Would you give it? Yes/no? Why/why not?
Would you do the same?
I was with a guy like that for three years and he would get mad if I didn’t call and talk to him and let him know where o was going for a simple place like the grocery store. Once I stayed at work late and I told him I was at work. He didn’t believe me and started calling my phone non stop. I couldn’t answer because I was with customers and he showed up at work. I wouldn’t be in a relationship like that again. I felt like I was in prison and had no friends.
I’ve got nothing to hide. What would concern me is why would he need that information.
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My partner asked me if I wanted to get on this app with her that tracks us. I said sure, because I don't really care.
I'll be completely honest... it was her idea, but I really use it the most to watch her when she's bringing out food home...
That sounds really insecure, fearful, and ridiculous. Some people believe that they can prevent bad things from happening, and themselves getting hurt, by keeping a tight leash on those they love. They're wrong.
I wouldn't like that. Seems a little stalkerish.. if he wants to know where I'm at then he can call me
If a girl is going to ask me she wants to be able to track me 24/7 I will definitly not appreciate it at all! It might even be a red flag for me because clearly it's very unhealthy in my opinion! For sure it will create drama sooner or later because of insecurity's and it will also give me the feeling that she has serious thrust issue's.
For me having a good relationship starts with thrust! If there is no thrust it means for me it's going to be wasted effort and time.
It happened to me in the past already and 1 time was more then enough for me. I felt like a prisoner in my own relationship because off her own insecurity's because she was desperatly searching for a mistake that I wasn't going to make anyway because I'm a honest person.
The goverment already follows me, at work they wanne know my every move so if my girlfriend is also tracking me 24/7 it will take my last bit of feeling free away from me.
She can ask me anytime where I am and what I'm doing but tracking me 24/7 is out of the question
A wife being able to find the husband if it seems like an emergency, then some abiity to track sort of makes sense. Having the phone settings set up so she can find me if I'm going to be going into dangerous city is one thing. Always checking up on me is a bit different. Insisting on it all the time is different.
Even though I am confident I would always pass that "are you cheating" test... just even unintentionally or unaware (because I'm honest), I still don't want the feeling of constantly being watched and tracked. If she's that possessive, I'm not interested on principle... it's not "I don't want her tracking me because I'm sneaking around" It's "I don't want her tracking my every move and being possessive, even though I'm being honest. It's STILL creepy."
And I want some freedom to change a tire or go grab McDonalds once in a while, or to be able to go to an extra store to look for something on a whim (because I couldn't find it at two other places) without her knowing every move, even if it's boring and honest. I'd probably shut off tracking for non emergencies.
Yeah, if she proposed that idea, I'd probably laugh in her face. No, that won't fly. If she can't trust me after six months of being honest (and I'm not giving her legit reasons to question me), then that's her issue to get over. I don't like possessiveness.
The two most important attributes in any relationship. Communication is first place and trust is second place. There are other important attributes, but the foundation of every single relationship must begin with these two. If Communication sucks and therebis jo trust then you might as well break up because you two do not take each other seriously.
I am best friends and roommates with a guy who is polyamorous and he has multiple girlfriends who are also polyamorous with him, and he is even a little bi-curious but has not done things with a dude yet, that I am aware of, but I have learned a lot about what I want in my relationships because of watching him and his experiences for the past 12 years.
His life looks interesting and appealing at times, but I prefer my women like my basketball style. Which is "one on one", in other words no other guys for her and no other gals for me. I am just with her and she is just with me.
But if she cannot trust me and I cannot trust her, then it is time to break up and move on.
I've done this before - both ways. I have nothing to hide. It just makes it easier when she knows I'm still on a job vs. on my way home, and keeps me from having to stop and answer texts about "have you left yet?"
The only place that I ever go that's "questionable" is a fast-food drive-thru. Otherwise, I'm not at home, and not at work, I'm usually with her, or I'm handling some family obligation, which she usually doesn't attend but is welcome to do so if she wants.
When I'm wiring up a house, I usually come home with saw dust/drill shavings in my hair and on my clothes. If I'm installing speakers, I'm often wearing drywall dust. If I have to crawl under a house, I'll have dirt or mud on my knees, elbows, and toes. Not every day is a "dirty work" day, but many are.
I brought my last girlfriend to work for a day, because she was questioning why I was often tired at night. She barely made it through the day, and I didn't make her work, I just made her follow me everywhere I went, including every trip up and down stairs and up and down ladders. Most importantly, she could see that I never stop working once I start - I'm driving, then I'm talking to the customer, then I'm working, then I'm talking again, then I'm driving to the next job. One day at my job seemed to answer every question, because she never worried about it again. LOL.
I have nothing to hide so I wouldn’t mind , if someone is going to cheat on you they are going to cheat on you no matter what, so allowing each other to track each other shouldn’t be a big deal , I feel it’s more of a safety concern over anything , say you got in a car accident , or you lost your phone ect… , I rather my partner have access to my location over not having it at all , I think it’s more shady that you don’t want your location on at all honestly if you are in a relationship , it shouldn’t be a big deal , If my partner wants to watch my where bouts all day long then so be it , I would feel bad for her that she didn’t trust me and do my best to make her not feel so insecure , Everyone has insecurities whether they say they do or not , Why get mad over someone you supposedly love to be able to check up on you , the other thing is as well just because you turn your location off that doesn’t stop you from being tracked , everyone is tracked when they are connected to phone service , so why make a big deal about having your location shut off?
