What would you say or do if your partner catches you checking out another hottie or you catch them checking out someone else?

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ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

I haven't been in enough stable relationships long enough to have that ever be something I give much thought to.

Closest I can think of, is catching other dudes trying to leave flirty posts on the gal's Facebook wall. If I believe what I have with her is exclusive, I ask the other dude what the heck is going on.

I don't like nasty surprises, and I don't like competition for the apple of my eye. I may not do anything crazy, but it's hard to keep my jealousy to myself.

Had I been with anyone long enough publicly to ever have the tables turned, she'd note that while I may notice another pretty face, I don't stare for too long. My eyes may wander for a hot second, but my heart stays true.

Alas, I get shot down prematurely more often than not, so I have never been able to properly test this scenario.

kw4nghyun1993 · Accepted Answer

I honestly don't even know the stuff like that when I'm outside. If they're just looking with the eyes, honestly as long as they don't act nothing then I cannot assume nothing anything negative off the bat.

SEL195 · Accepted Answer

I neveer check someone out in person i don't focus on anyone else. I do check out people on facebook or instagtam. Also if he does it i will probably tell him eyes here sweetheart.

Tina19 · Accepted Answer

Hahah yes guilty i have been caught by my boyfriend few times and he said stop looking at other guys😂and i pretend i don't know what he was talking about

coachTanthony · Answer

I would just play it off. We are all human.

Finchie40 · Answer

If she is the type that constantly looks at other guys while she is with me she won’t be my girlfriend for long , it just goes to show what she does when I am not around , Now if she notices a good looking guy and does a quick glance that is normal but if she is sitting their staring at him multiple times and barely listening to me , he can have her , it’s a sign of disrespect in a relationship if you loved and valued your partner you wouldn’t really need to be looking elsewhere is how I look at it

MrOracle · Answer

My last girlfriend was bi, and not jealous, and I usually had responsibilities that I was paying attention to, so it was far more common for her to point out attractive girls (or barely contained body parts) to me. She didn't care if I looked - she knew it wouldn't go beyond that, and I spent nearly all of my free time with her as it was.

She wasn't the first girl I dated who did that either. If a girl feels secure in the relationship, she can be open to many things that she might never consider otherwise.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

A friend of mine & I were chitchatting & a girl walked by & I looked at her ass & I mean really looked. My friend got really jealous & please note I’m single & my female friend is in a relationship. Long story short she hits me on the arm, I laugh & I told her I’m allowed to look being that I’m a single guy.

NewsReader · Answer

The best way to avoid conflict is by trying to be cool about it. If I caught my wife or girlfriend (if I had one) checking out some guy, I would look at him and make a comment in a playful way. Maybe ask what caught her attention, mention what caught my attention, something like that. And keep going with whatever we were doing. That way no one ends up pissed, angry, offended, etc.

Chris_Morgan · Answer

My ex was different, she would actually point out other women to me that she knew I would be attracted to. Then she would laugh at me because I would look and I was embarrassed. I didn't care if she looked at other guys either because we were very close at one time in our relationship and I didn't feel like anything could tear us apart ever.

NathanDavis · Answer

I just don't usually do that.. never been caught at it either

in fact, more often was the case when they would hit me with the elbow and say "look at THAT!! when it was indeed, quite the sight, lol

as for them, checking out others... I never cared

in my experience, women do it all the time... and it can either, fashion, their style or their looks and anything else going on so... never been a big deal to me, lol

MementoMori_ · Answer

Oh man... my last girlfriend and I both worked in a major city FILLED with hot women.

Every time we walked down the street together it was TORTURE trying not to check them out. But I knew if I did she would go ballistic and I wouldn't be getting any that night.

RavVid · Answer

One of the charms of perving is the wrongness of doing it in the presence of your partner. It gives a fillip to the whole act of checking out another girl.

There is never a time I am not, in a street or shopping center, but I have never been rebuked for it. Maybe I am good at hiding it or maybe they are like 'thats what guys do'. It helps if they are walking just a little bit ahead.

