What do you think when you see someone with self harm scars?

[Anonymous]

Do you treat them different, ignore/avoid them, ask them why, point the scars out, etc, what's your reaction? what do you think? how does that makes you feel?

[dynamicyandere]

I won’t draw attention to the scars because it’ll probably make them feel uncomfortable and it’s highly personal. If they want to bring up their past, I’d be ready to listen but I wouldn’t want to pry or trigger past trauma. They’ll tell me if they want to open up to me.


An example is I have a good friend of mine who grew up with a single mother because his dad died while he was a child. We’ve been friends for almost 20 years. I was his best man at his wedding. But, I still don’t know the full story of how his dad died. He never ever brought it up. I respect his privacy about that and I choose not to pry.


Back to the question though, I wouldn’t treat them very differently—I’ll just have a mental note in the back of my mind that this person probably has needed to fight their inner demons and perhaps they still are. They may have gone through some trauma and I should be mindful and considerate of that.

[dynamicyandere]

Thanks for the MHO. ☺️

[Asker]

Thanks for sharing your opinion, story, and for being so good with your friend.

[dynamicyandere]

You’re very welcome. My pleasure. ☺️

[BarryLiverstone]

I am curious so I’ll ask them questions. In fact that happened today on here and I asked her questions

[Asker]

What do you ask? Would you ask someone in rl?

[BarryLiverstone]

Irl I would wait a bit till I got to know them. I ask because I’ve had conversations with people about self harm and cutting and curious the motivations and how they overcome

[Asker]

thanks.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. I may even know who you are but I’ll respect your privacy

[BarryLiverstone]

Actually ignore that, I’m wrong

[Asker]

Nah, no one knows me here. English isn't even my first language.

[BarryLiverstone]

Gotcha, my bad

[Vistus]

To be honest, I never really noticed them until I did. But I’m crushing atm on a girl that has them

[Asker]

How do you feel about finding out your crush has them?

[AndrésC64]

You should treat them the way you would anyone else.