Is it a universal rule that you shouldn’t have to ask for the bare minimum in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Calls, texts, conversation, quality time, respect, stuff that’s important should always be given in a romantic relationship. Every relationship is different and certain factors can be challenging (like long distance, finances, or even a disability). But the bare minimum should always be given right? If you need to ask for your basic needs, is the relationship worth it?

[kylee2437]

Ehhhh communication is key. What you think is bare minimum may not be bare minimum to someone else. You may think a text is bare minimum meanwhile another woman may desire a phone call once a day as her bare minimum. Expecting a person to know what you want is unrealistic and in my opinion saying “you shouldn’t have to ask” is you avoiding communication that needs to be done

[watercolor_lions]

I wish I'd realized this when I was younger: there are certain thing to EXPECT in a relationship.

Respect is one of them
So is carrying personal responsibility (saying when you're wrong)
And no type of abuse whatsoever

If I'd known this, I could have saved myself a LOT of time...

[Guy13]

Exactly as this is “good behavior and tip of the iceberg” Time. What see now x 3 once a guy is secure. It’s how it snd we are. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Adam1978]

What bare minimum is differs from person to person, ie how often do you expect contact and meetups etc. Not the existance of them.

[melanieeeB]

Of course you shouldn't have to ask to be respected!
And yes if he isn't even giving you the bare minimum, you should leave his ass. And also leave if he might give you just the bare minimum, that's just not enough.

[TacosRAwesome]

I think every person has a different bare minimum and they should specify what that is. If by bare minimum you mean care and respect then you shouldn't ask for that.

[bamesjond0069]

I mean people today don't even think they need to be sexually exclusive in a relationship, so no, you do need to say what you expect the bare minimum is.

[Anonymous]

No. But you do HAVE TO communicate your needs. If you're to stubborn to do that effectively then you reap what you so if you find yourself getting what you feel is the bare minimum.

[Agape93]

Yeap

[Anonymous]

yeah but sometimes it's not always given