What are the most painful words ever said to you?

Question

“You’re nothing. People don’t like you.” ”You’re fat enough”. ”No man will ever love you.”

cute_short_nerd · Accepted Answer

My mom denied hard proof my best friend committed suicide and said everything I told her about it was a lie, and it was a made up excuse to get bad grades, and that she was disappointed in me of how little effort I put into my life, and that me cutting myself was me being an attention whore, and that I didn't have depression because it "wasn't as bad" as what she went through. And then she said I would be a failure, and then she told my entire family I flunked every class I had, which wasn't even true. And she listened to me cry real soul shattering sobs for two hours about how I wanted to kill myself, she then told me to go take a shower because my eyeliner was all over my face from crying so hard. I then got a shower and then joined both of my parents on the front porch as they proceeded to lecture me for an additional hour and I lost all real respect for them then and there because I explained everything, I told them exactly what hurt me, how much I was struggling, told them I needed help and I was still ignored. Yeah I was thirteen when she killed herself, that was my first time mourning a death, and the way I was told about her death was that her mother called me, and after about an hour or two all of my best friends social media accounts were wiped off the internet, and since it was the end of December, Christmas to be exact, she was taken off the phone plan I knew they had in place. It was like she disappeared, nobody talked about her after that and since I didn't know her mom or family very well I wasn't invited to the funeral, in fact her family refused to keep contact with me. So that chapter of my life ended. I blamed myself for her death, for not being a better friend, for telling her we "will just talk in the morning" and then it was too late. I kept it to myself until it almost killed me. I stumbled down two flights of stairs, weakly walked to the kitchen and grabbed a knife, convinced I would do it. I hadn't eaten right in months and my muscles were incredibly weak. I had it inches from my skin and my hands were shaking and I couldn't barely hold it. I cried and I created a group chat really quick and called both of my friends and told them what was going on and they helped me. After a couple months of recovering I felt a lot better and then the one year anniversary came up and everything came crashing back down. At that point my parents didn't know anything at all because I was embarrassed at how long it took me to recover and I really wanted to "just get over it"
So I tried but I got overwhelmed and they only thought something was up when I had more than one failing grade and nothing above a C. I told them, and I was completely overlooked. I then decided, "you know what? Fuck it." And I stopped believing they cared, and I pulled my shit together by revoking my trust and true respect for them, knowing the true them created so many opportunities and gave me the ability to read their moves instead of blindly trusting them and it's led me to learn how to get some of what I want no matter the circumstance and it's made me so good at mirroring people to the point I don't even know if my personality is real and then my doctor told me I was autistic and so much shit started to make sense. I psychoanalyze everything about everyone and all of my emotions seem like a logical response more than a chemical reaction of the brain because I'm not sure if I feel emotions.
Now I've recovered from an eating disorder, and have been self harm free for a year now. Still have lingering depression. I have clinical insomnia too.
Honestly I think I might have PTSD but I haven't talked to a professional since I got diagnosed with my insomnia.
My parents get falsified respect since I live under their roof but they won't have control over me anymore the day I turn 18 and move out. People are already in on the plan.

RedRosey · Accepted Answer

"I only married to you because you are pregnant"

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

Me: "Have you heard from X lately? We were supposed to work on some project, and I haven't been able to get a hold of her. Is she okay? Just need to hear back if she's still interested, or if I should get another teammate."

Her boss: "Don't worry, she's fine. I'll let her know you asked."

Me: "Thanks."

A few days later...

School office: "We're deeply concerned about your mental health..."

Me: "WTF?"

School: "Also, police will be contacting you..."

Me: "Again, WTF?"

Lady officer: "Why don't you just admit you're some creep? We're going to prove it, one way or another!"

Me: "WTF are you even going on about? All I asked was if so and so were still interested in helping write a few panels of a comic book! All I got was runaround, so I proceeded without help. It's not some violent porno, it's a frickin' Sims superhero origin story!"

Lady officer: "In-between terrorizing children."

Me: "BS! What children? This is insane! You're all mad!"

My own dad: "You must not have a clue how to talk to women..."

Me: "How do I talk to her at all, if she's never there? That barber is a lying sack out to ruin my life on lies, and you attack me?"

Other time: "Say I'm here to see if Y got that package my dad sent. He's asking for a confirmation."

Random Asian at campus ministry center: "She's not here."

Me: "Thanks anyway."

Campus ministry center pastor blocks my exit from parking lot: "I'm concerned as to why you're asking about Y."

Me: "I was asked to stop in, ad and ask if she'd received the package, so I could relay confirmation back to sender."

Minister: "I'm concerned you're trying to get a girlfriend."

Me: "I've never met this gal, and have nothing of the sort going on. Why would you even think that? I'm just doing my job! Stop blockading me!"