As much as I have had is 'I like her top/skirt/shoes/boots'.

jaadu_14 · Answer

I will do nothing like if you date mee i will give you freedom to checkout other woman lolll and if I see you're noticing other girl i will become more hot than her 🥴🥴

Zolly99999 · Answer

Honestly if I'm in a stable relationship it doesn't bother me if guys check out my girl or she checks out other guys.. it's human nature.. and if that other guy is more important then the relationship is not worth having in the first place and I don't want to be with a girl like that anyway.

Roothingsnice · Answer

I'd turn a blind eye, we're only human, and yes, humans make mistakes, we learn from our errors.

Later on I'd say OK, but I'd like you more if you didn't do it again.

Why loose a partner over a small error of judgement? Life's to short to judge others, we all make errors of judgement. It's similar to saying what is right or wrong, humans have various ideas on that matter.

Roo x

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

It wouldn't bother me, I'd want to look too lol. I'm more concerned when they're cheating than if, because they haven't given me a reason to not trust them.

Still-alive · Answer

hug her and say "i love you" just to remind them randomly without acknowledging what they are doing ;)

Lina26 · Answer

I'd be worried if my partner doesn't check out women 🤣🤣🤣 Of course everything must have a limit, but I'm usually cool with it.

hyperben · Answer

my girlfriend catches me all the time, she is cool with it, im cool with her doing it, if the relationship is good there's no harm in looking at the menu with pictures on

ZackBan · Answer

I myself will look if I see something so it's fair I let her look as well. But I would call it out just so she knows I noticed

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If I had a girl who wants to check out other guys nothing I can do but I don't do them things now I've run into girls who did stuff like that to make me jealous.

Iron_Man · Answer

That’s my basketball team I live here in Miami that’s the Miami Heat

dragoblack · Answer

"What?, and you don't look when you see an attractive person? Out of everyone in life realize that you were the one i picked. Sure, they are nice to look at but that's where it ends. I'm not so stupid i would go a cheat, you know me better."

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Point out she can't even pull a man that's hotter than me. Then point and laugh at her.

mandyfire98 · Answer

It's never bothered me because it's only looking. I'm probably looking at them too.

dustybiker · Answer

It’s crazy that gets my attention, and it’s usually agreed on.

qwert1234 · Answer

If she looks at other dudes: Eh. I do not care. If she catches me: But babe, she got nice legs.

MiseriaCantareAFI · Answer

There's a girl on here who claims she's bi, and that she has a boyfriend, yet, everything points to her being either single, or les. Or it's a guy pretending to be a girl

Fuentes · Answer

Make me look bad in anyway in public and we done  I would just say I thought I knew her

PantyBuyer4Life · Answer

I encourage it, hoping she'll talk to him and that they'll hook up if she's into it.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

We all do but girls don't stare like guys do

neoagent1 · Answer

Window shopping allowed, buying means breaking up

BLP11520 · Answer

I am not out in public much with my wife, I cannot help but look at women's butts a lifetime thing

anton_dee · Answer

Nuthin much. We are but humans. It's in our instincts to go want a stronger, better looking mate.

BlurryHaze · Answer

Hey if they're wearing a Smiths shirt I'm definitely looking haha.

GrapeApe98 · Answer

As long as she doesn't cheat on me, she can look at whoever she wants.

tundabby · Answer

I would let them do whatever because i'm not gone force him not to. if he doesn't wanna be kept then byeee

sjskdnxkxkckc · Answer

I would admit it it's happened before why hide it I just learn to do it when she's not around

spartan55 · Answer

That type of thing has never bothered me.

exitseven · Answer

I am allowed to look but not touch.

BJP21 · Answer

Looking is fine.

Kelly6 · Answer

nothing, its ok to look

Hanrej · Answer

I don't mind if she does. 😊

Sevenpointfive · Answer

the shaggy defense "it wasn't me"

Nahid1707 · Answer

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Thecubs22 · Answer

Simply confront her on it?

jimmy2 · Answer

Well shoot let get it out in the open 😂

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

I'll join in.

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

I'm not blind

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