Oh I'd have fun with her if she demanded that I have a tracker on my person. Firstly, it would be the death blow to the relationship, but fuck it lets have fun. One gag I would play on her would be the tracker on a rat and let it run all over the place. Then her retarded ass would start following the tracker not knowing it was on the rat. I would record her chase, put it all over social media, monetize like it was was no one's business, profit like a bandit, then return a year later on someone's video to do an episode of "Where Are They Now?"
Another gag I would do is put it on an RC car and drive it all around her friend's property. Because lets face it, any time a woman comes up with a dumb idea of putting a tracker on her man, it was sanctioned by the council of the sisterhood, hence her friends. So why not sow some back stabbing and a little violence between she and her friends?
The answer is no for me. My husband and I don’t track each other. I had the tracker app on my children’s phones but didn’t use it often - only if I felt I needed to check on them (I usually found out they were where they told me there were- and yes I know they can put their phone in someone’s mailbox. So we have a rule that if they don’t answer phone gets taken away.)
long story short I find it invasive, that’s just my personal opinion. You can narrow it down to not only the pin point location but zoom in to see the exact building they are in. If you have trust issues that deep maybe you shouldn’t be in the relationship.
I wouldn't think that's necessary. Autonomy between a couple is so important to have a healthy relationship. Having a tracker 24/7 can become extremely obsessive and toxic if it's not handled appropriately.
I understand sharing your location if your partner is going on an extended road trip, or doing something that might require reassurance for safety measures etc. but for everyday use is just extreme.
If that's what a partner wants, you should be questioning his/her trust issues, insecurities, obsessive behaviour, controlling, it can open a whole can of worms. And if you really want to go deep, someone suddenly wanting that from their SO could be projecting their own behaviour if they're doing things behind their partners back.
Phew!
We use a app for that, not so much that we can track each other, which we can but more that if something happens we know the last known location, at least of their phone.
We don't have to ask permission or justify or anything like that, it is... I'm heading to the store, and if I happen to detour, no big deal but if I feel like checking (or they checking) I/we can.
I got annoyed by all the notifications and turned them off, so I have to actively look to see where he is.
I don't see an issue with it, then again we are married so... wouldn't do that if we weren't.
If he got real annoying and controlling about where I went, then that could be a problem, but we are both pretty relaxed about it.
Demanding your S/O for their global location and wanting to know where they are every hour of every day is nothing but controlling and toxic behavior. It shows you have a lack of trust in your relationship and your obsessed over your partner's so much so that you can't help but always wonder what they're up to, who they're with or what they're doing.
If my partner behaves this way, I'll first of all ask them why they want my location. Do they not trust me when I tell them what I'm doing? Is this what we're doing now? Can't they respect that I have a life, a hobby and friends other than just them? If they can't learn to give me my personal space, then no. Not only am I not giving them my GPS location, but I'll also tell them that they can hit the road instead. If the roles were reversed, I'd let them have their own space as well, in fact, I'd urge them to.
While it is creepy and possibly controling, as long as she would be satisfied with only knowing where I am without trying to order me where I can or cannot go, I would be willing to share location with her.
I mean she could ask me afterwards how was my day and where I went anyways.
HOWEVER, I would be thinking why she needs to know that. Whether she isn't planning to be unfaithful or something. After all getting aggressive and trying to find proof of cheating is often a strategy of unfaithful people to shift the blame for breaking up to their partner.
Well, we don't need to because we tell each other where exactly at or were heading. We send pictures or videos of the place or people with us and even the activity we do. We do this not becuas we talked about it. Never happened. It just become natural for us. And no one demanded for that. And as I see it and as I told my SO before, it's not about trust issue but it's more of respect. Especially when you do things separately.
That's why recently when he failed to tell me where he's at and got to know it later when he's at that place already. I felt a little bit off like I'm a bit disrespected by him.
Ha. I’m pretty much a homebody right now, especially since I’m grinding hard for my online business. So… That GPS is going to be boring as f*ck to watch. 😂
It’ll just be like: Mhm. Yup. There he is. Working from home. Again. Like he has been all week. All month. Mhm. Yup. OH WAIT, HE’S MOVING. Oh. He’s just getting the mail. He’s back to his studio now…
But, in terms of the request to know my location 24/7, that would kinda piss me off a little. Like: Wow. You don’t trust me THAT much, huh? Just… Wow… I need a moment to think… *long pause, thinking about what possibly could have made her ask me something like that* … What is going on? Why do you feel like you need that? Really. Tell me. What’s going on?
I've been w/controlling and insecure men like this. My now husband was like this in the beginning! He wanted to know where I was all the time, who I was with, who I was texting/calling, when I was coming home, and he'd look on my phone so I had to put a PIN on it.
I wouldn't be okay with him demanding my location. But recently I was attacked by a man after work and it made me realize how fast a criminal could attack and possibly take me hostage. It would be nice to know my husband could find me as long as I have my phone on me.
Weird and sounds a bit controlling. Some people are controlling by nature and others become controlling because of bad experiences with their last relationships. They ended up becoming insecure cause their boyfriend/girlfriend either dropped them out the blue or they were cheated on. That caused them to have trust issues and now they have to know what their S. O. is doing at all times just to make sure their not gonna get left/cheated on again.
Maybe a real difference perspective.
But more concerned with safety.
I could care less about what she’s doing but that we have clear communication.
Going out with friends great have a good time.
Visiting a old friend awesome…
Don’t text you got home safe?
I’m out looking for you.
Privacy is important for my SO
But she trusts, well knows! I’m out looking for her if she doesn’t come home.
If someone is less concerned with your safety and more concerned with control that is a problem. But if you value Your SO than what’s the problem?
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