Minister: "I can't be letting you flirt with these women."

Me: "Have you gone mad? Have you heard nothing I just said?"

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Yeah, not just insults, but insane accusations and threats, as well as trying to trap.

Slartybartfast · Accepted Answer

I got in a fistfight with my stepdad right before my 18th birthday and stayed away for years. During this time I worked extremely hard to build a successful career. I was proud of what I had accomplished.

When my stepdad died I temporarily moved back in with my mom to get the house ready to sell.
She was worried about the mortgage, I told her not to worry I could easily cover it.
She looked doubtful so I showed her my pay stub.

Her response, I'll never forget.
"You can't be worth that much."

Iwant2kno · Answer

The person whom I thought to be my best friend in High School and the one I supported unconditionally because I considered her like a sister, she was supposedly shy and insecure said to me this “the problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts while the stupid ones are full of confidence” 🙄 I didn’t know deep inside she disliked me/hated me so much and I did nothing but motivate her to stay in school and graduate.🤷🏻‍♀️

Apple1996 · Answer

That nobody would ever love me cause I'm so weird. Got told this from family members many times as child

MrPickles13 · Answer

I guess one was from a close friend who basically said that they could never see me in a relationship.

My parents constantly assuming that im gay or just going to be alone for the rest of my life. But as that's not enough for them they now want me to bring someone to my sister's wedding.

My closest friend she called me a girly guy to this random guy. When saying that we are just friends I don't know why she needed to say something like that when sayjng we are friends should be enough. When I asked about it as well her first reaction was to laugh nothinf like saying it wasn't meant or they were sorry. They then said we should talk about it face to face. And any time I asked if they were free they said they were too busy which I know they were. But then they recently said that I need to just let it go. They also forgot my birthday last year which did hurt cause I'm not someone who thinks I deserve to celebrate it.

And I do try to stay in touch and make plans which just get cancelled last minute but she says she still wants to make plans and misses me so I'm really really confused.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It was back in the days I was at school getting bullied almost every day. It wasn't the horrible things they said about me that hurt the most, it was what they said they would do if I told anyone about being bullied by them.

They said they would come round my house at night and set fire to it killing my parents as they slept.

I finally got my own back on them before leaving school (after years of torture) by putting two of them in hospital.. one on life support, but their words still haunt me to this day.

Screenwriter · Answer

Most recently, the meanest thing I ever heard from someone who purported to be my friend occurred when I was waxing rhapsodic about Matthew McConaughey and Idris Alba and someone else I thought was a sexy guy. The woman I was telling this too, in her late 50s, a few years younger than me said,
"Aren't you over ALL THAT?" meaning aren't you over sexual attraction to men?

I was stunned at her ignorance and thoughtlessness. She has a husband who she's indicated she is very sexual with. Because I'm single, I have no sexual feelings or interests? I was cut to the quick.

We are no longer friends, I don't think I need to say.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Random people telling me to kms or telling me I’m a wh*re is hurtful and all, but the most hurtful words have come from family. My brother telling me that I’m faking my illnesses for attention, because he’s never been chronically sick in his life and he couldn’t understand. He didn’t believe me until he visited me in hospital when I almost died in 2020. My father telling me that I was faking my depression after I had been raped at a young age, because apparently “teenagers can’t have depresssion”. My mother doubting that I’d been raped when I told her what had happened, asking “are you sure you didn’t just consent and then regret it after?”.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Used to date this girl, we broke up, she wanted to keep talking and her life was going sideways. I wanted to help her. She got into her car shit faced one day and I told her if she didn't let someone drive her home, I wasn't talking to her anymore.

Didn't talk to her after she drove off that night until I got a call from a rehab and she was going through her little script apologizing and after getting to know her so well, let's just say she was a bad bulshitter. Like I was just another step of her getting the fuck out of there.

I didn't know how to react. I really wanted to be wrong but it just kept sounding more obvious to me. I sat in the snow crying because of how lonely I felt and how someone who I loved lost themself like that.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

All this said by my narcissist-sociopathic ex boyfriend after many years I've wasted:
''You'll never find anyone as great as me. I'm nearly perfect.''
''You finding someone else, you're 34 already, LOL, ok give it a year, LOL.''
''You're not ready for marriage.''

These things said to me in 7th grade (verbal bullying):
''You don't need to a Halloween mask. You already have one.''
''You look just like Anne Frank. She was ugly too.''
A couple classmates shrieking with an ''Ewwww and Ekkkkk'' everytime I passed by
''Booger-face, Booger-girl''
''(My name) is the most ugliest girl'' while I'm waiting in line; a girl said that

I've always felt that purposely denying a woman marriage or insulting her physical features is the equivalent of calling a man a coward (or the word pussy) or mocking his provider capacities. I felt my ego and pride as a girl/woman got destroyed right there.

