Man I am not good at comforting crying people. It irks me. I am sensitive and will shed a tear at most but when it comes to full on crying, I rather do that in private.
I guess I get it from my grandpa. Only on occasion does we let ourselves slip in front of someone, and thats because we know it’ll be used against us later. My mom for sure loves to say taunting with the “ohhh let me guess, you’re gonna cry.” My mom, grandma and sis are complete opposite and cry a lot and always seek comfort. All i know to say to them is “it’ll be okay.” Then they scream that I’m not there for them bt I don't know what more folks want me to do. Im not a hugger. If I hug you, you better but cherish that moment cause it’ll only happen a few times a year.
Anyways, this old male coworker has been crying to me for weeks about his wife wanting to leave him and its driving me nuts. I hate he even has my number. At this rate, he’s texting himself because I dont even want to reply anymore. I just want to talk about work and our clientele/statistics but he keeps crying and now he’s talking suicidal. Almost every crying person I meet talks suicidal and it just pisses me off. The first 2 times I am comforting and encouraging them to keep on living but after that I have to walk away because I really want to say just die already and I feel awful. I’m very robotic.
I still want to be a mom but I realize lately that crying babies bother me and I think thats why if i ever adopt, it’ll be a kid that cries a bit less like a 3+ year old. I absolutely know I’m not a danger to anyone so I know I wouldn’t hurt a kid but i do hate that I can’t emotionally relate. When i say I like an emotional connection, maybe I mean mental connection because the emotions are just hardly there for me. I am loving and caring but to an extent I guess. I don’t love anyone unconditionally and don’t intend to until I have kids.
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