Okay so I would love some clarity to check if I am being crazy or toxic on something please :") ?

[ZestyZeus]

So this is to do with my girlfriend,
Basically about a month ago she told me she kissed her best friends cousin (that I know) on a night out one time, and I was like "okay didn't need to know" but I wasn't too bad because it's only a kiss on a night out, it happens blah blah. but i then find out this weekend that they actually made out in her friends house for "around 10 minutes or more" and I was like "well that's a bit bloody different so to a kiss on a night out" and she said "I still considered it a night out" and then she said last night when I wanted to talk a bit more about it asking if it was just a kiss and stuff she said yes and she said no to him (eventually) and I said that was wrong of him to take advantage (because she had just broken up with her ex) she said "no he didn't I don't think, because I wanted it" and that... that's messed me up the biggest so far because I will probably be meeting this guy in the foreseeable future and I have to live with the image in my head like 😅 and it feels like she's basically lied to me, and the way she reacted was to cry and run out outside when all I did was discover the truth and talk in a calm way.
There are also more incidents that bothered me before but this is the most recent and one that bothers me the most right now.

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Before I forget, this didn't happen recently it was a year ago, but the point still stands that she did lie for no reason and I find that weird, especially as I had to meet the guy twice this weekend (before and after finding out the truth) and they both asked me not to hit him before I found out which is what made me suspicious because I was thinking "why would I hit a guy over just one kiss", and more context we've only been together for 2 and half months

[IAteTwoFullHams]

Yeah, it sounds like she did indeed have a full-on makeout session with another man, lie to you about it, and then try to convince you that you're in the wrong for being upset.

You're going to pretty consistently get the same advice from any guy you talk to about this: this should be your ex-girlfriend.

[ZestyZeus]

Yeah and it was the reaction that got me, she was crying and saying she felt ashamed and that she didn't deserve me, but I never had a tho at her for it I just found out the truth and said "That's a very different situation that what you told me and it hurts you basically lied to me", but I just can't seem to justify it after she said the whole "I wanted it" thing even if she did say "At the time" after too.

[Anonymous]

Black woman cheat all the time! This is why you shouldn't date bla k woman they at ethe worst. God black people are a disgrace!

[ZestyZeus]

Ummm I don't know where you got that from because she isn't black 😅 and she didn't cheat...