Jay3344 · Answer

So many to choose from so I’ll just pick one for this comment. I remember in freshman year of high school I had started to get hairier eye brows so I shaved them because it was not as painful as plucking them, to help separate them. Anyways a girl was introducing me to a bunch of her friends and right after the introduction, some kid just got in my face and said “…hmmmm, do I detect shaving?…”. Referring to my eyebrows. Few words but cut me deeper than I would have thought. Basically I didn’t say anything after and left for the concession stand as soon as possible. Funny but it hurt at the time.

Gent207 · Answer

I used to be a master at creating emotional nuclear weapons (that is until I met my wife who is an INFJ and can target your specific vulnerabilities for maximum impact).
But back to me:
Me to ex1 "I don't love you" and "I lied about loving you"
I can't quite recall anything else

Blackcosmo · Answer

"I wish you were never born" was the most hurtful thing I ever heard in my life from my abusive ex best friend. "You deserved everything that happened to you because you're a loser" also hit pretty close. But being told someone wished I was dead was the worst thing especially since I was so insecure and vulnerable. I thought my worth was based on my best friend's idea of me and I had to listen to her or she would blackmail me. I'm glad that's over now and I can live my life in peace.

SaartjieJane · Answer

Back when I was a bit overweight the guy I was with told me no one would ever want me because of it, that men only want a skinny girl. Then again he’s say that and the next day tell me he’s never been more attracted to someone like his is with me🙃
That I’m dumb and care only about myself so men will only use me because no one wants someone like me.

MCheetah · Answer

"I consider you average."

And for those who don't get it, that's identical to saying my entire existence doesn't matter and that my life is worth less than dirt. I do NOT consider myself insignificant, worthless, or the most replaceable valueless thing a human being can be. Only two things offend me, and that's one of them.

melanieeeB · Answer

When I was a teen, my mom said to me (backed up by my awful stupid exstepfather) "You will end up all alone because of the way you are" .. that one I remember as it was yesterday
but she does say other stuff over the years of how 'horrible' and 'disturbed' I am as a person, just because I don't let people walk all over me

OldSchool_Metalhead · Answer

"you don't deserve my respect" (narcissistic family member)

"You are a lying ungrateful slut who deserves nothing. You don't know how to love. I gave you love and you shove me away" (stalker guy who convinced himself that I was his girlfriend)

DrewJay · Answer

Maybe some other time. Lately it seems like I have been remmbering a bunch of painful times in my life with these questions its okay it doesn't fase me any more its just even if I told you the most painful words some one said to me its not their fault she had all right to say what she didn

AssholeNumberOne · Answer

Me, having a rough time: .. and I hate feeling so bad because I know it's not true but i feel like it proves the stereotype that women are more emotionally weak than men. I hate that.

"It's true tho, but..."

This was a few days ago. Broke me, and I couldn't tell my friends about it cuz it'd prove them right.

I don't care about hormones or something. I don't care if I'm on my period. No one should be called more emotional than the opposite gender just because they're crying. Especially at a time when they're unstable as I was.

How would you like to be called something sexist when you're already weak and insecure. No excuses, that was stupid of my friends to do.

And I will NEVER throw that at another crying man or woman as I live.

BigNerd45 · Answer

"Kill yourself"

"Get this kid away from me"
This one would happen sometimes when I would be trying to talk to someone and they wouldn't want to be seen with me because I was just some wierdo or something.

FinneasWilson · Answer

I watched a video on YouTube about heaven the guy said that when you go to heaven you get a new body and you live happy, pain free and you don't remember your life on earth, so that means that my nan who passed away doesn't even know I exist and that broke me more than me being told she'd gone.

Wild_princess · Answer

"We are over and please don't contact me unless it is important or i will block you... you are wreak, i can't handle you " He said this knowing how hurt i will get...

Still-alive · Answer

Anything having to do with telling me i don't care enough or not empathetic enough. that stuff would probably get to me if the person who said it was close enough to me.

Also something to note is the lack of words can get to me as well. like using the silent treatment on me or pretending i don't exist... that can get to me too.

It used to be stuff relating to my intelligence BUT i grew a backbone and that stuff just bounces off me now

JustinTheGreat · Answer

My dad told me that I “was no longer his son” 💀 Me and him have made up since then but it definitely left a bit of an emotional scar

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

My mother used to tell me fairly often that I was a mistake and her life would have been so much better without me in it.
Now she acts like she can’t understand why I no longer choose to be in her life. Go figure.

