I’m 15 how do I patiently wait to meet my husband when I want to fall in love now?

[Anonymous]

(sorry for the age thing by the way I don't know how to change) Realistically I won’t meet my future husband for another 3+ years. I’m an impatient person and I struggle getting through a week without getting upset about how long it’s taking. So, how am I supposed to make it though at least high school when no matter what I do (because I assure you I have like 10 hobbies) waiting for the love of my life is still in the back of my mind making everything move slow and boring?

[DiggyTao]

The earlier you marry the worse it will be. Many people wait their entire lives for the right person and never find them. Does that mean you should settle? It's unfair to settle as you'll only become unhappy with the marriage and likely hurt the man who gave his life to you. Live your life for yourself without expectations of anyone else being with you. Once you are content living alone you'll understand the challenge of blending your life with another. As you live and grow and experience life you will discover love. I promise this will happen. Do not rush this process. The point of marriage is to find the person who will be more, mean more than anyone else ever could. Marriage should last a lifetime. This is why it shouldn't be rushed. You will look back at your life and remember a time when you were single and enjoying your freedom. Marriage is compromise. Enjoy school, being young, possibilities. These things will disappear and you can't get them back. Enjoy being a young adult. One day you'll discover those times have passed and you'll be married for a long, long time. You shouldn't even consider such an arrangement at your age. Finish being young. If not for yourself enjoy being young for those of us who are old. Our lives are ordered by being children and growing up to adults. Nobody is an adult first or their life would be in chaos.

[FireFox001]

You shoukd shift Our focus to things that are important right now.

Study. Prepare for adulthood. And try to enjoy your last teen ages.

Because if you fuck up now longing for something that is still far away, you won't find a decent guy.

[kylee2437]

I promise you there’s no reason to focus on love at the age of 15.

[Asker]

I know which is why I’m trying to speed up time and be less focused on it but I still wanna fall in love. All my friends already have boyfriends and they make fun of me all the time

[kylee2437]

I’m turning 25 this year and I’m barely focused on love. Your friends are most likely going to end up in a crap ton of drama at a young age (maybe even pregnancy) there’s no reason to be focused on love at the age of 15

[VikingWarLord]

If you're a female in the West, you live life on EASY STREET.

Just make sure you don't get fat, take care of your appearance and you'll have rich dudes lining up to marry you when you turn 18 to 21.

[Idkiiii]

Realistically you won't meet your future husband until after college. Statistics say so at least.

[Asker]

Well I plan to get married by around 22 so I don’t think it’ll take that long. even so that wouldn’t stop me from thinking about it. I’ll just be upset it’ll take so long and spend until then thinking about in constantly. What can I do to get it off my mind until then?

[anon1903]

Do you even have a crush lmao

[Asker]

No I don’t like anyone right now. I don’t really know any guys atm though

[anon1903]

How do you know you even wanna get married

[Asker]

Just because I haven’t met the right guy doesn’t mean I don’t want to get married and have a family one day. That’s one of my biggest goals for my adult life. I might not have a crush right now but I’ve had one before.

[anon1903]

Okedoke

[Dinosaursandanime65]

The 1860s was some time ago

[Asker]

Dawg what? Just because I wanna fall in love doesn't mean I’m some outdated misogynist. I have other hobbies, goals, and a plan for my future career. I just also want to be loved and to love someone else, doesn’t seem that insane…

[Dinosaursandanime65]

The only time 15 year olds were allowed to marry at all was in those times or sometime close to that

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Career? Cool. What is it?

[Asker]

I don’t plan to get married now my any means I’m mostly wondering how to stop thinking on falling in love considering it just makes me depressed knowing I’ll have to wait. And I want to be a software engineer.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Hm, hm, hm, hmhm, hmhm hm.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Don’t ever force marriage, it never works that way. The closest to that method that has a chance of working out is blind dates made by your friends