When do you say these three words, "I love you," to that special someone?

Question

Do you wait for them to say it first? Do you say it first? When the relationship is getting serious? Or you don’t say it but you show it?

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

As a disclaimer, I'm not the "sappy, romantic" type, so take what I say with a grain of salt.

I have rarely, if ever, told anyone I love them because it's hard for me to say it- trust me when I say if I say it to someone, I genuinely mean it. Otherwise, it feels fake or forced.

I usually don't say it, instead I show them my affection through actions. And yes, I let potential partners know this about me upfront so they are not misled or think I'm not interested in them. I have a terrible way of expressing my emotions and feelings verbally. I rather show them, "Hey, I care about you" by listening to them, taking care of them, or doing small, but memorable things with them.

dophix · Accepted Answer

When u feel it

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

I don't throw those words around to just anyone. Because I know the most likely reaction will be confusion. Sunny didn't understand at first why I would say it to her. I'd been texting her for several months as just a friend, before the butterflies got the best of me. She felt sorry when the writing was on the wall. Like she'd let me down. But I understood it wasn't her fault. I half guessed from the start that her and I were doomed. International politics can be so cruel. I just pray she's safe and happy now, even though I don't get to be a part of it.

Vick2828 · Accepted Answer

It's how you feel, and you can say it anytime. Just make sure your partner feels the same.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The three words that EVERY woman wants to hear? "Let's go shopping!"

dogman7q · Answer

That's a touchy subject, am gonna say depends on how they are. Some people like myself can be vary oblivious and like straight forward not guessing and taking chance of being wrong. but then some are scared away by being honest and straightforward just like to let happen and one day it just be like an unspoken agreement 😂. Then showing somethimes isn't enough because they can do certain things and still consider you a friend or friends with benefits or whatever you guys are and not feel nothing for you. Myself I come of slightly strong I want them to know my intentions and if not interested fine at least I didn't waste my time

PeteBy · Answer

As I've posted on another topic. My partner and I met on facebook. She came over for a holiday from her country after months of chatting on the phone. The day before she was due to go home she said 'Ik hou van jou'. I didn't understand Dutch at the time, so asked what she said. She said 'I love you'.

As a general rule I'd wait for her to say it but wasn't expecting her to say it so soon. We've been together 11 years.

WeirdoFriendly · Answer

I'm quite quick to care for someone. But slow to love. I have to be absolutely sure in the relationship I have with them. My heart needs to be sure. It takes time for me. Trust is involved and personality is key. I'd say maybe a year at the least, and two years at most... Though I may say it a bit sooner so that that person doesn't leave, but I won't fully mean it yet. Though I can say it so that they know I care about them. But it's not until I know I'd give anything for them, that it'll mean anything.

I hope I explained well enough

MrPickles13 · Answer

I'd probably start by showing it in sort of actions and words without actually saying it. To sort of help build up to that. And then atmsome pojtn when the time feels right tell her how. i felt either looking into her eyes or maybe just whispering it in her ear while hugging her.

I just aren't sure on the whole would. i say it first or not. But if I do say it I do mean it.

I've only ever said that to one person and well that's my closest and best friend but thats a love of a. frjend and someone who is like family.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I have been known to say it first and he says, I'm not there yet... well that sucks, but things are not always even. Its been reverse too, someone says they love me but I'm not there yet.

Usually its a few months of dating though to get to that point.

UnknownPuppet · Answer

I say it when I feel ready. I don't care if they have said it first. If I feel like I love them and I am sure about my feelings I feel like if there is someone that needs to know that is that person. I believe that when you truly love someone you don't want to tell it just to hear the I love you back. I mean, if they say it, it is close to perfection, but love is love even if you are not loved by that person.

Andrewosas · Answer

For me it's kinda hard, I think it's not enough to say those words but your actions of care, affection, attention might already proved how important they are to you, some guys might say those words but still cheat and not even value their partner. When we have a deep understanding and I we express our feelings and plans for each other without lies or holding back, also when I see that she's someone I can spend the rest of my life with (compatible together), then I can say those words but it personally it doesn't mean much to me, I prefer proving my love for her through my everyday actions but I know people still want to hear those words especially girls🤪

IveGotNoName · Answer

He said it about 1,5 years into the relationship, and I said it back as well. Probably could have been half a year earlier, but neither of us dared to say it. One year in might seem sort of late, but our relationship got a little rocky during covid, meaning we didn't get to see each other much in a period of time, so the "process" was slowed down a bit.

