Do you wait for them to say it first? Do you say it first? When the relationship is getting serious? Or you don’t say it but you show it?
When do you say these three words, "I love you," to that special someone?
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As a disclaimer, I'm not the "sappy, romantic" type, so take what I say with a grain of salt.
I have rarely, if ever, told anyone I love them because it's hard for me to say it- trust me when I say if I say it to someone, I genuinely mean it. Otherwise, it feels fake or forced.
I usually don't say it, instead I show them my affection through actions. And yes, I let potential partners know this about me upfront so they are not misled or think I'm not interested in them. I have a terrible way of expressing my emotions and feelings verbally. I rather show them, "Hey, I care about you" by listening to them, taking care of them, or doing small, but memorable things with them.
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I don't throw those words around to just anyone. Because I know the most likely reaction will be confusion. Sunny didn't understand at first why I would say it to her. I'd been texting her for several months as just a friend, before the butterflies got the best of me. She felt sorry when the writing was on the wall. Like she'd let me down. But I understood it wasn't her fault. I half guessed from the start that her and I were doomed. International politics can be so cruel. I just pray she's safe and happy now, even though I don't get to be a part of it.
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It's how you feel, and you can say it anytime. Just make sure your partner feels the same.
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The three words that EVERY woman wants to hear? "Let's go shopping!"
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That's a touchy subject, am gonna say depends on how they are. Some people like myself can be vary oblivious and like straight forward not guessing and taking chance of being wrong. but then some are scared away by being honest and straightforward just like to let happen and one day it just be like an unspoken agreement 😂. Then showing somethimes isn't enough because they can do certain things and still consider you a friend or friends with benefits or whatever you guys are and not feel nothing for you. Myself I come of slightly strong I want them to know my intentions and if not interested fine at least I didn't waste my time
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As I've posted on another topic. My partner and I met on facebook. She came over for a holiday from her country after months of chatting on the phone. The day before she was due to go home she said 'Ik hou van jou'. I didn't understand Dutch at the time, so asked what she said. She said 'I love you'.
As a general rule I'd wait for her to say it but wasn't expecting her to say it so soon. We've been together 11 years.
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I'm quite quick to care for someone. But slow to love. I have to be absolutely sure in the relationship I have with them. My heart needs to be sure. It takes time for me. Trust is involved and personality is key. I'd say maybe a year at the least, and two years at most... Though I may say it a bit sooner so that that person doesn't leave, but I won't fully mean it yet. Though I can say it so that they know I care about them. But it's not until I know I'd give anything for them, that it'll mean anything.
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I'd probably start by showing it in sort of actions and words without actually saying it. To sort of help build up to that. And then atmsome pojtn when the time feels right tell her how. i felt either looking into her eyes or maybe just whispering it in her ear while hugging her.
I just aren't sure on the whole would. i say it first or not. But if I do say it I do mean it.
I've only ever said that to one person and well that's my closest and best friend but thats a love of a. frjend and someone who is like family. - 527 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
I have been known to say it first and he says, I'm not there yet... well that sucks, but things are not always even. Its been reverse too, someone says they love me but I'm not there yet.
Usually its a few months of dating though to get to that point.
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I say it when I feel ready. I don't care if they have said it first. If I feel like I love them and I am sure about my feelings I feel like if there is someone that needs to know that is that person. I believe that when you truly love someone you don't want to tell it just to hear the I love you back. I mean, if they say it, it is close to perfection, but love is love even if you are not loved by that person.
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For me it's kinda hard, I think it's not enough to say those words but your actions of care, affection, attention might already proved how important they are to you, some guys might say those words but still cheat and not even value their partner. When we have a deep understanding and I we express our feelings and plans for each other without lies or holding back, also when I see that she's someone I can spend the rest of my life with (compatible together), then I can say those words but it personally it doesn't mean much to me, I prefer proving my love for her through my everyday actions but I know people still want to hear those words especially girls🤪
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He said it about 1,5 years into the relationship, and I said it back as well. Probably could have been half a year earlier, but neither of us dared to say it. One year in might seem sort of late, but our relationship got a little rocky during covid, meaning we didn't get to see each other much in a period of time, so the "process" was slowed down a bit.
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it doesn't have to be a special someone, if I have just had good sex, at that moment I could easy utter the words "I love you" I don't mean it with just anyone though
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These are the MOST dangerous words in the world. If the stars and planets are in alignment, then saying these words can be ecstasy on Earth. If not, and that is the majority of the time, these words are painful and can be deadly. Recovery can and has taken me years.
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I have never said that to a partner before lol but I'm not that vocal, I do try to show that I care but saying it out loud is hard for me
I guess I could be with someone for like 4 years and still not say that haha -
no ı never wait, ı have enough courage for anything, if ı love ı say, if ı do not love, ı say it too, no need to wait, you know what my young friend, life is shorter than you think, do not wait, just dont
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I feel like it will come out when the time is right. You will definitely feel it when you start feeling like there’s no one on earth in this world but the two of you. You get this feeling like no else matters. That’s when you say it. Just give it time
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I don't say "I love you" unless I mean it.
My SO says "I love you" all of the time, but I know that she doesn't mean it.
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just say to me "I love you..." there is no doubt I will say I love you too babe. haha
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I have to feel it before I can say it, and that can take me years.
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It just happens when it happens. I never put a particular time on it. As soon as I know that is what I am feeling, I say it and let the dice roll.
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Was slow to say in the past, will be even more so in the future. Can't see myself even dating for a while now so not sure when that will be.
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Sometimes I'll say it first and I'll mean every word when I do say it cause I honestly do mean it when I say them
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