Cheating? Please explain this?

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Explain this to me.. example: say a girlfriend has a feeling about her boyfriend cheating on her. She has some pretty good Suspicions. so the girlfriend decides to check her boyfriends phone. turns out the boyfriend is cheating on her. So she decides she is going to confront him. then the boyfriend Get so angry with her and says "that was an invasion of my privacy I could never trust you, you should not be going through my phone". Yet he was cheating on her. And she would never know if she didn't check his phone.
Soo is it OK to do shady things in private without the other person knowing?
I just always thought if you have nothing to hide it shouldn't matter if your boyfriend or girlfriend looks at your phone. But whatever

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

"Soo is it OK to do shady things in private without the other person knowing?"

It's not okay in a committed relationship or if the cheater knows the other person thinks it's a serious relationship.

A lot of people make the mistake of getting into a 'serious' relationship without agreeing on the ground rules. To me it's like buying a car/house. You would never do that with zero paperwork. There should always be conditions agreed to by both people. When you skip this step and just assume you both will abide by the rules of random TV shows & romance movies/songs you're setting yourself up for trouble. Easier to weed out the people who aren't into those conditions if it's discussed.

Nations have spy agencies... they don't trust any other nation 100%. And people in relationships are fools to trust anybody 100% too. It's just that trust approaches 100% the deeper the relationship is. But it can't start out at a high number on day 1.

Twalli · Accepted Answer

If you can't trust a person then why are you with them? Also if you suspect someone is cheating and you can't find out that they are, you usually don't then assume you were wrong. You assume that they're really good at hiding it. You don't search your partner's phone or computer to find out if they're cheating. You search it to prove they're cheating. You've already decided that they're doing it. You just want to find proof, and if you don't you don't assume they aren't, you assume they're hiding it really well.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

TBH if someone who wants to be in a serious relationship with you doesn't want you to have access to their phone, it is 100% because they are doing something they don't want you to see and they should be immediately dumped.

AviatorTom · Answer

Going through someone's phone without permission IS an invasion of privacy and a lack of trust. That he cheated, and she found evidence of that, doesn't change that she invaded his privacy.

Now, she needs to deal with the cheating... forget about the privacy thing, that's not what's important now.

And NO... a person doesn't have a right to do shady things in private. That's like a person saying it's not illegal unless I get caught... WRONG!

Anonymous · Answer

That is one point i kept making. Although i prefer my privacy not being invaded to say the least but if suspicion is high enough on someone caught cheating? I don't blame anyone doing the snooping AND finding cheating evidence.

My devices are protected. The passwords are only known to me and i Will keep it that way.

Anonymous · Answer

If there is suspicion of cheating, he should be willing to show evidence that he's not like showing his phone

Only exception is if it's like something personal about his boss's life and the girlfriend is a loud mouth causing drama by spreading anything she hears, but loud mouths like that should be dumped beforehand anyways

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Shady shit it going to beget shady shit eventually... I don't care how respectful the person is. The one that started it all is at blame.

BJP21 · Answer

It's the sneaky, behind the back, dishonesty that constitutes a cheat. He needs to face the music, he's caught. He needs to take accountability. Simple as that.

Legion696969 · Answer

Yes you should check up on your partner? He's cheating on his girlfriend? You don't deserve that and get rid of him  You should be enough for him, Paul x

Anonymous · Answer

This is a classic case of trying to deflect guilt, and right or wrong, he has nerve saying you invaded his privacy.

Anonymous · Answer

in your case yeah it's fine

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