Js3522 · Answer

it doesn't have to be a special someone, if I have just had good sex, at that moment I could easy utter the words "I love you" I don't mean it with just anyone though

Guardian45 · Answer

These are the MOST dangerous words in the world. If the stars and planets are in alignment, then saying these words can be ecstasy on Earth. If not, and that is the majority of the time, these words are painful and can be deadly. Recovery can and has taken me years.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have to feel it before I can say it, and that can take me years.

melanieeeB · Answer

I have never said that to a partner before lol but I'm not that vocal, I do try to show that I care but saying it out loud is hard for me
I guess I could be with someone for like 4 years and still not say that haha

DOGU8585 · Answer

no ı never wait, ı have enough courage for anything, if ı love ı say, if ı do not love, ı say it too, no need to wait, you know what my young friend, life is shorter than you think, do not wait, just dont

xxmangozz · Answer

I feel like it will come out when the time is right. You will definitely feel it when you start feeling like there’s no one on earth in this world but the two of you. You get this feeling like no else matters. That’s when you say it. Just give it time

MTC29 · Answer

I don't say "I love you" unless I mean it. My SO says "I love you" all of the time, but I know that she doesn't mean it.

tony_love_girls · Answer

just say to me "I love you..." there is no doubt I will say I love you too babe. haha

loveslongnails · Answer

I presume you're speaking of "romantic love", for lack of another term? You say it when you understand what saying it means, not only to yourself but to the other person (s), and only if you understand the possible consequences.

libsaretards · Answer

It just happens when it happens. I never put a particular time on it. As soon as I know that is what I am feeling, I say it and let the dice roll.

PamelaRivers · Answer

Was slow to say in the past, will be even more so in the future. Can't see myself even dating for a while now so not sure when that will be.

Lucy68 · Answer

Sometimes I'll say it first and I'll mean every word when I do say it cause I honestly do mean it when I say them

Valso · Answer

I found out the hard way it's best to never say these words, unless you want to quickly end the relationship. Nowadays I not only don't say them ever, I even found a way to prevent that from happening - the loving thing, I mean.

Crafteroon · Answer

I say it when I really mean it. I've said it to less than 5 people in my life, my own family included.

AviatorTom · Answer

You say "I love you" whenever you feel like saying it, don't want for someone else to say it to you.

msc545 · Answer

I've only said that in moments of utter stupidity. Never again to a woman!

dustybiker · Answer

Let it come naturally when it holds the meaning it should.

qwert1234 · Answer

I said that daily. And at the end of that relationship - I was told that it sounded scripted. It wasn't but whatever.

Anthony20108 · Answer

I say it when i feel it's the right time, with my last girlfriend who left me i waited 6 months and than i knew that she was the love of my life, and i professed it to her so she knew how closely i held her in my heart.

Mess96 · Answer

When I feel it and the other person says it first. I have to feel it and mean it

dolemite89 · Answer

i always let the girl say it and only reply “i know” like han solo 😂

RavVid · Answer

never been able to keep my mouth shut but nearly always the girl says it first.

GlassTop · Answer

I don’t say it until she gives me anal and swallows. If she doesn’t give me at least both of those she doesn’t truly love me.

ElementoP · Answer

Only when they catch me hiding in the bushes so they know why I'm there

exitseven · Answer

The first time I did it it took me 2 years to work up the nerve.

CoolGuy7532 · Answer

I think it is when you feel overall happiness with that person.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Whenever I feel that way there’s really no specific time frame for it.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

There is a girl I know online only, now since 4 years, are very good friends still. She once told me that she loves me

Andres77 · Answer

After my actions have clearly made it obvious.

LztutuIsCute · Answer

They'd catch me hiding behind a skinny tree before asking me why I was there and if I was hiding, that's a bad spot.

muncher717 · Answer

when you truly do that's when you say it show it express it when you truly feel it in your heart and soul

Deku2009 · Answer

I wait for them to say it first. I show it more then I can say it

driven159 · Answer

When the feeling is real not just to say it

Xtendable · Answer

I say it when I feel it. That might put me in a vulnerable position but hey

whistlingwh0res · Answer

I fall in love too many times and fall out of love so many times too.

Anonymous · Answer

I say this three words whenever I'm bored... And everyone is special for me. ✌️

TenderFantasy · Answer

Usually after the "deed" lol.

spartan55 · Answer

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mobiusforniner · Answer

When i mean it.

ChiTown33 · Answer

When I feel it. And not a minute before.

Iron_Man · Answer

When your heart speaks to you

pizzalovershouse · Answer

When you really get to know them

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I would only say that after we become official.

Dnice1 · Answer

When you to that you truly do love them

TallAnon · Answer

I am extremely picky about when I say that.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

During sex only.

userxvi · Answer

every morning when I look in the mirror!

Fuentes · Answer

I only say this to the Dead Peesidents

Zolly99999 · Answer

It really depends on the relationship...

jimmy2 · Answer

No ith feels it both wants it so tell it

RoulOB · Answer

I never did 🙂😓

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