Artemio_the_Grateful · Answer

At work, I like to look at the sky at the same sun and moon like my dad and dads dad and ancestors did because the sun breathes life in you. Burn me up.

NathanDavis · Answer

she couldn't even say it, I just knew right away...

Apulu_Imback · Answer

"You are so ugly that even devil won't buy you" - bullies.

Red-Blaze · Answer

Someone I trusted and talk about regearly got a little agrivated on me and called me a lier
I put my seeking of trueth and keep real very high and that really hurt, they ask for forgivness later, they never got it
They shuld have known better

beebella · Answer

"Mom found you in a trash can." Imagine being 4 years old, thinking you were really a trash baby. 😭

LogicBomber · Answer

After 10 years of being together and 2 kids and treating her like the only thing in life that mattered... “I have been seeing _____” <—— her best friends brother

Spotifyplaylist · Answer

my brother was the first person I ever came out to and when I did he swung at me then we fought and called me faggot. Then the same day his friends came over and he called me a slut and faggot in front of them.

Emily_925 · Answer

I had to have an abortion a while ago because I was very sick and actually tried to kill myself with the baby bc I absolutely hated to abort it and got hospitalized and I told my boyfriend and he was like omg your a terrible person how could you kill your own baby etc, so it was a very awful conversation for me

EarthRealm · Answer

My Dad Told me to Kill myself when I Was Already Living in A Unescapable Hell that I Created.  I Escaped Hell but I will Never go back, I Fucking hated Living in hell.

sage2021 · Answer

When my Mom said all of her problems she had were all my fault and she wished I had never been born. I told her I didn't ask to be born. Maybe you shouldn't have had sex with my father.

Mari_Kim · Answer

"You're lucky for all the things i gave you that you benefited more than anyone, so you should be grateful and follow everything i say." -boss
🙄 As if i ask for it! I didn't even want those stuff. He always assumed to be right and wouldn't listen to anyone.

Zolly99999 · Answer

" you are my safe choice "  What dose that mean? You are not good looking enough to ever cheat on me. "

PolarDip · Answer

"He's useless. Everyone who meets him forgets about him" Not said directly to me, but about me when she thought I couldn't hear.

jahaims · Answer

Words only hurt me if it comes from someone I respect. Respectful people don't act like that.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I hated when my ex would call me a stupid cunt. I hated it so much and it just felt so demeaning to me.

driven159 · Answer

I was told that I couldn't get any woman but a fat river rat but i got her back really good I said you are right it took her a few minutes to figure it out then said are you calling me a river rat I said no you did case closed

JustiReno · Answer

“At least I got to suck his dick” about dude she cheated on me with probably those words will never leave me anything else idgaf

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i tend to let harsh words roll off me pretty easily. i'm my harshest critic anyway

Marianna546 · Answer

It wasn't painful to me because i know myself but one girl called me anorexic here.. even though i am not

daisydukeso · Answer

from my dad: "i regret having you, it's exhausting"

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

It was “Oh God! Have you any idea how long I’ve wanted to fuck you”! That was what my UNCLE said at the moment he first penetrated me, as he raped me on my 13th birthday!

qwert1234 · Answer

My ex confessed to me that she cheated. How she confessed, was, graphic. It was like listening to a sexual e-book/podcast.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

“, you must understand I am never really going to trust you again.”

TexasRed95 · Answer

My father told me as he was choking me that it would be easier on me if I stop fighting and let him be rid of me.

OddBeMe · Answer

“No, we dont have those loafers in your size.” Damn you, Armani!

legalboxers · Answer

your a retard son, your stupid, your a failure, your a moron, you werent on stage like everyone else.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

The first ex-girlfriend wanted to break up with me was a sad day but it was worth it in the end.

exitseven · Answer

One night I told a girl that I was falling in love with her. She told me I was crazy.

Darine123 · Answer

“ I cheated on you with prostitutes , took condom off and cum inside her “

Minahh · Answer

"You will never find the one" Yeah it made me feel bad but I feel worse about the person who said that

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

My memory isn't all that good to begin with so I don't remember. And secondly I don't take people's words seriously to begin with.

jshm2 · Answer

"Are you American?" Said to me in a Spanish airport by a Murican lady I was trying to help out.  Was going to fight her and her man, myself if the lads hadn't stepped in.

Jen51563 · Answer

I love you but I can't keep letting you get away with treating me like I don't. (no cheating anything like that... Just had insecurity issues that never were dealt with...)

smilelots · Answer

I am no longer in love with you not sure I ever was.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

"who cares?" "lol that's cute" when i vent about something or spread some news.

TicklePink · Answer

The words "I love you", when in fact, that person is cheating on you, and you both know it, but say nothing at all.

lilyanony1 · Answer

You're not wife material...

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