UseWe've been together for 3 years, dearly love each other. We've been through a lot. Also, on long distance, because I had to finish uni. Now i am planning to move to his country, but things are not that easy now. For the first 1.5 years we were very attracted to each other physically, at least, it felt like it. We never questioned it. Unfortunately, pandemic came between us and we could not see each other for a year, and I think it had a large role in our physical attraction. He started to question if he ever was attracted to me. It should be said - I was not the most in shape, depressed, really not neat when I met him and we started relationship. But I worked on myself a lot and improved, which he seemed happy about. But several months ago he told me he is not sure if he ever was physically attracted to me, because he never had a chance to see the 'in shape's me, due to pandemic. Then I worked/studied hard and forgot my health, gained weight. So his thoughts appeared again. He started to doubt if he wanted to have sex with me, and he tried to force it everytime when we met. He told me, and we were both crying hearing that. He says he loves me and am perfect for him, except for this factor. He feels happy with me, but is not sure if he wants to go without physical attraction for too long. We don't know what to do. I lost weight again, exercise, ear well, try to take care of myself, but he's still anxious. I don't know... I love him, he's not the perfect type for me physically either, but I love him beyond this. And he says he does too, but he wants us to be very physically compatible otherwise he won't be fully happy. We're thinking maybe moving in together in 2 months will help us to decide things and work on things better, but what can we do during these 2 months before I finish my uni? Do you think couples therapy is worth it? Has anyone had the same problem and overcame it with their beloved? i love him, we can't lose what we have because one sad issue
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