My girlfriend hits me really hard whenever things don’t work her way or she loses an argument. I have never hit her back?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend hits me really hard whenever things don’t work her way or she loses an argument. I have never hit her back. Should I hit her back? I tried breaking up, but she always comes back to me crying. She even stalks my location and turns up to my location when we've broken up and won't leave until I agree to get back together with her. What should I do?

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1 y

Hi all, thanks for all your advice and help. Yesterday I sat her down at her family's house and told her I want to break up and explained all my reasons why, and that I still care for her and hope everything works out for her even though it didn't work out with us.

She then started crying and sobbing, and snatched my house-keys away from me and physically wouldn't let me have them back. When I went to the front door, she blocked the doorway and wouldn't move until I agreed to go back to her.

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1 y

I can't just end the relationship with a text, that would be pretty harsh after years being together. How should I end it when she won't let me go?

[WonderBell99]

This should not even be up for debate; you need to break up with that psycho and file a restraining order. Next time she is physically or verbally abusive, document it. By any means, do NOT hit her back. She could claim that you were abusive, and all sorts of drama and you do not want to end up in jail over this toxic girlfriend of yours. She is toxic and bad for you on so many levels. You don't live with her, right? If you do, crash at someone else's place for a few days and start looking at assault charges. Go to the cops, you need legal support.

Block her from everywhere, even change your number if you have to. Just get away from this girl before she ruins your life.

[Biancam13]

Dump her, turn off your location on social media so she can't find you, go and stay at a loved one's place that she doesn't know the location of. Block her everywhere. This can't go on.

Don't hit her back (even though you are well within your rights to) because you will be the one getting into trouble simply because you're the guy. Just tell her it's over. Be strong.

[God_of_Thunder]

Break up with her, and get a restraining order against her. Seriously.

Do NOT hit her back, ever! The reason being is that she can/will immediately run to the police, claiming abuse, and you WILL go to jail. The law is not on your side, in this case.

That's why you need to remove yourself from this situation, because she can & will ruin your life. The restraining order will not only prevent her from stalking you, but it will also protect you, legally, by showing that she has been abusive.

[MiamiMadness]

Never hit a female broski you seriously can’t ghost her? Try harder, she’s obviously toxic asf

[Vesuvius87]

You don't have to scoop down to her level. Otherwise you would be involved in a toxic relationship.

She should be your ex girlfriend immediately and even file assault charges. You need to leave an abusive person.

[Vesuvius87]

File a restraining order too

[Vesuvius87]

In regards to your update you still need to break up and immediately file a restraining order against her. It's not your job to help her. She needs therapy and that's up to professionals, not you. Do report her next time she gets physical on you. In fact, not allowing you to exit is called false imprisonment; she can get charged for that too.

[Asker]

Thank you @vesuvius87. Sounds like good advice, I will follow that. I don't want bad things to happen to her, but unfortunately I'm left with no choice atp.

[Anonymous]

You need to spank her bare.. not sexually but it works. My ex did it to me when I got angry and I hit him he would throw my arm across his over his lap and pull up my skirt, take my panties down and spank me till I cry.

You will get closer too. Cause if the woman doesn't respect you it doesn't work.

[likelyOK]

She is really abusive leave her and seek help

[whereismyjohnny]

Break up with her and file assault charges and a restraining order.

[worldscolide]

Drop the bitch. It will never get better and that's because women NEVER face consequences for their actions.

[Lucifer_666]

You shouldn’t hit her back. What you should do is leave her and don’t let her manipulate you. You can call the police if she stalks you.

[AsaKyo]

That's abuse
Break up with her and get the law involved

[Hannajenky]

That is physical abuse / assault. You need to talk to her about it before it escalates

[Izzy_3991]

Run. Run away and never look back

[tzdc21]

Well this time when you break up, call the police.

[Anonymous]

Did you alert the authorities? Start now.

[Anonymous]

Stay with that crazy bitch and have fun.

[Opinion Owner]

She physically assaults you and abuses you, and you're worried about breaking up with her over text? Why do you hate yourself so much?

[Blackcupcake]

break up with her