The more a man lovebombs, the more likely he's using you right?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes my mother complains that my father isn't very romantic. He's always been more into actions than words. He usually doesn't like promising and would rather do it.

This was my father's reply that made her silent for several long seconds: ''But you have the most important thing, marriage and our kids won't you? I gave up my freedom and self-interest. I gave it all up for you and you're still complaining''.

My father believes that men who lovebomb too much (do what my mother demands), tell you ''you're the love of my life''... shower you excessively with gifts and say too much promises are usually the users who will never propose and marry you. Is this right?

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He believes if a man needs to lovebomb too much and constantly tells you ''I love you'' and ''you're the love of my life'' then he's never going to marry her because it's all BS, fake love.

[Guy13]

Get ready for straightforward... your Dad is f-up. Women and children need kind and caring word with Action. Both is required in love. I agree with your Mom and think your Dad needs to Man the hell Up !!

[Asker]

He actually makes fun of ''I'll be with your forever, for 100 years'' romantic love songs.
The thing is I was in a relationship with a man that said kind and caring words too much. Then I find out later on, I was with a narcissist that never had plans of ever proposing.

I'm now in my 2nd relationship with someone affectionate, there are caring words but actions too. However, he doesn't overdo with ''I'll love you forever'' words but rather an ''I had a great time with you''.

[Asker]

I guess it depends on the words. There are kind and caring words vs fake lovebombing words.

[Guy13]

You definitely say it better than I ever could. I know the love actions, few words, and provision. It depends on girl... Women are not easy but they are worth it. I'm glad you found yourself a Good one !!!