Girlfriend blaming me for cheating, am I trippin?

[domg_3]

my girlfriend of 4 years and i are both 18. I’m in AIT for the army and will be getting stationed the beginning of next year, so we have already spent some time apart and will be spending even more apart. Since I’m at school, I’m on a very busy schedule (basically busy 4 AM to 7 PM) but I get some chances to use my phone during that time and text her every chance I get. And call her once I’m able to. I just found out from someone she made out with another guy a few weeks ago. When I confronted her about it, she said I wasn’t making her happy anymore and that she wasn’t happy with our relationship. The separation has been really hard on her and I would always ask how she was doing and she’d never open up to me. All she has done is tell me how it was my choice to join the army and I knew the separation would affect our relationship and how she isn’t happy at the moment. Basically I’m just asking for advice because I’m young and don’t know what to do.

[inhua]

long distance relationships don't work unfortunately. for your situation, you might as well start fresh at your new stationed location and find some other girl there.

who knows? maybe you'll find a new girlfriend even better than your previous girlfriend and who's willing to go places with you should you get stationed to a new location.

[Guy13]

You guys be careful, breathe, and control your tongues as not to say anything that you can’t take back.

[irifebeck]

I think you should break up with her. You clearly both want different things and are doing different things. Long distance just doesn't work for everyone and that's okay.

[Dinklex3]

Dump her and move on. That's no excuse. She wasn't around you either.

You'll meet new/better people while you're in the army anyways.

[Anonymous]

You can't expect her to wait on you for all that time. It is just too damn unrealistic.

[domg_3]

I didn’t ask her to wait for me and she could just leave me, if she did that I would understand. What I don’t understand is her cheating and hiding it from me and then blaming me for her actions.

[dustybiker]

Sounds like it’s time to find someone new.

[In_Trance]

break up