Read a myTake just now. Do you think that too beautiful & below-average-looking people are the ones that face the most problems in/for relationships?

[Anonymous]

The medium-looking ones are fine, they get someone sooner or later. But the two extremes are the ones that have this problem of not finding someone, as easily as the medium-looking ones.

Do you agree on that?

This is the myTake---

What my medical friend told me about dating in college

[OlderAndWiser]

No one can truly compare their experience with the experience that others have.

I am a fairly normal guy for my age, not suave, debonair, sophistcated and also not an ugly slow. The only advantage I have is that I still have hair! How do I really know what it's like to be super-handsome or super-ugly?

The fact is that when you ask any questions like "who has it worse," almost everyone thinks they have it worse. Everybody slides around singing "Nobody Knows The Troubles I've Seen!"

[Asker]

You think on a completely different level and in a different manner than other people.

What you said is absolutely right, and I have seen such behavior among people.

[Part2603]

I more or less agree with OlderandWiser, but I'd like to suggest some nuance rather than just call all subjectivity a wash. Yes people's subjective feelings are gonna be the deciding factor to uh, their decisions... But I think there probably is a statistical pattern that could be ferreted out if sociologists wanted to investigate.

My speculation is that bad people do have it bad, medium people have it pretty good, and really good looking people can have it really good, provided that they didn't have abuse fouling them up during the formative years.

You can think of a hypothetical smoking hottie babe getting with the wrong guy when she's a teenager, and being traumatized and have difficulty having healthy relationships with other men in the future.

But you could also imagine an alternate timeline where she never met that guy and turned out completely different.

Now maybe some women are drawn to bad guys. Some people have incurable stupidity. Yes, people are responsible for their own decisions. Maybe some people were destined to make bad choices because of their fundamental nature. But in the aggregate these sort of statistics will reach a norm.

And I think that most people at the top of the physical attractiveness scale will probably do well. The hollywood trope of the smoking hottie that's damaged and cynical of men is a trope after all.

In my experience, really attractive women seem no worse off than anyone else. The only reason they're unhappy is because they're full of themselves, but that's not a bad position to be in, it's not as bad a handicap to be a little narcissistic. And most girls sort of ham it up as a shit test, and most of them that go the full feminism route do so because of a moral failing, I guess you could say, not because of their environment. These girls were going to be assholes anyway, regardless of how early they got their tits.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[maximumpower]

The good looking ones - especially the women - tend to be those with the most problems.
Too late they discover that looks will get them a ways but not when it really counts.

[NathanDavis]

I have a few friends and acquaintances that would fit in the "categories' of "too beautiful" and also the "below average looking"

and they have been married for years or they have been in a long time relationship for years... but they are all great people as well and have partners that are as great, and they do work because of that, because they sure are way way way more than just their looks and physical appearance

[slatyb]

"Too beautiful" Mostly not, but they may suffer from a surplus of attention.

[Topher87090]

If you're ugly yes. Too beautiful people may only find it difficult to have a long lasting relationships ugly people struggle to have any relationship at all

[Apologies456]

Case by case basis