When it comes to dating, relationship and even sex are we at the mercy of men? (Page 2)

Anonymous · 2022-11-03T18:13:47Z

The court system and strict modern society in the western world was created for a reason. That's are just recently changes but even so, I feel like men are really the architects of who to ask out, where do things progress and when it's time to be ready to form a family meanwhile all we do is decide and give him a yes or no answer. He had already opened his gate when we are to give him answer. However, in our countries in the world, women over there are suffering and at the mercy of men. I'm talking about the Middle East or other places. - Men still get to ask women on a date and all we do is decide. They're the hunters still. - Men are the first ones to lead on and make sexual moves and we have to give him an answer, to either reciprocate or tell him ''No, I'm not ready''. If there is a horrible man (luckily few but still) that really lacks morals and can't take no for an answer, he'll rape her and she's powerless against brute force, against having sex against her will. So much for ''women are the gatekeepers of sex''... well not if she got raped. Even worse, she gets raped and has to carry the rapist's child. - Men get to be the one asking the woman ''Do you want to be my girlfriend'' and once all we do is give him an answer. - Lastly since even the old times, men were the ones (still are and always will be) deciding where to girlfriend zone you forever or propose. If he gives bs excuses, he doesn't want her and is only keeping her as a girlfriend he can have a great time with. Once he proposed, all we have to do is give him an answer. We're at his mercy if he wastes our fertile years or is kind enough to place our desires to form a family (knows we have limited time to have kids) on top of his sexual needs first. Overall, that's all we do. Men are still the ones doing the offering and all we do is give him an answer (yes or no). I guess we're at his mercy.

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genericname85 Follow
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who says you can't just go and get what you want? nobody is forced to sit and wait around to finally be able to choose the right one. that's self imposed.

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Jamie05rhs Follow
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It is this way because you want it to be this way. You demand for us to lead, and you refuse to take any initiative.

I don't make the rules, lady. 🤷

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Anonymous
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And what makes you think women can't do the same? E. g. asking us out?
You're sounding like one of those, who are sitting back, doing nothing and hope a man will fall from the sky right on your Lap.

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Anonymous
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In the west, women have control of dating and sex, men control access to heterosexual marriage, given current legal situation that is biased in favour of women is it any wonder that the marriage rate has dropped precipitously.

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  Hence why waiting till marriage is the only option for women. That's the only way the women don't waste their fertile years. Sex is free and unlimited. There is always time for that; just like eating chocolate. There is limited time to commit and have a family.
  
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When it comes to dating, Men are at the Mercy of Women.
It is just that a lot of Women don't realise this.

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  How so? More women are sacrificing and wasting all their best years (the fertile years) into just living in with a boyfriend, believing in ''the moon and the stars, oh my love'' and thinking they got everything, not realizing the man is having it all for free without commitment. Then by the time those women leave the dead-end relationship, they're already in their very late 20's or early 30's.
  
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- Shy_Steve
  
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  Yes, But that's not happening to the entire Male population is it, That's most likely not even happening to 60% of Men.
  
  Its probably only happening to the top 15 to 20% men, Probably not even that.
  
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WhiteBoyChill Follow
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I don’t understand the question. The fact that women can consciously decide whether or not to do something with a man suggests they do hold some power

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  And in regards to the whole rapist thing being a woman doesn’t automatically mean you lose and can’t defend yourself. There are plenty of tools you can use to make up the difference
  
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Heolurt Follow
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Aside from the part about rape I pretty much think you've got the genders in reverse.

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  How so? More women have been sacrificing the majority of their fertile years for sex, for so called ''bfs'' who won't commit. Sex is unlimited. Meanwhile we have a limited time to have kids. We can't be your childless girlfriend forever.
  
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- Heolurt
  
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  Yes but that is their choice because as you even stated they are the ones who say yes or no and females have all the choice, guys only choose who to ask out, every choice after that is the females. Females are also the ones creating fuckboys because other guys are seeing that girls only ever choose fuckboys so might as well join them to get chosen. Sex is limited, very limited, females need to control themselves and take back their power over sex, don't sleep with a guy until you are in a committed relationship, don't just give it up after one or so dates. Become the hunter if you're tired of waiting for the right guy, stop just going for hot guys with silver spoons in their mouths. Choose guys you normally wouldn't choose because guaranteed those are the guys you "claim" to want but always pick against because they aren't rich enough or good looking enough...
  
  You know what, I'm gonna hear a lot about telling a female to lower her standards, so ignore everything I said and just keep picking the guys you claim not to want and keep generalizing males because that's the only thing that works.
  
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captain_voidwalker Follow
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A wise man once said women are the gate keepers of sex but men are the gate keepers of commitment.

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  That's why I'm waiting till marriage. Sex should be the last thing he gets. Instead of sacrificing my fertile years into cohabitation, he'll have to sacrifice sex for commitment. That way, I'll have kids while I'm at my best years and not in my 30's.
  
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Ryfyle Follow
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So we should exterminate the Muslim Men then.

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  Nope but strict rules and regulations and fair rights to be passed in those countries too. The women there need it badly.
  
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- Ryfyle
  
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  SO oppress them with Western Cultural Imperialism?
  
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- Asker
  
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  Get them a better life without overdoing it.
  
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- Ryfyle
  
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  Thats the life they want. Unless you go full colonialism you won't change anything.
  
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Guy13 Follow
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This is good, right.

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Anonymous
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That's why no doubt the majority of people in the world who remain still single or have never dated by a certain age or decade seem to be male-dominated

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panamared1 Follow
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then be careful when you vote, and look to see which candidate might best change that, at any level

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Anonymous
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If you're a weak ass chick then yeah you might feel this why

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TheFlak38 Follow
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I love this sarcasm.

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  It's true. I don't mind asking men out and have done so. I just think we're at your mercy when it comes to not wasting our fertile years for just sex. We can't get back those wasted years while you guys can have unlimited sex till old age.
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You can ask a man on a date too

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  I know but not many women do it or at times she can get judged.
  
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- JohnK123
  
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  Well I’d hope a girl who likes me would ask me out lmao
  
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- dvc0006
  
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  WTF ! judged? are you kidding me? well you have mental problems to think like that. literally no one will and why would you care if anyone did?
  
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- dvc0006
  
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  this reply is to question asker, if she cares too much about her fertility window freeze your eggs then
  
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EaterPeter Follow
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No way

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Anonymous
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🤣🤣🤣

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