How would you feel if your partner asked you to check out another girl or guy?

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This kind of ties in to my last question.
Sometimes the few times we are out she taps me and murmurs to check out another girl's backside or how she's dressed, etc. One time she even told me a woman on the other side of street was a real "figa" (very hot). I never understand if she's testing me or just messing with me, plus I don't like looking at strangers so I mainly just nod or say I didn't see her.
What about you?

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But maybe it's better if you keep me blocked.

Myk13 · Accepted Answer

My first wife would constantly do that. At first it was a little strange. After awhile it just seemed normal. It turned me into a people watcher. No I can take a seat anywhere and just watch everybody passing by. I look at everything from the new suit he’s wearing with old shoes. A girl wearing flats in a cocktail dress so she isn’t taller than her man. Shorts and flip-flops with a jacket. Sometimes I wonder what kind of blunt trauma had to be inflicted prior to them getting dressed. I check out everybody’s shopping cart at the grocery store, and how the pay for it all. Not sure if it makes me judgmental, or just curious.

Exotic_Insinuations · Accepted Answer

I would just look at that person for a second, say : yeah, cool. Or something like that.
And than i would get my attention back on us.

I'm not interested in other people when i'm with her. It's not that i ignore them, maybe I'll sometimes mention someone, depends on situation.

But i don't want a girlfriend with whom i would go around and gossip about other people.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would feel okay with it. My boyfriend is bi and so he checks out both guys and girls on occasion, and i feel I can’t judge since i do on occasion as well. If we see someone attractive while together we’ll briefly look and resume. Its not really a big deal if you don’t make it. At the end of the day, both of us still have eyes and find other people physically attractive. We know that we are attractive to one another and we love one another, so someone being attractive to us isn't a threat to our relationship or trust

Poppykate · Accepted Answer

Maybe she is trying to spice things up in the relationship. Get a feel of what turns you on physically. Sometimes it’s fun to dress up in a wig and different makeup and have sex... it’s like having sex with a new person! Maybe she is trying to start a conversation with you... like ‘that women has big boobs. Do you like big boobs Jean or smaller ones? Etc. It turns us on, knowing what turns you on.

SexyAshh · Answer

Oh jean, I don't know why your description made me laugh🙈😄

I can assume she's teasing or maybe testing your reaction, maybe she's wanting to spice things up with another woman and dropping hints.

Or may not be any, she may just not be the jelous type and appreciating other womens looks

19magic · Answer

Id say its a bit teasing personally I'd do that with people on telly rather in real life, unless there's something extreme like a little while I saw a girl who looked like she was wearing a bralet like a top, I would have pointed that out to a boyfriend. Like I fucking loved chis pratt in jurassic world yum and would openly say that to a boyfriend and I'd expect him to be the same and say xyz is hot it'll be a right laugh

GothRose2 · Answer

I don't have a partner Why do I always see your questions in the first page?

HowAwkwardToBeAlive · Answer

If you don’t like it then just tell her you don’t want to look.

I don’t check people out because I know when people do it to me then it makes me uncomfortable. If my partner told me to look I’d ask why tf they were looking tbh.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That's f'ed up. That's some passive-aggressive manipulative behavior right there. You did the right thing by responding the way you did. Keep doing that.

sammy1537 · Answer

Rule for Happy life together #5: it doesn't matter where you get your "appetite" as long as you eat at home.

LonewolfMeme · Answer

I'd be uncomfortable and I wouldn't do it either as I get jealous very easily (thanks to 2 previous boyfriend's I also have some trust and anxiety problems because of it)

guitarnovice · Answer

I'd be into it. I would ask her what she likes about her. Try to see her perspective. I wouldn't worry about it being a trap. If it turned out to be a trap I would just be like "hey it was your idea." I wouldn't feel awkward or be silent cuz that would make her feel embarrassed in public. She would be trusting me with something she has on her mind often and I wouldn't shut her down. I would look at it as an out of the ordinary bonding experience.

Agape93 · Answer

Wouldn’t be bothered. I do it anyways, and I know damn well she does l lol

Paolaa988 · Answer

Weird and shocked cause I feel like he's giving the door that its okay to cheat and it's not.

lanadelrey25 · Answer

I wouldn't say "oh yeah they're sexy" but I might say "ok... I care why?"

NewlonBett · Answer

))) Anything is possible that she just checks.
But in fact, let go of the situation, you have nothing to worry about..
Try something like that and you. Tell her to look at the guy somehow.. come up with a situation and see the reaction)))

elizamichale1 · Answer

my boyfriend does that sometimes
he would go like hey Eli look at that girl's tits or ass what do u think she is natural or fake lol
or sometimes he would ask me to look at some other guy
and i do the same

jamesgoldman · Answer

Do it, say my partner is better and avert the potential crisis

ch2raf · Answer

I would know right away they're not truly interested in me and just passing time messing around  If you genuinely care about someone you'll want them only for yourself  That's the truth

R3DthatDude · Answer

It’s a trap! I must dodge this temptation like neo from matrix. Not today satin

jadedNcorupt · Answer

It makes me feel like I'm less than. Like there's someone out there always who's going to turn his head faster and more frequently than I could or would. It crushes any confidence or self esteem I had

Account · Answer

I wouldn't understand the reason (s) behind it, I'd be suspicious and I would do the same thing because I tend to mimic what I don't understand.

Fuentes · Answer

She either tryna trick me or she looking for an excuse to cheat

ChooChooHaha · Answer

If my partner and I did that, cool. I think it shows a level of trust and imtimacy.

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