Boyfriend of 1 year said I was boring?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been together with my boyfriend for a year now. He lives 2 hours away from me so we see each other once a month which isn’t much. We used to talk a lot everyday all the time, not anymore though because he said I was boring and I don’t have anything to talk about and he’s feeling bored in this relationship because of the same routine, we talk about the same thing everyday. I asked him if he wanted time for himself, he said no and that it wouldn’t solve anything. He said I shouldn’t be affectionate 24/7 and it’s upsetting to be be loving all the time and I should be talking about something else or a story or something about my day. I really do but I spend most of our calls listening to his problems and storys and he doesn’t give me the chance to talk. He said too much of something taste good anymore. My heart really broke because he was the one who was begging me to be all over him. After he got mad and took out all of his chest he told me to not to disappear and be cold because of what he said. really felt like I was not good enough. I’ve looked online and watched videos on how to not be boring in the relationship but I don’t know what to do. Has anyone ever experienced boredom in the relationship? What can I do to keep the spark alive?

[DeltaRecon]

Sounds like you need to surprise him showing up one day out of the blue. He needs some excitement in his life. Long distance relationships are tough. Being have been in one it gets tough to find new things to talk about. Maybe just text him something you did for the day. Try surprising him here and there. If his attitude doesn’t change. Tell him you’re done and ignore him for a week or so. If he doesn’t adjust his attitude or decide to not have anything to do with you by trying to get your attention. Then be done with him. It’s kinda manipulative, but it’ll give you an idea of where his head is. Give him a break for a week. Don’t answer any calls. Pray that he shows up on your doorstep and then play your sob story. Let him know in person how you feel and how you’re trying to go to lengths to be less boring and just want to grow with him. Make plans to move closer together. He may not see any plan or any intention from you to be closer to him. Just some thoughts to throw out there. Make a plan to exit the long distance part of the relationship and be together everyday

[slatyb]

What an ass. Dump him and find someone who is happy to be with you.

[Midgetmcwidget]

It’s a compliment, I can’t wait to lead a boring life. My life is unimaginable, you wouldn’t believe it if I told you, to have a normal boring life is what I strive for.