Does a woman actually knows who she's getting pregnant with?

[Anonymous]

My 1st boyfriend turned out to be a liar, a scammer and a cheater. Years later he blamed me for not wanting to have a child with him. I once told him ''If you ever get me pregnant, I'm going to abort it. I ain't having babies with you''. For some reason I used to dread the idea of getting impregnanted by him. I even told him ''I don't ever want kids''. I was so much against kids when I was with him.

With my current boyfriend, hell yes. I do look forward to bearing his child. He made me change my mind about kids.

If even a guy is a jerk and user and she is too naive, does a woman usually knows who she's getting pregnant with?

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Now I feel great to have dodge a bullet with my 1st relationship. I feel great to deny him parenthood. He supposedly wanted to get me pregnant at some point but I scared him when I told I would abort it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I think a woman usually knows unless she's just sleeping around so much that she can't even pinpoint when she conceived and with who. I think most of your anti-abortion types are looking at that very situation and just don't want to pay for some girl to bounce around from dick to dick just so she can just have fun consequences-free.

Yeah I'll double down on that position... a woman usually knows who and where a baby came from unless she was just randomly sleeping around so much that she has no idea.

Now you wanting kids or not... that's a judgment call based on the partner you're with. There are tons of women out there I WOULD NOT want to get pregnant even though I think they are super hot physically. It's like when you just know a person is going to be a mess and you don't want to go into a business venture with them.

[Asker]

yeah your last sentence is how I felt about my first boyfriend. I was ok with just the relationship but didn't want to be the father of my kid. There was passion in that relationship and our moments but that was it. That whole relationship felt like a rollercoaster to me. One day it was good and another day full of drama and mom hating him, etc.
With my current boyfriend whom my mom adores a lot (we have already talked about forming a family in year from now), I love everything about him and relationship... and feel safe and secured.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah there's people out there that can be fun or make life interesting, but when it comes to making a secure investment into the future... the 'wild' or 'crazy' stuff starts to look way less appealing.

[MikeInHawaii]

If you’re telling a man “I ain’t having no babies with you?” DON’T HAVE SEX WITH HIM! If you have negative feelings about him in general, DON’T HAVE SEX WITH HIM! If your current boyfriend wants you to have his baby, he can marry you.

In my experience, if a woman is banging multiple m en, she has no idea who the father is. She’ll just assume it’s the one who makes the most money.

[Asker]

Well by the same token, men also get into relationship where they live together but have sex but with protection, they keep her as a girlfriend but never imagine having kids with her. Some of us can make that same evaluation towards certain men too.

[Asker]

Yes with my current relationship, it's different. We've already talked about getting married and having a child within a year from now. I'm happily looking forward towards it. I would love to bear with a child. I didn't had those feelings with my ex boyfriend; I was ok with him being my boyfriend but not someone I want to get impregnant by nor have his kids.

[MikeInHawaii]

Men will have sex with women they wouldn’t give the correct time to. Don’t be like men. Men also do this secure in the knowledge that they won’t get pregnant. Also, a man’s biological clock runs more slowly than a woman’s.

One of the three most important lessons I’d like to teach young people is “Don’t go out on the first date with someone you know you wouldn’t marry.”

[LazerBean]

Most women know, and whenever a woman doesn't know it's her own fault.

[Asker]

Interesting. Even when I was unaware he was cheating and was a scammer (I had to sue him to get back my $3000 he owed me), I would get disgusted with the idea of bearing his child. All of the sudden, I was so much against having kids and all this negativity from me came.
With my current boyfriend, those thought disappeared and it's like I'm at peace and would happily give him a child or 2-3, whatever he wants.