has found a way to regrow fingers so, maybe he can regrow your bits, too! Dr. Steven Badylak. A drummer friend of mine woks for him.
  I was gonna just post one or two videos here but you might find at least the top 10 or 12 of these interesting and helpful!
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  Thank you I know you're coming from the right place, but the reality is I had to get this surgery I tried everything I could and it was still progressing if I didn't get it out it would've kept spreading and I could've had a way lower chance of surviving. So trust me this was a last resort I just wanna be alive
  
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Damn! I'm sorry. 😰

I'm pretty sure I would still date someone in your situation, and I think a lot of other guys would as well. So please don't give up hope!

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downtowndiner Follow
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You can 100% find love. If it’s only about a vulva for the guy, he’s probably not going to be the one.
Take care!

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Birdlegs Follow
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I can be your Ken you little Barbie doll😭

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  BYEE 😭😭 this is the best one I would’ve chosen you as mho but I was in the hospital. I love this ❤️❤️❤️
  
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litty Follow
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Sorry for your loss. That must be hard. A woman is more than just her vulva, so I’m certain you can find love.

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RuthlessAggression Follow
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Sure. But, Are you gonna make it?

My grandma recently passed of colon cancer because she never got checked, and didn't want to fight it

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  I sure do hope I make it lol
  
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Staximus Follow
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If it's not going to cause too much pain you might as well have sex before they do it

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  I couldn’t 😭 it was so bad I also had vaginismus and severe pain. but I’m ok with that because I can’t miss it since I haven’t tried it. What I will miss is masturbating :’’’)
  
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  I masturbated almost 20 times 2 days before my surgery just to say goodbye to my clitoris hahaha
  
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alex4you Follow
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Yes. Anything can happen. Do not lose hope. Love is much more important than carnal desires.

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  😍😍
  
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First I'm sorry to hear this..
Yes I'm sure you will find a caring loving man who will love you for you. . You just need patience.

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So sorry I don’t really understand what you’re talking about

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Kenzy009 Follow
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Yes, you will find a man, but you have to lower your standards

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  Of course. And/or swim through the small pool of asexual men lol
  
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Surely Follow
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Wow! Many well wishes.
by the way. My wife has some bad cells in hers.

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slatyb Follow
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So sorry. Yes, there are men who won’t care.

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Are you In Christ Jesus?

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  No but I appreciate any prayers and positive energy I receive ❤️
  
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- FunkyMonkee
  
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  If she is, how the hell would she get there? Orally? Anally? Nasally?
  
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- Guy13
  
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  Unfortunately, even with common grace and mercy, the following is heard by those who are In Christ Jesus. "Do not be anxious about anything but in every situation, pray with Thanksgiving and present your requests to God (Philippians 4:6). In the day when I cried out, You answered me, and made me bold with strength in my soul (Psalm 138:3). Father, we trust You with our lives. For You promise us: "Lord my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me (Psalm 30:2)."
  
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- FunkyMonkee
  
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  Who IS this Christ Jesus person?
  
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- Guy13
  
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  @FunkyMonkee 🙉. 🙈. 🙊…. You ought to study this one…. 🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊
  
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  Study what?
  
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athlete_7 Follow
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Yep. Love just needs commitment and trust

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Of course you can

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Will you still want to have sex?

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